Got out of a LTR and been out trying to learn how to be single for about 2 years now.

She sends me a snap and tells me that way. I'm beside myself honestly.

The crazy shit is I used a fucking condom every time I fucked her and she's really trying to convince me that it's mine. Like I never even had a raw dick anywhere near her. Math don't add up, i mean everything is just flat out some bullshit.

When I brought it up to her, she tells me "wearing a condom doesn't matter." Like wtf you don't know how condoms work?

I can't believe it's people out here that are this crazy. Like since I been out meeting people I dealt with some weirdos but this shit here is enough to make me stay in the house for real. We in our 30s.

I mean is it possible she poked holes in a condom that I brought over? I guess. But like wtf?

Shit is unseemly Unc.

These heffas scandalous nowadays, they will perpetrate some fuckery if they know you got money or might soon have some money lol

She in her 30s sending snaps? That should tell you everything you need to know. Immaturity at an all time high

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If life is stupendous one cannot also demand that it should be easy. - Robert Musil

If you use condoms perfectly every single time you have sex, they’re 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But people aren’t perfect, so in real life condoms are about 85% effective — that means about 15 out of 100 people who use condoms as their only birth control method will get pregnant each year.

The better you are about using condoms correctly every time you have sex, the better they’ll work. But there’s a small chance that you will get pregnant even if you always use them the right way.

https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/birth-control/condom/how-effective-are-condoms

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slim chance but dude, is her snap and reveal a total shock or typical operating procedure?

Women out here using snap chat to drop bombs?

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I was basically boo'd up in my 20s so the game changed by the time I was single. I got on Snap and all of these other SM sites cause that's what niggas is doing now apparently.

I'm pretty certain it ain't mine but if she ain't fighting for it to be.

You betta paternity-test da game up.

Don't tuck ya ballz and go out like a sucka, ..letcho nutz hang and tell Babydoll ya'll finna get a paternity test. If she a decent person, she'll oblige. If she a ain't-shit-bitch, she'll refuse.

That will tell you everything you need ta know.

Afterwards, move accordingly but yeah, in 2k18, we ain't falling for da banana inna tailpipe. Be thoro and diligent.

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

see #47.

________
"promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind"-cl

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME, make sure you're perfect.

"I'm hella Black, and irresponsibility ain't my culture. Yall niggas just gon have to own that as individuals"- Boo

and if you really think she's crazy and playing you, and you don't think it's yours don't give her anything for the kid until you have answers.

it sounds cruel as fuck but if you even ACTED like a dad at all, a court can make you the paternal parent even if it's not your biological child.

and I'm pretty certain she still be fucking around with one of her ex's.

But I just can't believe I gotta deal with this level of crazy

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

Any signs of craziness before this? I hope things work out. This girl I was seeing a few years ago tried to pull some shit like this on me. She seemed pretty normal and then all of a sudden went bonkers, scared the shit outta me. Thankfully everything turned out okay, I hope the same happens for you.

“So back we go to these questions — friendship, character… ethics.”

She be pressed but I mean I'm lovable so I can't blame her.

If it goes that far I'm 100% getting a test, but I'd never think in a million years I'd have to do some shit like this

>She be pressed but I mean I'm lovable so I can't blame her.


Slow down ^here tho, thas how you get caught slippin. Never allow your ego to shroud your vision. The hidden blade is the one that will cut you. Not because you ain't see it, but because your ego ain't *allow you to see it.

>If it goes that far I'm 100% getting a test, but I'd never
>think in a million years I'd have to do some shit like this


And thas precisely how ninjaz get got. Never under-estimate the
indirect manipulative-cunning of a woman. It is precisely due to the fact that they were not blessed with physical prowess that they have to resort to passive schemes to implement their will. If you don't know this, you shall soon find out through the harsh immediacy of experience.

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
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Look, I ain't gon' throw my ninja under da bus. He seem like a good dude so its like,...

...I see the shots you likkin', but I'm not gonna load my clip yet 'cus I hate to see a Brotha just flaccidly fold his hand like that.

Maybe his Uncles dem ain't give'eem da game. I can't judge but in tryna be my Brothaz keepa, I cant let my gun bussoff. I'm tryna HELP Sun!



GET DAT TEST, MY NINJA!

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

>Look, I ain't gon' throw my ninja under da bus. He seem like
>a good dude so its like,...
>
>...I see the shots you likkin', but I'm not gonna load my clip
>yet 'cus I hate to see a Brotha just flaccidly fold his hand
>like that.
>
>Maybe his Uncles dem ain't give'eem da game. I can't judge
>but in tryna be my Brothaz keepa, I cant let my gun bussoff.
>I'm tryna HELP Sun!
>
>
>
>GET DAT TEST, MY NINJA!
>
>
>
>
>

I know she on some bullshit. Clearly she on some bullshit

This post is just the shock of having to deal with this bullshit at 30+.

He meant well, Duke....


Stall'eem out!

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

>I know she on some bullshit. Clearly she on some bullshit
>
>This post is just the shock of having to deal with this
>bullshit at 30+.


ok cause at first it seemed like you felt hung up on the line but I get you

wait or kicking out that $250

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Coolin...

You know that you can’t rely on what some woman you are casually humping to tell you the truth.

Tell her that you need to get tested to prove paternity. In addition, you may want to have legal counsel on speed dial and or get some advice on what you can do to protect yourself just in case this person decides to put some paperwork on you.

Lastly, her cooperating with you about the test should be your moment of truth from her.

>Lastly, her cooperating with you about the test should be your
>moment of truth from her.


^ ^ ^ReaLest shit you eva wrote!

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

Hopefully, things will work out for him.

( just trying to have a civil discourse )

i was going to ask mr. mcgraw... but i'll ask you.

if said person reacts or doesnt react accordingly to the request of a paternity test, does that make them a liar??

what is the level of expectation going forward from the person you are questioning?

hypothetical- a paternity test is 100% true - YOU ARE THE FATHER - how is the mother of your child suppose to interact with you going forward?

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"promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind"-cl

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME, make sure you're perfect.

"I'm hella Black, and irresponsibility ain't my culture. Yall niggas just gon have to own that as individuals"- Boo

and not nut tf up...if the guy acts in a considerate and responsible manner once it is proven that he is the father
they aren't married, it doesn't sound like they are in love nor exclusive, so her expectations regarding his reaction should be adjusted accordingly

yes her feelings will be hurt most likely
but that does not mean he should blindly go along with what she is selling
that's crazy talk...hopefully she won't take the opportunity to make his life miserable if it is his



>
>what is the level of expectation going forward from the person
>you are questioning?
>
>hypothetical- a paternity test is 100% true - YOU ARE THE
>FATHER - how is the mother of your child suppose to interact
>with you going forward?


Someone out there knows what happened to Mitrice Richardson

Its like dis,...

If Sun and Babydoll get the test, and its his? They mutually
devise a beneficial plan and move forward righteously.

If Sun and Babydoll get the test, and it *ain't his? They mutually
learn from the situation and move forward righteously.


It ain't much to it, but in 2k18, Jawns ain't pullin dis shit on ninjaz without verification. Fuck dat!

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
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>( just trying to have a civil discourse )
>
>i was going to ask mr. mcgraw... but i'll ask you.
>
>if said person reacts or doesnt react accordingly to the
>request of a paternity test, does that make them a liar??
>
>what is the level of expectation going forward from the person
>you are questioning?
>
>hypothetical- a paternity test is 100% true - YOU ARE THE
>FATHER - how is the mother of your child suppose to interact
>with you going forward?

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

if she is of virtue why is there a question??

________
"promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind"-cl

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME, make sure you're perfect.

"I'm hella Black, and irresponsibility ain't my culture. Yall niggas just gon have to own that as individuals"- Boo

For prenatal testing, or paternity testing while pregnant, there are a few options to choose from:

Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity (NIPP): A non-invasive prenatal paternity test is the most accurate non-invasive way to establish paternity before the baby is born. The process is state-of-the-art, combining the latest technology and proprietary methods of preserving and analyzing the baby’s DNA found naturally in the mother’s bloodstream. This test requires only a simple blood collection from the mother and alleged father and can be performed any time after the 8th week of pregnancy. The test is 99.9% accurate.
Amniocentesis: This test is performed in the second trimester, anywhere from the 14th-20th weeks of pregnancy. During this procedure, the doctor uses ultrasound to guide a thin needle into your uterus, through your abdomen. The needle draws out a small amount of amniotic fluid, which is tested. Risks include a small chance of harming the baby and miscarriage. Other side effects may include cramping, leaking of amniotic fluid, and vaginal bleeding. A doctor’s consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.
Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS): This test consists of a thin needle or tube which a doctor inserts from the vagina, through the cervix, guided by an ultrasound, to obtain chorionic villi. Chorionic villi are little finger-like pieces of tissue attached to the wall of the uterus. The chorionic villi and the fetus come from the same fertilized egg, and have the same genetic makeup. This testing can be done earlier in pregnancy from the 10th-13th weeks. A doctor’s consent is needed to do this procedure for paternity testing.

http://americanpregnancy.org/prenatal-testing/paternity-testing/

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

>For prenatal testing, or paternity testing while pregnant,
>there are a few options to choose from:
>
>Non-Invasive Prenatal Paternity (NIPP): A non-invasive
>prenatal paternity test is the most accurate non-invasive way
>to establish paternity before the baby is born. The process is
>state-of-the-art, combining the latest technology and
>proprietary methods of preserving and analyzing the baby’s
>DNA found naturally in the mother’s bloodstream. This test
>requires only a simple blood collection from the mother and
>alleged father and can be performed any time after the 8th
>week of pregnancy. The test is 99.9% accurate.
>Amniocentesis: This test is performed in the second trimester,
>anywhere from the 14th-20th weeks of pregnancy. During this
>procedure, the doctor uses ultrasound to guide a thin needle
>into your uterus, through your abdomen. The needle draws out a
>small amount of amniotic fluid, which is tested. Risks include
>a small chance of harming the baby and miscarriage. Other side
>effects may include cramping, leaking of amniotic fluid, and
>vaginal bleeding. A doctor’s consent is needed to do this
>procedure for paternity testing.
>Chorionic Villus Sampling (CVS): This test consists of a thin
>needle or tube which a doctor inserts from the vagina, through
>the cervix, guided by an ultrasound, to obtain chorionic
>villi. Chorionic villi are little finger-like pieces of tissue
>attached to the wall of the uterus. The chorionic villi and
>the fetus come from the same fertilized egg, and have the same
>genetic makeup. This testing can be done earlier in pregnancy
>from the 10th-13th weeks. A doctor’s consent is needed to do
>this procedure for paternity testing.
>
>http://americanpregnancy.org/prenatal-testing/paternity-testing/

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
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This test consists of a thin needle or tube which a doctor inserts from the vagina, through the cervix,

if you dont have a cervix ( and I DO ) you will never know.


btw, j/k with the fuck you. Im a ray if fucking love and sunshine and i should only wish peace and good health for you and yours.

________
"promise yourself to be so strong that nothing can disturb your peace of mind"-cl

BEFORE YOU JUDGE ME, make sure you're perfect.

"I'm hella Black, and irresponsibility ain't my culture. Yall niggas just gon have to own that as individuals"- Boo

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

>

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MEAT posted up info about paternity testing above. Work out and write down a timeline of encounters with her. Don't sign or agree to anything just yet. Consult an attorney if you think you need to. Be firm, but don't be a dick about it. Remember there is a child involved.

Shit just sounds shady-as-fuck, from what you've wrote. In my experience, condoms either work or fail dramatically.

You got a narrow window and you gotta play chill.
One lady who Id broken up with came to me talking about she was late
Yeah we'd been together. Yeah we'd used condoms.
But I told her we'll let's get the test. Came back positive. In that 21 year old moment I could've snapped on paternity and gone to "we used condoms", and I sure as shit didn't trust her, but I just asked what she was thinking she'd want to do.
Said she didn't want it.
So we hit that clinic up.
But that's a very narrow window, and men can get caught up dealing with too many things rather than the situation in front of them and find themselves fucked up.
My man here got a woman hitting him on the Snap about this. Yikes. Being in control aside, he's dealing with someone that's a little hinky and needs to toe a very careful line.
Or he's just Poasting.

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

My man here got a woman hitting him on the Snap about this.
>Yikes. Being in control aside, he's dealing with someone
>that's a little hinky and needs to toe a very careful line.

I wish I was just poasting. Shit is so ridiculous I figured I'd share it on here though.

dates don't match up, i was protected, and she still be fucking around with her exes low key?

I'd be fucking shocked

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"To Each His Reach"

but.....

Fuck aliens.

2 kids, hood as fuck but banging

I told her I was moving to ATL soon so don't get invested or bounce now if you don't want your feelings hurt.

she thought it over and gave it a go.

closer it got to my leave date the more hostile she got. Straight up cussed me out on the bus during rush hour on one of those extra long buses in the bus lane that made NO STOPS. I had to put on my headphones... she was still going in but it was all muted by Brand Nubian.

hour before my flight leaves I get a call. "I'M PREGNANT!!! WHAT YOU GONNA DO?"

GF in the background like yuuppp, I seen the test, she pregnant nigga!!!

My sister said "she ain't pregnant, that's not how you tell a man you are pregnant, GET ON THAT FLIGHT"

I told her I was getting on my flight and if she was really pregnant we would work it out and either she would move to ATL or I would move back. But I'm not gonna miss this flight.

days go by, I keep asking if she went to the doctor. weeks go by, ask if she went to the doctor. One night I called and she was drunk with a nigga watching a movie. "I AINT PREGNANT NIGGA! YOU FREE!!!"

bout 3 months later my nigga called me telling me she called him trying to link up (he was trying to get it before he got me a job at the call center and I swooped in and laid it down)

tl/dr.. she might be pregnat but it's prolly not yours. If she asked for that abortion money she prolly scamming.

Good luck. treat her with respect and keep it civil tho just in case.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

>tl/dr.. she might be pregnat but it's prolly not yours. If she
>asked for that abortion money she prolly scamming.
>
>Good luck. treat her with respect and keep it civil tho just
>in case.


Many a man with a puffed out chest has needed this advice

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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

Dis shit right here killt me:
"she was still going in but it was all muted by Brand Nubian. "

^ ^ ^ReaLest shit you eva wrote!



>2 kids, hood as fuck but banging
>
>I told her I was moving to ATL soon so don't get invested or
>bounce now if you don't want your feelings hurt.
>
>she thought it over and gave it a go.
>
>closer it got to my leave date the more hostile she got.
>Straight up cussed me out on the bus during rush hour on one
>of those extra long buses in the bus lane that made NO STOPS.
>I had to put on my headphones... she was still going in but it
>was all muted by Brand Nubian.
>
>hour before my flight leaves I get a call. "I'M PREGNANT!!!
>WHAT YOU GONNA DO?"
>
>GF in the background like yuuppp, I seen the test, she
>pregnant nigga!!!
>
>My sister said "she ain't pregnant, that's not how you tell a
>man you are pregnant, GET ON THAT FLIGHT"
>
>I told her I was getting on my flight and if she was really
>pregnant we would work it out and either she would move to ATL
>or I would move back. But I'm not gonna miss this flight.
>
>days go by, I keep asking if she went to the doctor. weeks go
>by, ask if she went to the doctor. One night I called and she
>was drunk with a nigga watching a movie. "I AINT PREGNANT
>NIGGA! YOU FREE!!!"
>
>bout 3 months later my nigga called me telling me she called
>him trying to link up (he was trying to get it before he got
>me a job at the call center and I swooped in and laid it
>down)
>
>tl/dr.. she might be pregnat but it's prolly not yours. If she
>asked for that abortion money she prolly scamming.
>
>Good luck. treat her with respect and keep it civil tho just
>in case.
>
>
>
>

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had to throw on the headphones and act like I didn't know her

imagine Rosie Perez cursing you out on mute while All For One is playing.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Its like, I know we on OKP...but I swear, I be KNOWIN yall ninjaz via the visuals created. Soon as you said Brand Nubian, I got da whole entire scene, Bruh. I'm dat ninja onna bus witchu and I got da African medallion around my neck wit da urban designer raincoat.

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"...Whateva, man..." (c) Redman

Might have to watch out for her cousin and all
get that test

she ain't pick up her phone all yesterday when I was tryna figure out what was what

cause she was too busy going back and forth with her ex on IG about fucking around with other niggas. that's his baby most likely. One of my homeboys sent the shit to me

she crazy and I'm too fucking old for this shit man

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

we kept in touch here and there after she quit. I never really sensed any crazy outside of the fact that she be pressed to see me all the time.

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Coolin...

Dis jawn tryna getchu for 20 years, Dun. You betta nip dat shit
inna bud, ninja.

She CAN'T be allowed to think dis shit is ok. Even if your name get cleared, there's STILL bidness to get handled so dat she know dis shit wont fly inna future. AKA make an example outta dis jawn.

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"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
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until I started miscarrying at like 12-13 weeks.

Which, statistically, is even less likely than getting pregnant while using condoms.

I went to an OBGYN scared because I was having this, like, never-ending period. But he measured my cervix and was like "Um...". I passed the actual fetus naturally soon afterwards.

The whole experience still haunts me to this day. But one thing that I can be thankful for is that, even with everything else I/he was feeling as a result of the scare, at least the guy I was involved with at the time didn't flip out with all of this paternity-testing stuff.

I get the apprehension among men, because it IS fact that paternity is mis-assigned approx. 30% of the time, which is just.. unthinkable. And super unfortunate. We as women should educate ourselves on this issue so we understand it.

But, I also think we don't know enough about your relationship with this girl, or the two of you as people, to adequately assess the dynamics here.

For (a lot of) women, though, pregnancy (or its termination) is not just a physical state.. it's also a profoundly emotional experience. Even when the pregnancy is not wanted. So if you ARE set on confirming paternity, please dig deep into whatever EQ you have and try to win her cooperation in the most reasonable and empathetic way possible. Pregnancy's just a very sensitive time for all involved, including the (unborn) child.

there are women in my family who I found out had them at teens and they are still going through it in their 50's...

more of the "what if, did I make a mistake, regret"

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

ugh.
ugh.
ugh.


On one hand, that shit was incredibly traumatic for both of us. I don't think we ever fully recovered from that mess and we eventually broke up....shit, now that I think about it, she was mourning the loss the whole time and it came out in really bad ways - lots of drinking and anxiety.

on the other hand, I had my first kid at 36/37. Even though it did not work out with me and girl and I think she is a deeply flawed person part of me kind-of wonders how different my life would be if we did not miscarry twice

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https://soundcloud.com/swageyph/yph-die-with-me

in the 1% chance it is yours, you're laying the groundwork for a lifetime relationship. She technically could be your babymomma, and if she is she's gonna have a lot of influence on your relationship w/a kid. Don't start it off by calling her all kinds of names and stuff.

if it does get messy and go the legal route, playing it cool works to your advantage there as well.

everything else already been posted - get the test as soon as possible, it's probably not yours, handle it like business, don't spend any money on her, etc. document time lines, maybe save any communication she sends your way just in case.

good fuckin luck.

In a generation of swine, the one-eyed pig is king.
-Hunter S. Thompson

after you had a look at the pudding for any signs of proof

http://babyandblog.com/wp-content/uploads/2014/05/jan_03662011.jpg

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

I'm pretty certain if I ask her for a paternity test she's gonna crumble.

For poast purposes I'll guess I'll ask her. She hasn't returned any of my calls though

good luck man.. sorry you caught crazy... there's way too much of it out there.. soooo glad I'm done and out of all that for good. even if I am mad at her today lol.

Everyone likes sex without consequences. But, we all know sex has serious consequences.

I hate that pregnancy or STD's can turn the whole scenario about fun and pleasure into doom, sadness and regret.

With children, men seem to carry the burden of having no say in the outcome. Women carry the burden of having to deal with the consequences no matter what we decide, abortion or having the baby.

STDs just mean everybody got got.

Rise & Shine
Thrive & Grind
Heart & Mind

i was an inch away from getting a vasectomy. I was too tired of the anxiety that comes with sex and pregnancy.

STDs I'm not so afraid of unless its The Monster™ (and even then, its no longer the 80s/90s where I lost a few family members over that) - which is really an evolution on my part. When I was younger I was too freaked out to enjoy anything. I was the dental dam using person in my youth. Now, after going through a few false positives I'm on the page where an infection would be inconvenient and a very bad thing but its not the scary world ending event that I once imagined it all to be. I used to be PARALYZED, like, calling up planned parenthood over moles and ingrown hairs. I'm not suggesting reckless behavior, I'm just talking about my own reality and journey. At the end of the day, there was still a lot of anxiety about this back in my single days.

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https://soundcloud.com/swageyph/yph-die-with-me

cause I'm married. lol


but yeah, back in the say it was herpes and aids..

anything you have for life is serious biz to me.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

...

don't let the good book and grandmama fool you

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

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If life is stupendous one cannot also demand that it should be easy. - Robert Musil

Ninjaz BEEN *HarlemShakin* inna gushy.

Cues up 'Back inna day in Afrika'

Sista: Me gwan give you dis gushy right NOW! Come get dis pum-pum!

Brodda: *HarlemShakes*


Ain't shit new out here.

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

sex and procreation is innate. It's in our DNA. That's why everybody always getting caught up. Shit feels better for a reason. Shit I got a kid from that same reason.

I just didn't do it with this crazy ass chick

I reply "I'm a grown ass man". Shit dropped when I was 25 and I knew I was too old for that shit.

Low key tho social media got a lot of women in they 30s...40s...50s living a second childhood. I've always skewed older when I was dating but nowadays there's not much difference between 35 and 19.

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If life is stupendous one cannot also demand that it should be easy. - Robert Musil

since Snap delete messages or whatever. I basically got Snap and IG cause I was newly single or whatever. I hate using all of that shit

Now I gotta screen a chick for even casual sex, let alone a relationship. I'm on my monk shit for a month or two while I come up with a new battle plan so I don't get burned in this modern dating environment.

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If life is stupendous one cannot also demand that it should be easy. - Robert Musil

I'm pullin out FBI dosiers on broads 'fore I enter da gushy
on some:

NoDrawlz: It says here that.........

ol girl: Yeah, but that only happened once.

NoDrawlz: *raised eyebrow*

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

mid-life crisis...maybe...idk

I know my 40 damn sure ain't my daddy's 40

as long as I'm looking good and feelin great...man pshhhh
what's the rush to do old people shit

which is talk about food, ailments and complain about everything


all these late bloomers out here...psshhhh



in response to this >>Low key tho social media got a lot of women in they 30s...40s...50s living a second childhood.

idk if it's just social media tho

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Coolin...

I'm 28 but when I'm 40 I'm still gon be out here shining

This is a great environment for niggas like me who like to party and have fun with beautiful women. But for a dude who wants the wife and 2 kids and a picket fence? It's looking rough out here. Chicks out here divorcing niggas so they can go to Cabo and post thirst traps on IG.

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If life is stupendous one cannot also demand that it should be easy. - Robert Musil

marriage...
maybe marriage when I get old-old

but right now I see no value in it for me...cept a temporary financial boost


oddly when I was 28-29ish I was engaged...maybe I was 30..idk..but yeah...ever since I dodged that bullet it's been .......interesting


they definitely don't care no more and are liberated and i'm here for it

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Coolin...

because as long as men like you and ambient1 exist
it’ll always be those women you mentioned..

lol @ y’all being scared to get old...

to be in the sweatpants w/no pockets crowd, I ain't sickly and food doesn't impress me lol


I was old when I was young lol
I did all that old people bs when I was 28-30ish (when I started postin here)...

but yeah...I was 'settled' and domesticated
and life was passing me by while she....nvmd

then I woke up

I still have ALL my hair...not too many grays..and this body getting right...a lil sump'n in my pockets


got damn right I'm out here for these unhappily murried wimmins lol

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Coolin...

For a young man(20's/30's/early 40's), ain't shit fuckin wit being single.

WORD. IS. BOND!



I'm a late-30's working musician and wouldn't give up my singleness for a goddamn thang!
Dis shit is BEAUTIFUL!

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/massage

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"
Afro-Americana/Afro-Caribbana/Afro-Latino unite. We are ALL Black!

Having random people fill your voids. What do you do when you can longer live that lifestyle?

funny. My young friend dealt with a guy whom treated her pretty bad. She forgave him and now they hang out. she asked why I thought he reached out to her again. I told her perhaps, he feels bad for how he treated her. You know how you men are...can't come right out and say shit lol

Idk ninja
I'm in love with being in love...