Does that make any sense? Met an acquaintance 10 Years later and I realized how much they evolved. Pretty arrogant of me to assume all the growth would be mine.
2. "I saw a former middle school quasi-bully at a NYE party." In response to Reply # 0
I had my guard all the way up. Dude wound up being cool as shit and I felt like an idiot for thinking he was going to be the same cat at 37 that he was when he was 14 (or me, for that matter).
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79992 posts
Thu Mar-01-18 10:00 AM
3. "I linked up with a childhood friend who was shady as shit" In response to Reply # 0
Type of dude who would be cool with you at 1st period but want to fight you after 5th period.
My wife was like “he is so nice, I really like him”
He ended up going to the army and grew up.
Another friend of ours is like “nope, don’t care.. I still don’t fuck with him”
He bit my boys finger when they were fighting and his pinky still ain’t right
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79992 posts
Thu Mar-01-18 11:29 AM
11. "Ha.. yeah, that’s kinda odd" In response to Reply # 10
I get it but don’t get it.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
13. "May be a small town type thing....Greensboro, NC....a lot of folks" In response to Reply # 11 Thu Mar-01-18 11:40 AM by FLUIDJ
stay forever.... and just... i dunno... stay.the.same. or that's my assumption....observation. But I concede that I haven't been seeing the whole picture...only what I wanted to see....or believed there was nothing more to see...
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79992 posts
Thu Mar-01-18 03:46 PM
17. "Nah, the more I think about it.. I get it. " In response to Reply # 13 Thu Mar-01-18 04:00 PM by legsdiamond
folks who don’t leave small towns change in other ways.
Everyone who left my small town, when we get together and rap about home it’s kinda shitty... cause most times the convo is “seen so and so, ain’t shit changed, they still doing XYZ”
I guess for me it’s acknowledging those who changed on a small scale. Taking care of family, working, staying out of trouble.
A good friend said “everytime you come home I have my kids that weekend” and I was proud as shit to hear that. While I would like to kick it, seeing him being a responsible father is more importnant than sipping on a brew and smoking an L and reminiscing. He never says “let me change my schedule” just daps me up.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
7. "it’s not easy knowing people thought you weren’t going to be shit..." In response to Reply # 0
I mean I still ain’t lol but yeah...
It took a minute for me to accept “I’m proud of you” compliments from people that know how young I had my son. I used to go off on folks about it. I didn’t understand it. As hard as I fought as a child I’m was surprised folks wrote me off..
I forget exactly when I begin to understand why they did it....
8. "I ran into a friend from college. " In response to Reply # 0
She was a very close friend my freshman year but by Senior year she hated me and I could see why. I had changed from a lovable country bumpkin to an arrogant frat boy.
I ran into the street in BK a solid 15 years later and we had a nice hey whats up we should get together moment and I sent her a friend request on FB.
Months later I noticed she never accepted my friend request.
I wanted her to know so bad I was no longer the obnoxious guy she knew from the end of college.
oh well.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
9. "there was this dude the went to my high school" In response to Reply # 0
i knew him as a hooper, but all around knucklehead. Saw him a few years after I graduated from High School in the public library where i used to study organic chem bc i was home taken summer classes.
Dude would be dressed in slacks and button downs, hard bottoms, at a table with all these big ass books. One day he stopped me and said, "I know you from somewhere". We chopped it up a minute, i tried to jog his memory. It was like dude was a completely different person, like he went through some life altering experience. I said "i see you with all these books, what are you studying?" He replied "Law. i want to be a lawyer" Man, i really thought he had experienced somethng that caused him to change his life and pursue law.
years later, once Facebook popped off and I reconnected with folks from HS, i found out that the brother has mental health issues.
Some of his homeboys were saying he has issues but won't get help. A few said they would see him on the basketball court shooting around with NO BALL talkign to himself.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79992 posts
Thu Mar-01-18 11:37 AM
12. "My wife loves going home with me because I’m from a small town" In response to Reply # 0
but I grew up with a gang of friends, family and acquaintances.
It really puts things in perspective.
She always reminds me that this isn’t normal to know this many people who are friendly and wish you know harm.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
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