I was reading a WAPO opinion about black girls never having the luxury of children's innocence. The author spoke of a sleepover where all the other kids smoked weed except her kid and her daughter still was accused of bringing it{she was also the only black girl at the sleepover.Which in itself is a whole different can of worms}. Anyway, I braved the comment section.smh.
And this jewel of a comment:
The real problem - that of Black girls growing up without fathersin 70% of their homes - is down played. The need for a loving father who protects , cares and tells their daughters how pretty they are is an unforgivable crime committed against these girls.. Without a father Black girls have to be more aware of their surroundings and be self protective in a very exploitative environment The absence of Black male role models for Black boys has been explored to a minor degree - we don't want to upset the perps after all- but Black girls and any girl who has no father suffers in a very different way. Suspensions for Black girls can be explained in part by them having to protect themselves and be seen as strong and assertive. As long as society downplays the role of a two-parent family, as long we make excuses for this behavior, as long as our welfare system enables this lifestyle, this problem will persist.
7. "yup thats the racism part..kep them bs studies in peoples heads etc" In response to Reply # 3
>If that's what we believe, then that's what we'll be. > >Much easier to keep people down when they don't believe that >they can stand in the first place.
15. "That propaganda wing of white supremacy is very important" In response to Reply # 1
If you can convince the masses that these people are useless, then no one will bat an eye when you exterminate them.
Just as the Jews and Armenians had been defined "within recent memory similarly to pariahs outside the sanctified social order" (Fein, 1979), prior to their respective genocides, the same is consistently being done to us. This is particularly true for Black men.
5. "I'm not sure I can intellectually on the matter..." In response to Reply # 0
in my experience, I can't say I know what it's suppose to look like. Like, my father (in fact, I have two) were present...loving? is questionable. I have friends who grew up with dads but they aren't in a good place now.
it's a heavy topic... everyone doesn't no how to parent hell, I'm still learning what it is to be a grandmother especially since I didn't have one...
8. "This father figure issue has been turned into a whip" In response to Reply # 5
No one is arguing that fathers aren't important, but any discussion about race and inequality is hit with that. The comment had absolutely nothing to do with the topic. The piece mentioned the (white )father. He dismissed all the points the author raised and brought in an irrelevant point. Pure racism. Sometimes you need to call a spade a spade.
11. "Because it's stupid " In response to Reply # 9 Fri Jul-14-17 10:20 AM by AFRICAN
A black woman is raped in a dark alley and someone brings up lack of a father figure. It's irrelevant, untrue and stupid. And it's a tool people use to dehumanize black women and sexualize little black girls. There is a place and time for that discussion but this is not it( a piece about little black girls not being seen as innocent children)
10. "Fucking food allergies " In response to Reply # 0
My youngest is allergic to wheat( not celiac thank God), cow milk protein, assorted nuts, Soy and Egg whites. In a country where this is extremely rare it's impossible to find stuff he can eat. So me and my wife are getting a crash course on alternative ingredients. Whenever I get annoyed I think about how he can't enjoy shit other kids take for granted.
Growing up in a predominately white neighborhood as a child this article isn't fair to young black girls. The absence of black culture leaves the mother to teach black girls about self awareness. When is the appropriate time to do this? How does she do it? Should she try to hold on to the child's innocence while making her oblivious to the views that those white people might have about blacks in general?* I don't think an absence of a black father in the home has anything to do with it.
*Note before responding that I'm referencing the article and not generalizing white people as a whole.
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