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Teknontheou
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"And another one: Toure 2017 sex. harrass. claim revealed"


  

          

https://www.essence.com/news/journalist-toure-accused-of-workplace-sexual-harassment/


Journalist Touré Accused Of Workplace Sexual Harassment

A make-up artist accused Touré of sexual harassment in 2017, shortly before he was subsequently fired by Time Inc.
YESHA CALLAHAN Jan, 10, 2019
Update: January 10, 2019 1:44 p.m. PST:

Toure´has issued a response through his rep:

“On the show, our team, including myself, engaged in edgy, crass banter, that at the time I did not think was offensive for our tight-knit group. I am sorry for my language and for making her feel uncomfortable in any way. As a lead on the show, I should have refrained from this behavior. I have learned and grown from this experience.”



Earlier:

Since the premiere of dream hampton’s Lifetime documentary Surviving R. Kelly, many celebrities have come out to denounce the R&B singer. The documentary was a long-awaited vehicle for young women who’ve allegedly been abused by Kelly to tell their stories. And it also included commentary from those who’ve covered the allegations against the singer over the last decade.

One of the commentators included in the documentary was journalist Touré Neblett, who most commonly goes by his first name. Touré, a music journalist, is quite familiar with the allegations Kelly has faced throughout his career. In 2008, Touré interviewed R. Kelly for BET, and as seen in the documentary, he didn’t get the answers he was looking for when it came to the musician’s “like” of teenage, particularly underage, girls

Earlier this week, Touré appeared on the Mouse Jones podcast to once again discuss Kelly.

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In the post, a comment that was left on the the show’s now-deleted Instagram post advertising the episode Touré appeared on, caught the eye of social media:



In the post, a make-up artist, who goes by the name ‘Dani,’ alleged that Touré sexually harassed her while she worked with him on a show, saying, “He couldn’t stop asking me to do anal, how I looked naked, if I had sex over the weekend, what it would be like to f–k me.”

Dani then states that she would make sure to have crew members in the room with her while she got him ready for the People/Entertainment Weekly show. Eventually, Dani quit but allegedly reported Touré to human resources and according to her account, he was immediately fired.

In an exclusive interview with ESSENCE, Dani shared additional details about her experience with Touré.

“I worked with him most of 2017, I left in October, before he got fired,” she claimed. “When I reported it to Time Inc. they terminated him that day.”

Dani claimed to have been sent an apology via Instagram from Touré, which she shared with ESSENCE. As to what made Dani report Touré to his employer after she quit? She said it was because he was doing media appearances talking about Harvey Weinstein and his allegations of sexual misconduct.

“He went on Hot97 to talk about Harvey Weinstein (after he apologized). I accepted his apology and was ok to move on but, you can’t be a sexual predator and go around shaming other predators,” she said.

Dani said she shared her story on Instagram because she saw Touré on Surviving R. Kelly and the media appearances he was making.

“When I saw him going around as R. Kelly’s docuseries spokesman to different radio stations, the lies had to stop. I’ve worked with Mouse Jones before and wanted him to know the truth,” she said.

Below are screenshots of the apology allegedly made by Touré in November 2017:





When it comes to living in the #MeToo era, stories have been surfacing about various men and their toxic behavior in and out of the workplace. From Harvey Weinstein, Bill Cosby, Louis C.K., and the countless other men in entertainment, sexual harassment is a much talked about topic more than any point in our history. But in the Black community, there still seems to be a cloud of disbelief when a victim comes forward, as we saw during some of the commentary surrounding Surviving R. Kelly.

It takes courage for women and men to admit that they’ve either been sexually assaulted or harassed, and it’s not something that should easily be brushed under the rug. Perpetrators of toxic and abusive behavior should be held accountable for their actions, and understand how their actions have impacted others. Apologies are a start, but what is also needed is a dedicated focus on behavior change and healing to ensure there is no part of our society where this is ever accepted as normal.

ESSENCE has reached out to Time Inc., which issued a statement saying they do not discuss personnel matters, but stated Touré is no longer employed at the company. A rep for Touré has yet to comment.

  

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welp.
Jan 10th 2019
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he was doing good until that last part
Jan 10th 2019
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      BUT OF COURSE HE HAD TO DO THAT
Jan 10th 2019
3
           Was a self involved asshole he is
Jan 10th 2019
14
See
Jan 10th 2019
4
He probably figured he had to do it because of the BET interview
Jan 10th 2019
5
LOL!
Jan 10th 2019
7
Beat me to it.
Jan 10th 2019
12
Right, you gotta be squeaky clean or someone gonna snipe you.
Jan 11th 2019
20
^^^^
Jan 11th 2019
22
(did anybody else think he was gay?)
Jan 10th 2019
6
I knew he at least had a wife and kids. Have known that for
Jan 10th 2019
8
oh ok i had no idea.
Jan 10th 2019
9
Naw. No idea why, but I've always had the vibe that he LOVES pussy.
Jan 10th 2019
15
*raises hand*
Jan 11th 2019
18
Also raises hand.
Jan 11th 2019
21
Nah. He seems like the type to be with a cute Asian woman
Jan 12th 2019
38
Another answer for why celebs didn't ride against R. Kelly
Jan 10th 2019
10
The Kang admitted before that lame doc.Now the haters will pay
Jan 10th 2019
11
Survived the lies. Steppin shoes back on. The haters are falling
Jan 10th 2019
13
Stop trying to be mistermaxxx
Jan 11th 2019
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If I didn't know better, I'd think this is pervasive in society
Jan 11th 2019
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we can close the thread now
Jan 11th 2019
27
i have a few thoughts
Jan 11th 2019
19
There were alot of Kevin Powell is trash posts on here back in
Jan 11th 2019
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      yeah I remember that too.
Jan 12th 2019
40
and here i thought we get a little out there in my workplace w/ the bant...
Jan 11th 2019
23
Dude was trippin’
Jan 11th 2019
24
How you gonna harass the woman doing your makeup?
Jan 11th 2019
28
There is always that one dude who takes the risque work talk TOO FAR
Jan 11th 2019
30
      Usually the same dude who gets touchy at company parties
Jan 11th 2019
31
           Type of dude asking for hugs around the workplace
Jan 11th 2019
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                Type of dude that can't just enjoy the fit of a fit from afar without ya...
Jan 11th 2019
34
*lips sealed*
Jan 11th 2019
25
If this means I don’t have to see him in another Prince documentary...
Jan 11th 2019
29
My man was getting super self-righteous on FB in a #metoo discussion
Jan 11th 2019
33
Maybe cynical, but the best way might be as a fellow victim.
Jan 11th 2019
35
How about just being self-critical and honest? sheesh
Jan 12th 2019
39
have y'all tried not being shitheads?
Jan 12th 2019
37
Mouse Jones interview with accuser
Jan 11th 2019
36

JiggysMyDayJob
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1. "welp. "
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That was one heck of an exchange between the two of them and then at the end, he's asking her to not talk bad about him. FOH

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2. "he was doing good until that last part"
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because that sounded like some wild shit.

  

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3. "BUT OF COURSE HE HAD TO DO THAT"
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BECAUSE HE'S A PIECE OF SHIT

if he had *only* apologized, then at least he would have apologized, but of course it was all about him

www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

  

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14. "Was a self involved asshole he is"
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Like you did this terrible shit to this woman and at the end of apologizing you ask she doesn’t talk about it. Like man take a look at yourself.

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4. "See"
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The real reason celebs didn't hop on board to appear in the doc.

  

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5. "He probably figured he had to do it because of the BET interview"
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Declining to appear in the documentary would look super suspect.

  

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7. "LOL!"
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Yeah.

  

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20. "Right, you gotta be squeaky clean or someone gonna snipe you. "
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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22. "^^^^"
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6. "(did anybody else think he was gay?)"
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8. "I knew he at least had a wife and kids. Have known that for "
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years.

I saw him with his son/daughter (couldn't tell if the kid was a boy or girl) in a wing spot in Carroll Gardens like five years ago.

  

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9. "oh ok i had no idea."
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15. "Naw. No idea why, but I've always had the vibe that he LOVES pussy."
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18. "*raises hand*"
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<--- Big Baller World Order

  

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21. "Also raises hand. "
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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38. "Nah. He seems like the type to be with a cute Asian woman "
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10. "Another answer for why celebs didn't ride against R. Kelly"
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Can't be throwing rocks in that glass house.

http://board.okayplayer.com/okp.php?az=show_topic&forum=4&topic_id=13304530&mesg_id=13304530&page=#13304590

  

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11. "The Kang admitted before that lame doc.Now the haters will pay"
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#survivinglies

“You better be carful what you say to me cuz it might turn around on you”

-Kang

  

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13. "Survived the lies. Steppin shoes back on. The haters are falling"
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Toure is first to get his head chopped off by the Kang.

Next up John Nonlegend that ole cocktail lounge act. The Kang gonna pull the pied pipe out to end his career

  

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17. "If I didn't know better, I'd think this is pervasive in society"
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19. "i have a few thoughts"
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people who have behaved badly around sexual harrassment etc are EXACTLY the people who should be going hardest against sexual predators. It should be on some "i used to be fucked up like this and i wanna make sure no one else has to suffer"...so i disagree with her on that

so Toure royally fucked up by not being that guy that's like, hey i never raped anyone but there was a time when i made a woman uncomfortable with my behaviour,etc...

If he'd been open and sincere about it, I doubt he'd be getting dragged right now...because as far as I'm concerned, the matter itself is settled. He did the thing and faced a consequence for it...he was fired...AND he apologize (albeit, fully in his ego)

So all of this is his own fault for not getting ahead of it and owning up BEFORE being called out.

the one person I've seen over the years who's done a really successful "mea culpa" is Kevin Powell. he's openly talked about hitting women when he was younger, how much he regrets it, what he's learned from it...and has been an outspoken advocate for ending domestic violence...therefore, you don't see the woman/women he's harmed feeling any need to drag him publicly about it.

Toure should have learned from that example.

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26. "There were alot of Kevin Powell is trash posts on here back in "
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the day. thrill used to go in on him big time.

  

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40. "yeah I remember that too."
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I always respected his willingness to self-criticize and work toward better behaviours

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23. "and here i thought we get a little out there in my workplace w/ the bant..."
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how you gonna ask a woman if she had sex over the weekend or just ask them to do anal smh.

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24. "Dude was trippin’"
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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28. "How you gonna harass the woman doing your makeup?"
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No wonder he looks like the black version of Doc from Back to the Future

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30. "There is always that one dude who takes the risque work talk TOO FAR"
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Like it is all fun and games and everyone is laughing and dude drops some crazy talk and everyone cringes and goes back to work.


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31. "Usually the same dude who gets touchy at company parties"
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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32. "Type of dude asking for hugs around the workplace"
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Hey girl where my hug at?!

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34. "Type of dude that can't just enjoy the fit of a fit from afar without ya..."
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about it and making things *awkward*


"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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PAUSE

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29. "If this means I don’t have to see him in another Prince documentary..."
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good.
No one needs to hear his *playing basketball with Prince* story ever again.

  

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33. "My man was getting super self-righteous on FB in a #metoo discussion"
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Fri Jan-11-19 02:09 PM by Buddy_Gilapagos

  

          

Casting a wide net against dudes and saying he can proudly say he has never disrespected a woman or something like that.

I had to catch him on the phone like, "dude remember that one story you told me?"

He was like

https://img.buzzfeed.com/buzzfeed-static/static/2015-04/8/20/enhanced/webdr10/anigif_enhanced-9176-1428539383-10.gif

I have been thinking about the right way to be a public advocate without being a hypocrite AND not invite people to start digging (which I think happens when you open with "I've done things that I regret and am not proud of")

IDK.

Anyway, if anyone is still reading I have to admit I kinda remember 15 stories from back in the day? SOmething about talking about porn alot? that sound familiar? Correct me if I am wrong.


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35. "Maybe cynical, but the best way might be as a fellow victim."
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I'm seeing Terry Crews's name thrown around as "one of the good ones" because of his own #metoo story. Because of that, he's sort of "allowed" to be a public, vocal male advocate without inviting any digging up of his past or suspicion of his motives.

The other option is to be an advocate, but not be too vocal or too forceful. Staying in your lane, so to speak. Speak when called on, say what's important to say and no more.

Actually, there's another option - only speak loudly if you're sure you have nothing suspect in your past at all. Nothing in real life, no old social media stuff, nothing borderline, nothing you'd have to address at all - nothing.

  

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Damali
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39. "How about just being self-critical and honest? sheesh"
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its amazing how hard it is for men to just be like,

IVE BEEN SOCIALIZED TO BEHAVE IN TOXIC WAYS TOWARD WOMEN AND I'M ACTIVELY EXAMINING MY OWN PAST BEHAVIOURS WHILE WANTING TO BE A VOICE FOR THAT CHANGE IN ALL OF US IN SOCIETY, AND I'M SURE I'VE DONE SHIT THAT HURT WOMEN AND INVITE ANYONE I'VE HURT TO TALK ABOUT IT SO I CAN LEARN FROM IT AND DO BETTER.

Like that would end 99.9% of the public blowback ya'll are afraid of

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37. "have y'all tried not being shitheads?"
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www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

  

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36. "Mouse Jones interview with accuser"
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Fyp3VJmrkFY

  

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