"Poll question: Your white wife wakes up and calls you the n-word, WYD?"
I was just told of this, recently.
My pops has a distant and very old cousin. This cousin's wife is also old. His wife is white and old. The cousin is obviously black. They've been married since the 70s.
The sad part in this story is that his wife has dementia. The WTF part is that for the past year she routinely calls the cops because, "there is a strange n*gger in the house, come get them"
What the hell do you even do in that situation? Thats your wife you've been married to forever and then suddenly a very ugly part comes up due to sickness.
1. "lol, I thought this was gonna be some dom/sub shit at first" In response to Reply # 0
On that Slave Pussy (c) status. (I guess Slave Dick is more applicable here).
But this:
>The sad part in this story is that his wife has dementia. >The WTF part is that for the past year she routinely calls the cops >because, "there is a strange n*gger in the house, come get them"
Is comedic gold, man. Like a Chappelle skit or something. Like, even with dementia she can't be like "Hello, officer? There's a Black gentleman in my living room..."
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79554 posts
Mon Jul-17-17 01:49 PM
4. "More than likely she been calling him one for years" In response to Reply # 0
Prolly under her breath or during heated arguments
Shit sounds like a comedy skit tho... sorry
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It's cold but fuuuuck that. Can't be waking up with a white woman standing over you with a knife screaming "die nigger die"
This is like The Notebook and Driving Miss Daisy all wrapped up into one movie.
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I recently had a cousin who was taking care of my uncle who had dementia. It started off easy enough. He would forget things. But man it went really bad really fast. Her brother had to move in to help her with him. One of them had to be up at 430 am to get ready for the day. He was up at 5am and they had to have eyes on him all the time. He would wander around the neighborhood if you left him alone for a few minutes. It happened several times when they left him alone for a few minutes. Then when he forgot how to eat or clean himself or use the restroom. It was like taking care of an infant. We all said just put him in a home. This is too much for you guys. But they thought they could give him better care than a home could. They were wrong but to this day they believe they did the right thing. Dementia is ugly.
November 8th, 2005 The greatest night in the history of GD!
11. "That's sad to hear about your uncle" In response to Reply # 9
Caretaking is extremely difficult emotionally and stressful and your brother and cousin really went above and beyond their normal roles to offer your uncle care.
Your family was right to feel concerned about the care your uncle would receive, the sick do enjoy at least more complete care.
My step mother suffers from Alzheimer's and my dad was her primary care person for about four years. She didn't seem to have the issues leaving the house your uncle did, but she did have at least one incident. But back to my dad, by the time he finally put her in a home, his health was in decline. His blood pressure was up, as was his cholesterol. And he was just in a perpetually unhappy mood.
It worked out for the best. The care my step mom gets is good enough and my dad isn't stressed out.
There's no shame in letting professionals step in.
12. "RE: That's sad to hear about your uncle" In response to Reply # 11
>My step mother suffers from Alzheimer's and my dad was her >primary care person for about four years. She didn't seem to >have the issues leaving the house your uncle did, but she did >have at least one incident. But back to my dad, by the time he >finally put her in a home, his health was in decline. His >blood pressure was up, as was his cholesterol. And he was just >in a perpetually unhappy mood.
see all of this. Both of my cousin's are older. Well a lot older than me. Both mid to late 50's. The brother already has issues with diabetes. His sister has diabetes but its under control. So you know their health had to take a hit having to be on call 24 hours a day. My dad was telling them look put him in a home and just show up for a few hours everyday to make sure everything is fine. Its obviously not safe for him to be here. Your health is going to take a turn for the worse. But they didnt listen.
My wife broke her ankle 3 years ago. The 3 months she was home was the most stressed out I have ever been in my life. Between taking care of her, loading her in and out of the car because she was in a wheel chair, taking her to therapy, and my son and all his shit. I was done. I started getting migraines when she finally got back to work. I gained like 25 lbs. Finally went for my annual check up and my blood pressure was through the roof. I can only imagine what watching someone with dementia would do to me physically.
November 8th, 2005 The greatest night in the history of GD!
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24. "^^^ this. they be doing baby things with adult strength and mobility" In response to Reply # 9
(give or take). when they be wylin out they have enough strength to hurt either themselves or others.
my wife did a stint as a part time senior care aide. most of her clients had alzheimers or dementia. the stories she would tell me. some of it was hilarious, but it was also very depressing. and some of them were legit threats to themselves or others. (not to my wife, she'd a knocked one of they old asses out). this one dude did pull a knife on her, tho, b/c she hid his cognac. smh.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79554 posts
Tue Jul-18-17 09:13 AM
17. "I can't imagine my wife not recognizing me after all those years" In response to Reply # 16
But nigger is some other shit.
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22. "my best friend's grandmother passed recently..." In response to Reply # 0
she had dementia. It got REAL bad toward the end. She would get angry with him and his mom. Lash out at them, curse at them. His mom didn't want to put her in a home because she felt it was HER duty to take care of her. I'd known her since the 1st grade. One of the sweetest people I've ever known...treated me like I was her grandson. Dementia took her down SO quickly. I dunno, man. Shit is tough. I wouldn't wish that on anyone.
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