"my sis in law allows my niece to take mental days off from school"
when she is feeling overwhelmed or just tired from school, she lets her take the day off to relax and refocus. SHE IS IN KINDERGARTEN! The fucking school year just started mid August and she has taken 3 days off on top of being sick 4 days already because she is allergic to EVERYTHING. Man it was so hard not to call her a fucking moron when that shit came up in conversation, my wife did it for me.
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her mom's argument is well she goes to school as much as an adult working full time works. She is only 5 and that is too much. I want my child to have an easier life than me and not have to struggle like I have. This coming from someone who has had constant hand outs from her parents since she left the house.
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11. "I want my child to have an easier life than me and not have to struggle " In response to Reply # 3
i've seen that parenting style fail more often that it succeeded.
coddled kids eventually become incompetent adults.
I find it fitting when adults who pampered their kids growing up end up still taking care of them when that kid becomes an adult that can't function independently. it's fitting because they're dealing with the mess they made. it's your fault they're like that, you deal with the consequences of your decisions...
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18. "RE: I want my child to have an easier life than me and not have to strug..." In response to Reply # 11
I agree 100%. Its just funny because her life has been easy. She has lived in the best cities her parents are far from broke. They have always had what they wanted. When she finally went out on her own she was stupid and charged up a bunch of credit cards. So when she couldn't pay rent or the lights mom and dad would go by and drop money off. They actually JUST cut her off 2 years ago and she is 35. My niece is already a pain in the ass and a huge drama queen. Exaggerates and out right fakes injuries to get attention. Needs to be the center of attention or she will do something good or bad to make herself the center of attention. Her mom constantly complains about it but we are all like you fucking created that.
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2. "i believe in mental days in general" In response to Reply # 0
Not sure about the kindergarten thing lol. I guess everyone is different but that seems too young to be overwhelmed. Does she have anxiety? I have a niece around that age who has some anxiety issues, a total sweetheart, I don't think they give her mental health days though.
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5. "oh I am 100% positive she is just using that to play her mom" In response to Reply # 2
this niece just needs to have attention on her all of the time. She never once mentioned being over whelmed. It was her mom that asked her if she wanted to miss school because she knows she goes a lot. What kid is going to say no?
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but if i miss enough days that it becomes a thing (let's say more than one day every couple months) then i work myself into a panic about all the things that happened when i was out and what people were thinking/saying about me.
you can't take a break from it...you have to make peace with it and put yourself in a situation where you feel comfortable with the people around you.
so far this year i've only taken half a day and i still felt antsy the next morning.
but he goes to a public school. She is in a Christian School and they get naps. Shit I would be pissed paying all that money and half the day is wasted on learning prayers and napping.
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"You don't have to go if you don't want to, wanna play with mommy?"
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
we are talking high school or jr high even. I can definitely see that. Especially now a days with how much pressure is put on kids. But Kindergarten is ridiculous. Especially 1.5 months into the school year.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Mon Oct-02-17 06:01 PM
23. "Who the hell said that? " In response to Reply # 21
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
I've seen you ppl say this when it comes to beating children -which many of you call spanking to make yourselves feel better. On that topic y'all refuse to judge and claim parents don't judge each other. Maybe I misread and judgment is reserved on that one issue.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79586 posts
Tue Oct-03-17 08:50 AM
31. "haha.. right? I judge everyone...lol" In response to Reply # 25
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
24. "Father in the picture?" In response to Reply # 0
I have a couple of single parent friends on facebook who I can't help but think their kid would be better if they didn't receive that raw uncut crazy parent influence. Someone to balance out that crazy parent crazy tendencies.
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26. "RE: Father in the picture?" In response to Reply # 24
this is the crazy part. Her husband comes from a family of teachers. His mom was a teacher and principal. His dad was a professor. His sister just got that PHD. All of his family is college educated. But he would rather let her do what she does instead of starting an argument.
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34. "my son was just telling me his friends little brother was left back" In response to Reply # 32
it was 1st grade but still. Of course it was one of the other only Mexican kids in the school. He came to me after school and said dad did you know you can get held back a grade? I said yeah but that doesnt happen often. He said Alejandro's little brother had to do 1st grade again because he still cant read. I was like dammit why couldnt it be Skyler's brother or Bailey's brother.
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36. "did she go to pre-school? or day care?" In response to Reply # 0
If she didn't go to day care or preschool and she was chillin at home for 4 years then I can see how she may be tired and/or overwhelmed.. it's all new to her, new adults, new kids (that your not used to), new building...
she's not used to it.. maybe it takes some time to get in that system
or it could be, as others have noted, separation anxiety (on both ends) lol
My son at kindergarten was overwhelmed at first, he would come home tired and fast asleep but he got used to it
37. "Do they tell the school they are 'mental days'?" In response to Reply # 0
Like if I was the school I'd be like, uhh that's the 4th mental day this semester, maybe get your daughter a psychiatrist appointment. Or require a doctors note or something.
I agree with everyone saying this is the mom acting out. Kindergarten stress ?!
I didn't miss a day of school till the 4th grade and it was cause I had the flu. I was hella proud too, K-5th grade that was my *only* absence. Couldn't MAKE me miss school back then
39. "She's not all wrong" In response to Reply # 0
Looking at your responses, your sis in law seems more 'open or free' in her child rearing.
There's nothing wrong with that, but she's taking a path less traveled and that requires much more attention than what's considered the norm. Your niece can be easily steered into a pattern that doesn't help her fully develop in multiple areas.
People are choosing to take a different approach to raising their kids. For instance, we don't spank our kid - at all, we let him cry it out, and learn from his mistakes (as long as there's no blood we're cool). Our family thinks we're making a huge mistake, but we believe in other forms of behavior correction.
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