My sister and I are beefing over our mother...

this is horrible.

and its just getting started

Or find that family member who can broker peace.

My wife acts as our couples therapist and moderator for my beefs with my brother.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

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So give us her location, and we'll all mobb through and beat her with whiffle ball bats.

By the time we're done, she'll be apologizing to you for having to expend the energy it took to put the hit out 😁.

😁😁😁😁

like literally
i have not talked to one of my sisters in about 6 years
not because of beef....i literally called 6 years ago...she said she was busy let me call you back
it was about the 5th time she did that
she never called back
never called her
meh

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Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

i dont know the details but i hope the disagreement is at least coming from a good place. might need to step back and give each other a little room to breathe. compromise if possible.

i dont like seeing my brother and sister argue in group texts.

heres hoping for the best.

Since she came home earlier this summer from her freshman year, we just ain't been the same. I created the monster and gotta break it down to its essence while also understanding that some of it is because she's growing into adulthood.

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I pray that whatever it is between you and your sister is resolved in the best way possible.

--- praying for peace, love, and power

What are y’all having issues with? Money? Independence?

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"Music is not to be possessed; it's to be shared.” - James Mtume

"Just stay loose, keep it raw, and bang ya drums out sometimes." - Madlib

of her own shots) as long as I’m her primary benefactor.

There are some things she’s able to run especially while she’s on campus. Running my schedule and my pockets aren’t included in that.

--- praying for peace, love, and power

But I suspect that's because our parents are gone, we're all pretty stable in our respective careers, and we all live very separate lives.

Some combination of us come together on major holidays, and then we all go our separate ways. We're able to kick it because we have nothing to be in conflict over.

It definitely wasn't like that when we lived under the same roof...we fought like cats and dogs.

At the funeral home they commented how siblings fight and were surprised how we handled everything. We just put our trust in the oldest sibling.

M wife and her sister tho? Sibling rivalry. I hate it.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I hope and trust you guys will get it sorted.

with my cousin who cheated on his wife and blamed her. told me that she wasn't sexing him so he stepped out. problem is everything he told me about it was as lie. I already knew most of the story from other sources and nothing he said match anything. he's kinda trife in general.

he's always got multiple jobs. that's is ruse to not be home. you aint working that much, bruh.

my real issue with him is that he's never been really close to his children. he's got a daughter in college, damn near in spite of him. he also has a 4-5 yr old son. from what I'm hearing, he really doesn't hang with that child much either.

the daughter has always pined for him and wanted to please him. now she sees him for what he has always been. heartbreaking to witness.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

He asked my dad a hypothetical about cheating and my dad was like “I’m the wrong nigga to ask, but I already know you did it... it won’t end well”

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Hope everything works out for the best.

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I hope you live a life you’re proud of. If you find that you’re not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.

— F. Scott Fitzgerald

my mom lives with her in FL and is sick (dialysis, etc)..we don't agree about how to "help" her. there's so many layers to it but I think my sister is verbally and emotionally abusive to my mom in her weakened state, and she's like, well you don't know what its like to have to deal with taking care of her cuz you're in NJ

I'm like yall chose to move to Fl and to live together...just be kind and compassionate to her, sheesh

again there's so much more to the story but yeah

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my sister moved out to houston with my mom and dad. moms was taking care of pops mostly. sister was supporting them.

brothers complaints with my sister were the same as yours are with your sister.

my dad was always difficult, i think after almost a decade on dialysis he softened up before leaving us. mom took on most of that stress.

tough situation no doubt.


i say youre not wrong for wanting your sister to be nicer but shes right that being in the thick of it changes perspective.

im forever thankful that my sister was taking care of them during this. makes it hard for me to criticize her because i dont really know how i would be if i had taken them in.

He would be so mean to folks trying to keep him alive.

We recently went home to see fam for Thanksgiving. My wife’s grandmother called and begged us bring the kids to see her. As soon as we got there she insulted my wife. She calls everyone fat even if they are regular size.

One time I went home to see my dad and he was asleep. Dude woke up and said “damn you getting fat” and went back to sleep. I ain’t even fat...lol.

I guess it’s part of growing old. You just say mean shit.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

my dads temper was nothing to do with age. maybe a bit of a grudge for my grandpa forcing him to drop out i think in 8th grade to start working.

my dad was mean always and drinking did not help. he was usually only nice to me, so i have some sort of guilt about that.

he got nicer in his last couple of years. i think my niece being born was a big part of that.

i think my dad was still mad at all of us for saving his life. dude was weeks if not days away of going because he refused to go to a dr to find out why he was swelling up and not holding down anything. we forced him to go to the ER, next day hes on dialysis with basically complete failure of both kidneys. he did not want to go to the dr and was still mad even after they told him what was up. i think it wasnt until like 5 years later where he was like okay i did need to go to the dr.

his temper had definitely cooled. you could see it try to peek out in some moments but as a whole he had chilled.

that phonte album hit me hard because of this.

A "B*tch and moan/Complain" Card. They say whatev...



>I guess it’s part of growing old. You just say mean shit.

It takes all kinds to make up a world, son. -My pops

I just live for the comments -Da wiz

there isn't a thing my mom could say to me that would make me treat her any less than human in her state of suffering.

we both know my mom very well. she's no angel...but the mature thing to do is rise above that and let the damn woman have some peace / joy in these last years of her life

again, maturing and "rising above" are things my sister has never been good at. She's the Queen of holding grudges (by her own admission) and resents mom for past shit

meanwhile my mom has been fowl as fuck to me too, but when i hear her tell me how no one hugs her anymore, it breaks my heart.

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i think this post gave some good insight into whats happening. i agree with you that she should be hugged and showed love. doesnt matter how she may have treated yall before.

you have to be the best that you can be and not come down due to others.

i hope you ladies can find some peace.

They fight all the time.

granny is mean af too.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

get need our help. for all intents and purposes, both my wife and I are only children. my dad passed a years ago, but he wasn't involved in my life. wife's dad is alive, but he aint around.

its gonna suck taking care of them and relying on each other even more. good thing is everybody is in ATL or surrounding. not looking forward to it at all.

Y'all buy those labels, I was born supreme

It was horrible going thru it with my parents but I was glad to have my wife at my side.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*