I swear it just something people dreamed up to be more insecure in their relationships.
I am going to make my declaration right here, normal healthy relationships don't necessitate you sharing everything that goes on between you and other people. It's okay to have an inside joke with that girl in your office.
You don't have to tell your SO everything that goes on in your life with other people. It's okay.
I am just going to unjustly blame Millennials for this (like I do most other things) and use this as evidence that as a generation they don't do personal interaction well.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
3. "its a buzzword, but here is the whole list. " In response to Reply # 0
1. Reaching out to a girl who’s “just a friend” for a recommendation or advice on an issue he could easily Google the answer to because he feels like bantering.
2. Giving a waitress or a bartender an obscenely large tip just because she’s hot AF.
3. Following a ton of hot girls on social media and beginning to feel like he actually knows them because he monitors their every post that closely.
4. Sending someone who’s not his girlfriend something blatantly provocative, like an article about sex or the porn industry, because he thinks she’ll find it interesting or whatever.
5. Logging a girl in his contacts folder under a code name to avoid detection when she call, texts, and emails.
6. Tagging another girl in an Instagram that reminds him of her or references a seemingly innocuous inside joke between them.
7. Obsessively checking another girl’s social media feeds and getting way more excited about the non-girlfriend’s posts than he does about his significant other’s.
8. Confiding in or venting to someone other than his girlfriend when he’s feeling especially emotional because he craves the response he thinks he can only get from that other girl.
9. Going out of his way to tell a woman he met or ran into the night before that she looked amazing or seems to be “doing really well.”
10. Purposefully neglecting to mention his significant other in conversation with the friends and colleagues he interacts with regularly so that many of them actually think he’s single.
11. Diminishing his relationship as “not that serious” when in fact he’s cohabiting and maybe even engaged.
12. Outright denying that he’s in a relationship to extend the flirtatious exchange he’s enjoying with some random girl on the train or at a bar, even if he has no intention of trying to hook up with her.
13. Closing his eyes when he needs a minute to escape and daydreaming about the girl he’s crushing on because she’s his opium of the moment.
14. When something awesome happens to him and he chooses to share the good news with another woman first.
15. Reaching out to an ex on a day that was once significant to them as a couple, like their anniversary or the day they first had sex.
16. Going out of his way to do something nice for someone who’s not his girlfriend, like hook her up with tickets to a concert or send a cute quote just because.
17. Telling another girl that he’s thinking about her on a day that’s not her birthday or a holiday.
18. Worse yet, texting her “good morning” just to say good morning.
19. Picking up the tab like it’s nbd when he’s out with someone who’s not his girlfriend because he wants to impress her or seem cool.
20. Giving another girl a “hope certificate” (i.e. some degree of reassurance that he’ll be on the market soon) by insinuating that things are rocky between him and his girlfriend when they’re definitely not.
21. Meeting up with another woman for dinner or a drink and insisting that it’s work related when asked by his significant other for context (and it’s not).
22. Choosing to do something he knows his significant other would enjoy—like go for a bike ride, eat at a specific restaurant, or see a certain movie—with another woman, even when his girlfriend’s most likely available.
23. Sending a photo to an ex that reminds him of a good time past because he feels like reliving that old memory temporarily.
24. Establishing secret code words and/or inside jokes with women outside his romantic relationship.
25. Recommending that his girlfriend starts wearing a certain type of clothing because he secretly wants her to look like the girl he’s kind of crushing on.
26. Gifting his girlfriend with a bottle of the perfume his crush wears so she’ll smell like his latest fantasy chick.
27. Keeping a piece of clothing that reminds him of an ex even though it’s definitely tattered or completely out of style.
28. Raving about how awesome some other girl is to his friends because it makes him genuinely happy to talk about her.
29. Downplaying a certain woman’s awesomeness whenever she’s mentioned around his significant other as if proactively doing damage control.
30. Asking for a girl’s contact information under the guise of potentially working together even though he knows there isn’t a chance in hell they’ll be collaborating professionally.
31. Following up with a “nice to meet you” message unnecessarily.
32. Spending all of his time engrossed in conversation with another woman at a party or event even though he brought his girlfriend as his date.
33. Mindfully leaving his wedding ring at home when he heads out with the boys (not so much because he wants to get lucky, but just because he wants to feel like it’s in the realm of possibility for him again).
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Tue Jan-30-18 10:42 PM
6. "They are pushing for a Demolition Man society" In response to Reply # 5
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
They get taken advantage of or get drunk, make a mistake.... but never cheat.
At least that’s what I have witnessed over the years.
It’s extremely rare for a woman to admit she cheated.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-31-18 03:04 PM
24. "Notice how the strongest, independent, educated woman" In response to Reply # 23
turns into the most naive, gullible, helpless little girl when it comes to infedelity or sex with a guy they regret?
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
4. "i think these terms/trends are promoted more by the outrage/backlash" In response to Reply # 0
than they are by the initial usage.
theres usually a few 'what is micro-cheating?' articles...followed by a million thinkpieces on how millennials are destroying the country by coining the term, how the term is not race/gender/orientation sensitive, how twitter lost its mind when celeb x used the term, how the term has been weaponized against the #metoo movement, etc.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
18. "smh. I thought it sounded hard when I typed it too lol." In response to Reply # 17
Can't believe I forgot that.
Anyway any chick talking about "micro-cheating" would get dubbed so fast. I just don't think anyone who is heavily invested in things of this nature is a "keeper".
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-31-18 10:22 AM
19. "this some ole "don't talk, smile or look at another women" " In response to Reply # 18
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
21. "Y'all focusing too much on the term itself and the specific examples." In response to Reply # 0
I think the bottom line is that it's wrong to deceive your significant other. What defines that "deception" is going to be different for every relationship, and it doesn't need to have a buzzword like "micro-cheating" to describe it, but I think it's generally accepted it isn't a good idea to lie or hide things from your spouse/SO.
31. "Again, don't focus on specific examples because they will be " In response to Reply # 28
different for every couple in terms of what the boundaries are. Any time someone tries to come up with specific examples and say that equals cheating in all relationships it's not gonna work. But in our individual relationships we should know what the boundaries are, what would make our SO's uncomfortable, etc.
In your example, "flirting" with a waitress can mean an incredibly wide range of things, many of which would be perfectly appropriate for me in my relationship, and others would definitely not be appropriate.
45. "I don't the rule can simply be, what makes my SO uncomfortable" In response to Reply # 31
If your SO becomes uncomfortable for unreasonable reasons.
That's why the examples are important. If an SO becomes uncomfortable because I liked someones picture, that is objectively unreasonable and a sign of insecurity.
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
36. "Yeah....that's that bullshit..." In response to Reply # 27
I'm not keeping up with anyone 24/7 and I don't want anyone keeping up with me like that.
I'd have to draw my line in the sand at the start of the relationship I guess. How can anyone develop trust for someone else if they're always conducting surveillance on them?
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79616 posts
Wed Jan-31-18 04:12 PM
30. "FB likes can get you killed" In response to Reply # 25
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
now or never Member since Oct 27th 2004 3821 posts
Wed Jan-31-18 04:40 PM
32. "that explore page is a muthafucka" In response to Reply # 25
like i don't give a fuck what pics my friends like or what comments they leave so i never go on that shit my girl be on that shit ALL THE TIME so she see every pic i like basically for every 1 girl pic i like i have to like 10 other regular pics so it don't look sus not to mention they showin if you're "active now" in dms shit is a insecure woman's dam carcosa
----- No one ever went broke underestimating the intelligence of the American public. (c) HL Mencken or some other motherfucker.
35. "I don't like shit on the gram except architecture, construction & carpen..." In response to Reply # 32
Shit.... Them "suggestions" will have you all fcked up. And Instagram is a straight up snitch too! I see ALL them things y'all be "liking" ..... FOH INSTAGRAM just cuz HE like that shit and I follow him, don't mean EYE wanna get caught up..
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