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legsdiamond
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"when you take sex off the table, your phone be REAL DRY"


          

https://www.yahoo.com/beauty/happens-dont-sex-5-years-032538171.html

This Is What Happens When You Don't Have Sex for 5 Years

In these Bachelorette-obsessed times, it’s easy to assume that everyone who isn’t already in a happily committed relationship is either desperate to find love, or they’re players. One blogger decided to choose a different path, celibacy, and she makes it sound like a pretty good (if difficult) option.

“This summer will mark five years since I have had sex,” Jasmine Turner wrote on her blog, Dreams of Jasmine. “It has easily been the most peaceful five years I’ve experienced to date. It hasn’t always been easy but I’m in it for the long haul and in the meantime, things have changed.”

After getting out of a three-year relationship, Turner said she is now “SUPER single,” particularly since she decided not to have sex with men she casually dates. “Let me tell you something; when you take sex off the table, your phone be REAL DRY.”

But the by-product of not dating is that Turner said she learned to thrive without male validation. Without seeing herself in the eyes of others, she has had the chance to get to know herself. That means she’s found a new pastime: “Making myself laugh, hanging out with myself.”

While hanging out with herself, Turner said she tries to sublimate the sexual desires she still has, rather than masturbate, because the act made her feel guilty. “Guilt is not of God,” she wrote. “I am free in Christ and no longer a slave to my flesh so I decided to cut that out too.”

When she does meet men, Turner said her celibacy has given her a clearer perspective on whether they’re right for her.

“I’ve also been able to humanize my brothers and not just see them as potential mates, so that’s nice,” she added.

While she didn’t actually plan this celibacy, she sounds like she’s achieved some of what monks (of many different faiths) plan to do when they vow not to have sex: “I’ve been letting the Lord change me from the inside out, walking with Him, traveling, making new friends, doing things I’ve never done before and five years just kind of happened!”

This is, of course, not the only way to achieve such things. There are also ways of turning inward without doing away with sex altogether. Yogis, for instance, sometimes reinterpret old teachings of celibacy (brahmacharya) into an asana practice meant to maintain one’s own vitality without spending it all on others.

Turner’s blog post earned her many thanks from readers going through similar struggles.

“This timing was clearly a God thing,” wrote elisejacksun on Instagram. “I NEEDED this. I NEEDED to come across your blog. Thank you so very much!!!

Justrhain wrote, “Saw your post and was excited to hear your story to know I’m not crazy out here. I’m in the same boat with you and so glad you shared.”

“This blog post was everything!” average.bianca commented. “The guilt, the shame, the struggle, the TRIUMPH, the VICTORY… I was over here shouting hallelujah towards the end! I just found your blog today but I will definitely be following. Thank you for this fresh, honest perspective.”

Turner may be single, but it seems she’s not alone.

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I hate this countries "ickyness" around sex
Jun 02nd 2017
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not just sex. pleasure. how you gonna beef with yourself for mastubratin...
Jun 02nd 2017
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Yep. Jawn is repressing herself for no good reason.
Jun 02nd 2017
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YUP. Its like I get it, dating can be tough and mercenary
Jun 02nd 2017
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we hating on floors & beds and couches now???
Jun 02nd 2017
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**holds up sign with the number 5**
Jun 02nd 2017
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sheds dry tear for you
Jun 02nd 2017
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whats the teal dear on this?
Jun 02nd 2017
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ma ain't smashed in 5 years...
Jun 02nd 2017
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maybe she was asexual all along.
Jun 02nd 2017
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I mean.. it's right there? the fuck.. well, she ain't but cmon b
Jun 02nd 2017
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I knew it was a BLACK WOMAN, I just knew lol.
Jun 02nd 2017
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of course.. what white woman denies themselves sex?
Jun 02nd 2017
#Guano
Jun 02nd 2017
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but is she fine tho
Jun 02nd 2017
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Pic is in the Yahoo link.
Jun 02nd 2017
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I was celibate for a year for non-spiritual reasons
Jun 02nd 2017
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nah, people just didn't want to put up with her shit
Jun 02nd 2017
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Doing it for God sounds better
Jun 02nd 2017
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gurl, whatever you need to tell yourself to get by? you go right ahead.
Jun 02nd 2017
18

MEAT
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1. "I hate this countries "ickyness" around sex"
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This shit here. "While hanging out with herself, Turner said she tries to sublimate the sexual desires she still has, rather than masturbate, because the act made her feel guilty. “Guilt is not of God,” she wrote. "

All of them good parts are only gonna be good for but yay long. What's wrong with just enjoying life and being a good person? All of this pseudo morality and judgement about what one person does with their own body is gross.

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Kwesi
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Fri Jun-02-17 12:42 PM

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3. "not just sex. pleasure. how you gonna beef with yourself for mastubratin..."
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the church did a number on her.

  

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NoDrawls McGraw
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4. "Yep. Jawn is repressing herself for no good reason."
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If you cant make peace
with the fact that sex is natural, you'll forever miss a vital part of
what makes you human.


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BigReg
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6. "YUP. Its like I get it, dating can be tough and mercenary"
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and with a large amount of men just in it for sex it can be frustrating. I can even understand taking a break for sex in general if its becoming unhealthy (addiction, using it as a replace for other things in life, etc).

But the idea that celibacy is an admirable thing *shrug*. Maybe she's young; the great thing about dating people in their 30's is the LACK of hangups that we placed on ourselves in our 20's because of parents/religion, etc.

  

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FLUIDJ
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2. "we hating on floors & beds and couches now??? "
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"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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5. "**holds up sign with the number 5**"
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you're getting warmer nigga lol

  

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legsdiamond
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7. "sheds dry tear for you"
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8. "whats the teal dear on this? "
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ain't reading this.

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9. "ma ain't smashed in 5 years..."
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don't even play with her own kitty, anymore. Never felt better. Has reached a higher plane of enlightenment. Doesn't de-humanize brothers, now. Loves herself. #selflove

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14. "maybe she was asexual all along. "
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its a real thing no one talks about

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legsdiamond
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10. "I mean.. it's right there? the fuck.. well, she ain't but cmon b"
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11. "I knew it was a BLACK WOMAN, I just knew lol."
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legsdiamond
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"of course.. what white woman denies themselves sex? "


          

j/k

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12. "#Guano"
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guaranteed.

  

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13. "but is she fine tho"
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i know i know - but i can't be the only one wondering if she's a duck or a swan

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15. "Pic is in the Yahoo link."
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Quick answer: not really.

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16. "I was celibate for a year for non-spiritual reasons"
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By the end I was contemplating if random bums on the train would be sexy after a good bath and hair cut. Lol
It did help me clear my head and focus on quality....
That said, this woman has some deep issues. Feeling guilty about sex and masterbation ain't healthy.
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17. "nah, people just didn't want to put up with her shit"
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www.engadgethd.com - the other stuff i'm looking at

  

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19. "Doing it for God sounds better"
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18. "gurl, whatever you need to tell yourself to get by? you go right ahead."
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