"A couple I know is about to split up and it makes me sad"
Long story short she is a bit overbearing and condescending. He got tired of it and started putting his foot down. She doesn’t like that. Problem is he didn’t put his foot down. He started doing things behind her back like opening a hidden bank account and shit. I have no issue with him finally growing balls. But if you are going to do that then do it boldly. I feel bad for them because they have been through so much together and this is the time things should be getting better not worse. He is terrible at hiding things and now he is being made to look like the bad guy for being sneaky. I’m sure he wanted to take back some control of his life but he chose to hide it instead of just facing it head on. I hope they make it. I really do. ☹️ ... "A Beautiful Struggle" https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock Www.reverbnation.com/jamela
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Tue Jul-10-18 07:59 AM
5. "I bet she has 2 secret accounts" In response to Reply # 0
women are funny like that
They always have a stash but if dude gets one it's a problem
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
8. "I don't blame him. Once you stare into the abyss of unreason..." In response to Reply # 0 Tue Jul-10-18 09:16 AM by flipnile
You realize the only way to win is not to play the game. Better option in the long run for him might be to find a woman that respects him, than try to change the mind of someone that doesn't. Getting his own account means he's probably thinking about bouncing.
11. "Yep. Ain't no sense in tryna change someone who...." In response to Reply # 8
...doesn't see the error in their ways.
If you check the person on their fuckery/breach your grievance, and they on some, "fuck is you gon do about it?" steez....its time to ghost. Straight up!
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
I don't care if he 'snuck' his shit, and he shouldn't either. She aint gon suddenly start respecting him, this been a bad mix from jump street. Congrats to em BOTH.
12. "Is there any way to gain respect after it's been lost?" In response to Reply # 10
Like no matter what you do, she's always gonna hold it against you? Kinda like cheating Dude could beg cry plead be husband of the year forever but she's always gonna have it in the back of her mind and bring it up at the first opportunity when they argue
15. "I don't think there is, short of going off and reinventing yourself" In response to Reply # 12
>Is there any way to gain respect after it's been lost?
Not for a dude, at least. Only way for us to change the set mind of a lady seems to be moving up several levels in life, but then after doing all that level-jumping what dude is going to want to go back to what was a bad relationship?
16. "The respect can be regained but its a hassle..." In response to Reply # 12
...because you can end up justifiably resenting the person whom you are demanding the respect from merely by virtue of having to demand something that should be mutually reciprocated if we got blood, sweat, & tears in'nis bitch!
And that resentment is what got ol boy at WellsFargo on some, "Yes uhmm...what dat free checking account look like?"
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
This has always been my outlook. I'm not gonna hang around and be miserable forever. If we can't fix things, there's no reason to be unhappy just for the sake of sticking it out.
Edit: It's gonna be work every damned day. And the person you are today may not be the person you are in two, three, five, or 50 years.
Just get with someone who respects the process of your individual growth while you do the same.
Sorry dude and his wife are splitting. They will never know the fruits of the hard work they can put in for each other. Someone else may reap those benefits.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Thu Jul-12-18 12:48 PM
19. "no weapons against him shall prosper" In response to Reply # 18
she needs to fall the fuck back
that dude is too focused
prolly bought a tiny house too
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Thu Jul-12-18 02:45 PM
22. "these type of women are like bad villains in movies telling their plans" In response to Reply # 21
to the hero while he is tied up
I'm taking everything, the house, the car, etc..
nigga like.. "so first thing tomorrow I'm leasing a whip, then I gotta save up for this credit app for the apartment"
just giving a nigga the blueprint to leave comfortably
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Thu Jul-12-18 03:05 PM
24. "my boy had a friend who's wife left and took the ceiling fans" In response to Reply # 23
That's how you do it
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79607 posts
Thu Jul-12-18 05:57 PM
31. "Bruh, I fell the fuck out when he told me" In response to Reply # 25
She put in work.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African" Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!
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