41. "nah, i'd be all over the teachers about that" In response to Reply # 4
if your kid is getting jacked regularly they need to be on the lookout. If it happened once, i get they might miss it, but if it happens more than that, especially after being told about it, then they need to fix it.
Other parents are too unpredictable in my experience.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:26 PM
11. "Is it a lack of food or just wanting someone else's food?" In response to Reply # 3
Rchick prolly packs a bougie ass lunch with all the finer things in life.
This kid black or white?
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:30 PM
18. "Lmao... I'm joking but umm apple smoked sausage? " In response to Reply # 12
The teachers gonna jack those... lol
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5. "How old are these kids?" In response to Reply # 0
>To keep it short: > >There is a bigger child in my kid's daycare class that is >stealing food. > >This morning the thief did it again to my kid. So my kid up >and smacked the thief. I have to admit I was part proud he >stood up for himself. > >So I approached dad to tell him to pack more food for the >thief. Dad got in his feelings and basically said his kid is >fine with his own food. > >To me he didn't know it was happening and got embarrassed. > >Was I wrong for talking to the parent? > > > > >
32. "Yeah. It is tricky watching other parents do parenting different than" In response to Reply # 22
YOU do parenting.
>>So I probably woulda just let it ride. > >I'm a first timer so I don't know the ins/outs of how to >broach things sometimes
Sometimes we find it best to say things to our child within earshot of the parent of the offending child that emarasses them into taking action. LIke "C'Mon Lil FLUIDJ, lets go play over here because this little kid seems to be in a bad mood right now." Or "Let's go do something else because it looks like this little guy/gal might need some alone time"
That usually gets folks attention. But when it comes to food at that age? They stay snatching stuff off each other's plate. And yeah, it's probably best to just get some reassurance from the teachers that your child is getting all of the food you send in and not letting other kids take it. Dad probably just thought it was cute.
>>What was the scenario that both you and he were there to >>witness all this go down though??? > >morning drop off
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:29 PM
14. "CC pancakes? Apple smoked sausage? All his life he gonna have to fight" In response to Reply # 7
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:36 PM
28. "Don't send him to public school with that lunch" In response to Reply # 21
Baby bird man hands
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 02:17 PM
46. "Bougie Black meals on wheels yo" In response to Reply # 44
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25. "I'd have taken offense if you told me that lol..." In response to Reply # 13
Now had you said something like
"My kid doesn't like getting his/her food taken, your son better be prepared for some black eyes if he keeps it up."
just something like that lighthearted...lets em know that he needs to step in and address some bad habits his kid might be forming that he isn't aware of or doesn't realize/admit it being a problem.
But then again, yt parents be letting their kids do flagrant shit unchecked....so there's that too..
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:39 PM
30. "Did you hear about my kid smacking your kid? " In response to Reply # 25
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38. "yeah, the key is in the jovial relationship lol. Like, there are some " In response to Reply # 34
parents in my kids' daycare circle that I don't rock with like that....so if I tried that approach it just would end up being hurt feelings. Other's though would have taken it lightly as intended and gotten the hint too. But it all depends on the rapport you have with the other parents.
9. ""Ok, bruh. And your kid must be okay with getting smacked, too"" In response to Reply # 0 Fri Jun-23-17 12:26 PM by flipnile
"I'm not packing lunch for MY son for your kid. Talk to him."
Not sure about confronting over daycare young kids tho. My son is 9, so if I had to go talk to a parent then it's some serious shit, and they better listen.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 12:38 PM
29. "Ole hungry ass cracka ass cracka " In response to Reply # 27
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31. "2?" In response to Reply # 0 Fri Jun-23-17 12:43 PM by denny
You are accomplishing exactly nothing by intervening but it's not like there's a huge downside either. Waste of time if anything. Maybe you feel like you need to prove something and acting a little over-proudful. That might be a problem down the line.
57. "Not necessarily saying this applies to you...." In response to Reply # 37 Sat Jun-24-17 11:15 PM by denny
But in the past 20 or 30 years there's been a growing tendency for parents to be the 'noone is going to mess with my kid' type. Talk to teachers....many of them are reluctant to even report misbehavior to parents nowadays because the parent's first instinct is to defend their kid at all costs. We try to give the benefit of the doubt to the teacher.
Also...if I take my kid to the park and another kid grabs his toy...I won't intervene right away. I'll see how it plays out. Give the kids a chance to work it out. The 'over-proudful' parent I'm referring to will jump in right away on some 'noone is gonna mess with MY kid' type of thing. See also: Parents constantly complaining of their kid's playing time on a sports team. Or parents constantly complaining about the school. There's a bunch of other examples. I think that's the wrong road to go down as a parent. It's related to the modern 'helicopter parenting' thing. Too much intervention. Making mountains out of molehills. Not giving the kids space to navigate the world and learn life lessons.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Fri Jun-23-17 01:54 PM
43. "Chocolate chip Xlax pancakes. " In response to Reply # 42
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60. "Two year olds aren't the most reasonable people in the world" In response to Reply # 59 Sun Jun-25-17 10:33 AM by makaveli
This whole story is really weird. The one kid sits next to the other kid every day and takes all of his food? The people from daycare just watch it happen every day and do nothing? And just how small are the portions of food the other kid is getting? Why would they want their child to go hungry? We don't live in a third world country, if they can afford daycare they can afford to give their kid another strawberry or two. It's more likely that it's the daycare's fault or mommy is overreacting. I can't put too much blame the two year old, because he's two. You can tell a two year old not do something a hundred times, they don't always listen. It's really strange to me that, because one child doesn't have enough food, he finishes his food every day and then bullies a smaller two year old and takes his food every single day, and the daycare people don't do anything about it.
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62. "that kid shit is tricky. Sometimes u just have a bad kid" In response to Reply # 0
No talking to will work
No form of punishment will work
You basically gotta suck it up and do the best u can till they grow out of it or get the fuck out
And either stop procreating or hope to have a better kid next time
Pretty much the dad knew his kid is bad as shit and just can't do anything about it. He got embarrassed
>To keep it short: > >There is a bigger child in my kid's daycare class that is >stealing food. > >This morning the thief did it again to my kid. So my kid up >and smacked the thief. I have to admit I was part proud he >stood up for himself. > >So I approached dad to tell him to pack more food for the >thief. Dad got in his feelings and basically said his kid is >fine with his own food. > >To me he didn't know it was happening and got embarrassed. > >Was I wrong for talking to the parent? > > > > >
64. "Your approach was wrong." In response to Reply # 0
you should have just said it has come to my attention that your child has been taking my child's lunch and today it ended with violence. I don't want this to be a situation moving forward so...
or something. you dont' just say "pack your kid more food." because MAYBE they pack him more than enough and he's just punking your kid out of his food and not even eating it.
but i would be pissed that the teachers can't stop this from happening. Like why can't they just tell him to stop, move him, watch him? the teachers sound lazy
>Kid had a graduation yesterday. The mom came up to me and >personally apologized for her kid and husband's behavior. > >She said the teacher and husband told her what happened. She >felt embarrassed and said she's bringing more food for him in >the future.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79574 posts
Thu Jun-29-17 05:13 PM
67. "Smh... I really don't want to deal with this type of shit" In response to Reply # 65
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68. "Take it up with the staff" In response to Reply # 0
And STAY ON THEM ABOUT IT. Whenever something like this has happened with our kids we talk to the teachers about it, and if it continues we talk to the school director, and if it gets bad enough we ask the owner to be brought in for a discussion. This has solved a lot of problems for us in the past - but I guess it helps we've had our kids at this daycare since 2010 so they already know we don't play...
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