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Trinity444
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"I wish men were more emotional..."


  

          

of the 20 years I never knew how much that nigga loved me.
if he even did...
I goggled him again last night


what y’all got up for the weekend?
me?
having dinner and drinks with friends after work. then I’ll spend the rest of the weekend getting my apartment ready for my mother’s visit next weekend.


we family, right?

  

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We can promise you that you don't.
Jan 12th 2018
1
Yeah, the word she's looking for is 'expressive' lol
Jan 12th 2018
2
Yup.
Jan 12th 2018
4
Yup just like dudes wish women would be more straightforward
Jan 12th 2018
35
YUUUP
Jan 12th 2018
46
RE: Yeah, the word she's looking for is 'expressive' lol
Jan 19th 2018
59
yerrrrrrrrrrrrrp
Jan 12th 2018
3
Couldn't have said it better myself...whole ass prisons filled w/
Jan 12th 2018
6
      gotdamn, this is so true
Jan 12th 2018
7
      damn, yall bodied this whole exchange...daps
Jan 12th 2018
11
      "I could just punch my way out of this situation"
Jan 12th 2018
12
      Man listen,...
Jan 13th 2018
52
           Fist fights are so illuminating. Win or lose there's a conclusion to the
Jan 14th 2018
54
      Yup. Dudes doing a dime in state because someone hurt their feelings
Jan 12th 2018
15
      Hahaha for real though damn
Jan 12th 2018
38
      This response is HILARIOUS!
Jan 13th 2018
51
that nigga squatting in your head yo..
Jan 12th 2018
5
^^^^^
Jan 12th 2018
21
how long were y'all together?
Jan 12th 2018
8
off and on 20 years...
Jan 12th 2018
30
      How do you measure love though? How do you assign value to an abstract
Jan 12th 2018
31
           by the action...
Jan 12th 2018
36
                Plenty of people are apart despite their love.
Jan 12th 2018
37
                     now that I don’t understand...
Jan 12th 2018
40
we are emotional
Jan 12th 2018
9
Men are very emotional, we just ain't sharing most of it with women
Jan 12th 2018
10
n they fight dirty...can,have, & will use what you share as ammo
Jan 12th 2018
13
My wife scoff/smiled at me in an argument the other week then told me to
Jan 12th 2018
14
^this
Jan 12th 2018
17
I forgot what comedian it was...
Jan 12th 2018
22
Bruh, I posted recently about my boys ex using his insecurities
Jan 12th 2018
23
      I found it...
Jan 12th 2018
34
           lol...he aint lyin
Jan 12th 2018
43
YES! LAWD! YES!
Jan 19th 2018
60
that aint real lol
Jan 12th 2018
18
      This doesn't count to you?
Jan 12th 2018
24
      of course those are real.
Jan 12th 2018
44
      Any dude with real friends has those moments
Jan 12th 2018
25
           lol, you got short patience, man. only once?
Jan 12th 2018
27
                lol, Legs like "nigga yall was only married 15 years!!!"
Jan 12th 2018
32
                15 yrs?!
Jan 12th 2018
45
                LOL.
Jan 20th 2018
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                I'm talking group settings not one on one
Jan 12th 2018
33
never got me anywhere
Jan 12th 2018
16
When I think of "Emotion"...
Jan 12th 2018
19
I understand...
Jan 12th 2018
26
      Got'chu Trin...
Jan 12th 2018
29
lmao, men are super emotional
Jan 12th 2018
20
exactly......
Jan 12th 2018
39
      I disagree
Jan 13th 2018
47
      yep yep
Jan 14th 2018
55
      True
Jan 13th 2018
48
      Hiding emotions doesn't make a person less emotional.
Jan 13th 2018
49
           yup but the sentiment goes both ways
Jan 14th 2018
53
                Good points
Jan 14th 2018
56
oh, we're emotional...sounds like you wished dude was...
Jan 12th 2018
28
thanks okp...
Jan 12th 2018
41
YASSSSS!
Jan 12th 2018
42
This reminds me of something a young woman said on a podcast
Jan 14th 2018
57
Does it boil down to different love languages with you and him?
Jan 13th 2018
50
emotions are exhuasting
Jan 17th 2018
58
I have to be careful...
Jan 22nd 2018
64
honestly, in the system we're in, men are raised to be selfish
Jan 20th 2018
61
I can appreciate your response
Jan 22nd 2018
65
Like Trump?
Jan 21st 2018
63
boys have dingalings. girls have cooters.
Jan 22nd 2018
66

MEAT
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1. "We can promise you that you don't. "
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Fri Jan-12-18 08:33 AM by MEAT

  

          

Like you may think that's a good idea and conceptually it is.
But I can assure you as a man that knows myself and knowsbother men. The world does not need men to be MORE emotional by any stretch of measure.

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2. "Yeah, the word she's looking for is 'expressive' lol"
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MEAT
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4. "Yup. "
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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

  

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Atillah Moor
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35. "Yup just like dudes wish women would be more straightforward "
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They don’t and couldn’t handle it if they were

  

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46. "YUUUP"
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59. "RE: Yeah, the word she's looking for is 'expressive' lol"
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a step further than expressive...communicative

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3. "yerrrrrrrrrrrrrp"
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<--- Big Baller World Order

  

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6. "Couldn't have said it better myself...whole ass prisons filled w/"
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emotional niggas

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Coolin...

  

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legsdiamond
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7. "gotdamn, this is so true"
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shut up already, damn

  

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11. "damn, yall bodied this whole exchange...daps"
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...private when I fly, ball out like Bron do. You in the game, but you sit n' coach like Tyronn Lue - Royce

  

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12. ""I could just punch my way out of this situation""
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Is a thought that goes through my head daily.
I couldn't imagine being more emotional

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52. "Man listen,..."
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https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/kazes-mood-feat-rodnice

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"

  

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54. "Fist fights are so illuminating. Win or lose there's a conclusion to the"
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problem. But who's trying to fist fight in their thirties.

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15. "Yup. Dudes doing a dime in state because someone hurt their feelings"
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Fri Jan-12-18 10:04 AM by flipnile

  

          

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38. "Hahaha for real though damn "
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Everything looks like Oprah kissing Harvey Weinstein these days

  

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51. "This response is HILARIOUS!"
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https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/kazes-mood-feat-rodnice

"You can take an African out of Africa, but you can't take Africa out of the African"

  

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5. "that nigga squatting in your head yo.. "
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either he needs to pay rent of kick him the fuck out.

shut up already, damn

  

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21. "^^^^^"
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8. "how long were y'all together?"
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"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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30. "off and on 20 years..."
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whoever was around was just a rebound..
I call it recess (c) rapsody



  

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31. "How do you measure love though? How do you assign value to an abstract"
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quantity?
Love is love.
He obviously loved/s you.
But love isn't enough to sustain a long term relationship.

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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36. "by the action..."
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There was a period of time when I knew he cared. It’s how I began to care.

and I believe only love can sustain relationships.

  

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37. "Plenty of people are apart despite their love. "
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>There was a period of time when I knew he cared. It’s how I
>began to care.

So you don't want to know how much he loved you, you want to know how much he cared. That's valid, but it seems like his absence and the fluctuations of the intensity of expressing his care for you already equip you with the answer you're looking for. Sometimes...MOST times...the act of "Saying" or "telling" someone is nothing more than an unnecessary formality IMO.


>and I believe only love can sustain relationships.
Love isn't the only thing that can strengthen or support a relationship. And it damn sure can't do it all on its own. If that's all a relationship has is love...then it's doomed from the start. If that's all a broad relationship is whittled down to after some years, then it's doomed to eventually end.

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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Trinity444
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40. "now that I don’t understand..."
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I’d rather not get into a discussion about what constitutes love because I know where I was at during that period of my life.

I guess It bothers me because he could never be clear why he wouldn’t let go despite my pleads or maybe I missed it...

  

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9. "we are emotional"
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a lot of us need to communicate better tho.

nah, you trippin

  

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10. "Men are very emotional, we just ain't sharing most of it with women"
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Y'all too judge-y.

Watch the championship game to see how emo we get when we're free to be, lol.

  

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13. "n they fight dirty...can,have, & will use what you share as ammo"
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Coolin...

  

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14. "My wife scoff/smiled at me in an argument the other week then told me to"
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"You need to calm down"
when I said that ain't nothing funny
Like
Like
We really have to operate on parallel brain waves to simply interact with women
I can't imagine a scenario where I'm arguing with a dude, he laughs, and I don't just spaz out for a split second.

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17. "^this"
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IG: amadu_me

"...Whateva, man..." (c) Redman

  

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22. "I forgot what comedian it was..."
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might have been Deray Davis...talkin about a woman will wait til yall in public and say some shit like "nigga, you wasn't saying that when you wanted to kill yoself!"

...private when I fly, ball out like Bron do. You in the game, but you sit n' coach like Tyronn Lue - Royce

  

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23. "Bruh, I posted recently about my boys ex using his insecurities "
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against him when arguing. Had him thinking about ending it all.

shut up already, damn

  

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34. "I found it..."
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lol, I kinda fucked it up, though. It was Deray, at least.
https://youtu.be/_TnA6o9UjwQ?t=203

...private when I fly, ball out like Bron do. You in the game, but you sit n' coach like Tyronn Lue - Royce

  

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43. "lol...he aint lyin"
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Coolin...

  

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60. "YES! LAWD! YES!"
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DST with the killer reference above.

The only women I fight with are my GF and my mom. Sidepieces and shit, hell nah, if you got beef then fuck off til it's resolved. But my mom after years of being the only woman that didn't hit below the belt is now ruthless with it. I'll be goddamned if my GF is gonna go the same way. The other day she did it for the first time, basically threw it in my face that one of my exes cheated on me, and I was no, we are not playing that fucking game. She knows how sensitive she is and what she's shared with me and was smart enough to realize it wasn't a path she wanted to travel down. But it's crazy how fast women lose control of their emotions and how quick they can be to do a 180. Like with my girlfriend or my best friend or parents or whomever, I have never gotten so pissed that I lost sight of who they are and what they meant. A lot of women will lose sight of all that and go 200 miles an hour in the opposite direction the second they feel hurt or threatened.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

  

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18. "that aint real lol"
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watching football with other dudes means they're all acting the same in Man world.

we don't let each other display less 'man' behavior. not saying dudes need to be mushy outchea, but I really don't think we have many honest discussions without trying to be Men.

nah, you trippin

  

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24. "This doesn't count to you?"
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Fri Jan-12-18 11:05 AM by flipnile

  

          

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FVUkmCP677M
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dPw55zZTkKs


I've noticed that men can be much more emotionally-expressive in contexts like that. Also when one male friend is going through a rough patch, he can express himself among the other male friends without having to worry about that shit changing the relationship dynamic, or being brought up later to shame that person.

  

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44. "of course those are real."
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I took your initial post as dudes watching a game and yelling at the tv. that type of group setting usually has certain types of emotional highs and bravado.

what Trin is talking about is male/female relationships. some dudes aren't good at being vulnerable with women. some dudes don't communicate enough. some dudes think they'll be seen as soft of they emote in the company of women. seen a ton of examples like this. I have cousins that are like that.

nah, you trippin

  

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25. "Any dude with real friends has those moments"
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but we put a timer on that shit.

Especially during break ups. You get to talk about it once in depth, can’t be coming over having the same convo about the same shit.

She gone dog!!!

shut up already, damn

  

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27. "lol, you got short patience, man. only once?"
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>Especially during break ups. You get to talk about it once in
>depth, can’t be coming over having the same convo about the
>same shit.

I give it a month or two with relationships. That shit is deep and takes some time to unplug from. Sometimes a dudes' friends can be his only connection to the real world (and not bizzaro relationship world).

  

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32. "lol, Legs like "nigga yall was only married 15 years!!!""
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...private when I fly, ball out like Bron do. You in the game, but you sit n' coach like Tyronn Lue - Royce

  

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45. "15 yrs?!"
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after halftime, we're done talking bruh. lol

nah, you trippin

  

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62. "LOL."
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https://chriswind.bandcamp.com/track/kazes-mood-feat-rodnice

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33. "I'm talking group settings not one on one"
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ain't no group of dudes trying to hear a nigga talk about his failed relationship every time they get together. Especially if niggas on the clock

shut up already, damn

  

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16. "never got me anywhere"
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that shit'll get you killed

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19. "When I think of "Emotion"..."
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I think of it not so much in the sense of which you're ascribing, I think of my father-in-law who is fiery emotional and very much so in the vain of, "I'M GOING TO CLAP BACK AT WHOMEVER, WHENEVER." Yes, he has the years of seasoning to know right from wrong, like he said, "When I turned 50, I realized I couldn't whoop everybody's @$$ anymore." So, it took that reality (age) for him to settle down, but it didn't change his desire to be as "matter of fact" as he could be, to assert his "dominance".

Having said this...he's uber-emotional and because he still (at 67) has issues navigating his "sensitive" side he has peculiar ways of dealing with them, especially when he can't get his way.

Me..I'm sensitive (and cordial...and pretty well-read on situations...last to speak), but I'm also hard to read (poker game skrong). From where I sit, and this is solely my opinion, you're looking for a dude to engage that "sensitive". Pardon if I misspoke. Enjoy the weekend .

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26. "I understand..."
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probably wasn’t the best choice of a post title but, you know me. lol

Ironically. I can’t figure out my emotions. Im still trying putting pieces together. Like, when he told me he was a coward. In my mind I was thinking, “nigga I’ll fight for you”.

bear with me. I don’t know how to give it all to you at one time

  

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29. "Got'chu Trin..."
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Like I said, I like your openness. Hope it leads to the type of success you're lookin' fo'!

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20. "lmao, men are super emotional"
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it just manifests differently.

  

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39. "exactly......"
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I would argue that men are MORE emotional than women because in many instances women are socialised to hide their feelings.

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47. "I disagree"
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Men are socialized to hide their emotions (except anger)

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55. "yep yep"
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48. "True"
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Men aren't given the tools or the support to manage their feelings. It's a shame really.

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49. "Hiding emotions doesn't make a person less emotional."
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It just makes you less expressive (as reply 2 pointed out) and more likely to be emotionally unhealthy or explosive. The emotions are still there whether you express them or not.

Beyond that, one could definitely argue that men are taught to hide emotions more, but my main point is my subject line.

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53. "yup but the sentiment goes both ways"
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Men are emotional as shit, hence the funneling of all of their emotions into recent movements like the alt right, tea party, gamergate etc. Instead of properly examining how and why they feel a certain way and expressing those emotions in more healthy ways, they lash out. In many ways society seems to say the only emotion that men can express is anger, and no matter if they are experiencing anger or not it is often expressed that way.

I won't deny that sometimes women are socialized into hiding emotions and they do it by just pushing the emotions down, but so often they are also told their emotions don't exist. As a test, look at any comment section when a women writes an article expressing her feelings about being sexually assaulted/harassed and see how many people, particularly men, try to insinuate the woman was feeling contrary to what her own words say! Some women internalize those views, and start to really believe that their very valid feelings aren't valid and never existed.

It is in your self-interest to find a way to be very tender.
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56. "Good points"
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>Men are emotional as shit, hence the funneling of all of
>their emotions into recent movements like the alt right, tea
>party, gamergate etc. Instead of properly examining how and
>why they feel a certain way and expressing those emotions in
>more healthy ways, they lash out. In many ways society seems
>to say the only emotion that men can express is anger, and no
>matter if they are experiencing anger or not it is often
>expressed that way.
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>I won't deny that sometimes women are socialized into hiding
>emotions and they do it by just pushing the emotions down, but
>so often they are also told their emotions don't exist. As a
>test, look at any comment section when a women writes an
>article expressing her feelings about being sexually
>assaulted/harassed and see how many people, particularly men,
>try to insinuate the woman was feeling contrary to what her
>own words say! Some women internalize those views, and start
>to really believe that their very valid feelings aren't valid
>and never existed.

The most comfortable and wisest people are those who watch their health when they are healthy; guard their country when it is untroubled; and cultivate their fields well when weeds are nonexistent or scarce. - Reverend Dosung Yoo

  

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28. "oh, we're emotional...sounds like you wished dude was..."
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..a better communicator.

  

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41. "thanks okp..."
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some days I just want to tell folks how I’m feeling because I don’t in real life.

I think imma get white girl wasted tonight lol

have a wonderful weekend



  

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42. "YASSSSS!"
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>I think imma get white girl wasted tonight lol

I'm going on getaway this weekend and gonna have likka on deck.

  

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57. "This reminds me of something a young woman said on a podcast"
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>I think imma get white girl wasted tonight lol
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The young woman was Latina and decided to go away for college. She said one of the reasons she chose to go to the school was to experience differences in culture. One of them was to see people get 'white people wasted'. I was dying.

The most comfortable and wisest people are those who watch their health when they are healthy; guard their country when it is untroubled; and cultivate their fields well when weeds are nonexistent or scarce. - Reverend Dosung Yoo

  

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50. "Does it boil down to different love languages with you and him?"
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58. "emotions are exhuasting"
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you know the feeling I'm talking about... when something just drains you for the rest of the day like a hangover or a workout or not enough sleep and too much coffee.. or no coffee when you really really need it.

I find as an emotional guy I need to be careful about engaging in interactions with other emotional folks.. I've also learned to be more discerning about where and when I invest emotionally... live and learn.

  

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64. "I have to be careful..."
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I had to make a trip to the ER and take a few days off work. . something is going on with my heart. The heart beat is irregular. I’m carrying too many burdens.

Scared the life out of son...

  

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61. "honestly, in the system we're in, men are raised to be selfish"
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or at the very least have the ability to be selfish in a different way than women.

I had a situationship like this with a girl from the time i was like 18-26...basically were together when we were in the same location, she'd come visit, i'd visit...I would say i loved her, we had a deep connection. but i was also young & immature in some ways, bad at communicating my wants/needs, & selfish.

In my head (& many men's heads) the "you knew what this was" defense is impenetrable. Around that age I was just learning the basic frameworks of feminism & took "I was honest in my words about this one thing" ("I don't think we should be in a relationship") to absolve me of any wrongdoing. In my head, it was 2015! If she had an issue with it she could just say so & it would be no hard feelings! I didn't want to take away her agency!

It wasn't until I eventually started dating a new woman that I started learning what it meant to actually communicate, & expanded my understanding of feminism. I really look back on those years & had to apologize to this other woman for (what I felt) was taking advantage.

Yes, she could have left at any point. Yes, I said I didn't want to be in a relationship. Yes, we were adults & could make our own choices. But I also know that I was socialized in a way that didn't place a value on women in that way (yea yea, I was a "gentleman" & would make sure no one "disrespected" them, but I wasn't critical of what was going on in my own house, so to speak) & she was socialized in a way that the power dynamic was never actually equal between us.

Often times men can rationalize this, but at least for me, I've gotten to a point where I recognize how my inability to communicate my wants/needs + selfishness fostered by the society I was raised in led to me not really being as "good" a person as I'd like to be.

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65. "I can appreciate your response "
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Thank you

  

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63. "Like Trump?"
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shut up already, damn

  

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66. "boys have dingalings. girls have cooters."
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