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Kwesi
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"white coworkers + 'negro' humor."


          

i need help.

do your white coworkers use negro humor with you?

in the land of slack and gif speak/plugins there's more room than ever for non blacks to colorfully communicate with the coupla' blacks in their lives.

I understand that culturally 'we' influence the masses. with words/phrases like 'bling bling', songs like 'gold digger' and of course heavily consumed rap music.

what all that consumptions does is puts us in the direct line of sight for silly shit that people pass off as 'jokes'.

i hate it.

specifically, what the fuck is up with non blacks sending shit like this to me?

this is actual content submitted to me by a co worker, btw. submitted with full grins - and i still don't know how to feel about it all.

exhibit 1: http://starecat.com/content/wp-content/uploads/eminem-with-black-rappers-1998-compared-to-pope-francis-with-black-priests-2015-hiphop.jpg

this a real photo circulated to me and two others on a team.

this shit sent me through the roof.

i don't even want to type about how non-sensical it is to equate eminem as the pope of that group - but more over - where's the joke??? why is this being shared???

what the fuck is this???

...

needless to say i stopped talking to the bamma who sent me this for weeks.

not just stopped talking to the nigga, i started giving him my back.

it's an open office and we work directly next to each other - and i just started turning my back on the bamma everytime he spoke or tried to make a joke to the group.

it was hilarious to me, but i think i hurt the half asian nigga's feelings.

what's worse is the bamma that sent this is sort of a supervisor to me.

i guess he noticed how i started treating him and he sent me a email about he's sorry if he said anything that offended me - he just wants to get along, blanblanbla. matter fact, here's that:

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From: -supervisor-
Sent: Saturday, March 18, 2017 9:27 AM
Subject: Friday
To: Kwesi

Hey man,

Just thinking back on yesterday's interactions and I realize I may have said things that were offensive. I want to apologize to you if I did say something you disagree with.

Anyway, please feel free to let me know if I ever make assumptions or statements that make you uncomfortable. And I hope I haven't already done so at other times.

Best,


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so, first, im floored.

i been treating the bamma like shit for weeks, and he's just now sending me this email.

im also embarrassed.

i realized, i shouldn't have been so passive agressive.

but now, im confused.

the alternative to passive agression is for me to tell him how corny, tone-deaf, vulturrish and just generally uncool i think he is.

AND that he has no business circulating these dumb ass 'black' jokes.

i dont want to police everything he sends out, but i do want to tell him i dont be liking NO memes. and that's a lie. cause some memes are funny. but these aint.

... so here now im here. asking for help.

how do i tell people (perhaps in the future) that - even though im the blackest thing they've probably ever met - i'm very not interested in these dumbass black jokes they think are funny.

more importantly, how do i do that without someone looking at me like 'daaaamn nigga, it's just a joke.'?

  

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Next, they take your humor......
Jun 01st 2017
1
the fuck? how is this our fault?
Jun 01st 2017
11
      How is it NOT?
Jun 01st 2017
19
           teach? you sure about that?
Jun 01st 2017
28
                I'm more about taking full advantage of available resources
Jun 01st 2017
32
                     I hear you but I don't think we cosign it...
Jun 01st 2017
34
workplace is a funny place when it comes to this
Jun 01st 2017
2
exactly.
Jun 01st 2017
6
dont be passive aggressive at work.
Jun 01st 2017
3
understood.
Jun 01st 2017
9
      but then again..
Jun 01st 2017
30
can you help me understand how the negro humor upsets you?
Jun 01st 2017
4
.. you're interesting. but if you're serious. i can answer, no problem.
Jun 01st 2017
7
      im just dishing what you put out.
Jun 01st 2017
21
           what's even weirder is that I don't mind it. like at all.
Jun 01st 2017
35
                you come off mad troll-y at times
Jun 01st 2017
37
Can't you just work from home?
Jun 01st 2017
5
that wont protect me from the memes. they slack them around all day.
Jun 01st 2017
8
      I get something over 300 emails a day. I don't read but maybe 10
Jun 01st 2017
10
      emails. i can ignore those. but this SLACK shit is another beast
Jun 01st 2017
13
           I thought you were talking about slacking.
Jun 01st 2017
20
      Wait, is this a corporate Slack account that's supposed to be used
Jun 01st 2017
23
           most people use work groupchats for dumb shit and memes
Jun 01st 2017
33
Joke ain't that deep.
Jun 01st 2017
12
POPE RAPPING IN A CYPHER?
Jun 01st 2017
14
that's how i saw it too.
Jun 01st 2017
16
how many Black coworkers send you suburban white jokes?
Jun 01st 2017
17
      agreed. terrible first pic for the meme.
Jun 01st 2017
18
      i didn't see your edit
Jun 01st 2017
27
Yeah, I don't get the joke...
Jun 01st 2017
24
it looks like the Pope is rapping. i think that's it.
Jun 01st 2017
25
Yeah, I agree with you
Jun 01st 2017
31
Basically, the joke is as if the bottom pic.....
Jun 01st 2017
42
      Most people are bad at telling jokes.
Jun 01st 2017
43
That's what I see also
Jun 02nd 2017
45
unless it's the money man I call that shit out immediately
Jun 01st 2017
15
It's trolling for some... others are seeking validation
Jun 01st 2017
26
Your 'angry black man' levels are probably far too low, man
Jun 01st 2017
22
lol
Jun 01st 2017
29
you right.
Jun 01st 2017
36
Help that brother out
Jun 02nd 2017
46
      To put it simply: I don't play the passive-aggressive games, AT ALL
Jun 02nd 2017
52
learn to manipulate others instead of the other way around
Jun 01st 2017
38
I thought this was going to be about jokes we use amongst ourselves
Jun 01st 2017
39
I wouldn't be cool with a co-worker sending that
Jun 01st 2017
40
nicole brown murder scene + Kathy Giffen and beheaded Trump
Jun 01st 2017
41
http://replygif.net/i/802.gif
Jun 02nd 2017
48
      minorities and beheaded white people are the overlapping themes
Jun 02nd 2017
50
That's not even "Black" humour though.
Jun 02nd 2017
44
for the meme or for other comments / behavior?
Jun 02nd 2017
47
stop pouting...
Jun 02nd 2017
49
Here's some shit that went down at my job a while back (long)
Jun 02nd 2017
51
Bruh, by the end everything I read was like Charlie Brown's teacher talk...
Jun 02nd 2017
53
      lady put up an infographic showing black dad's are active fathers
Jun 02nd 2017
54

FLUIDJ
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1. "Next, they take your humor......"
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unavoidable at this point.
we've pretty much made our life, history, culture, essence an open book and free for pilfering in our never ending quest for acceptance and embrace in modern society. There are no limits because we've set no limits. We opened our circles. We opened our nuances. We've so desperately been about "SEE ME" "SEE ME" SEEEEEE MMMMEEEEEE!!!!" for the past 20 years that now...this is our bed.

  

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legsdiamond
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11. "the fuck? how is this our fault? "
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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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FLUIDJ
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19. "How is it NOT?"
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We created this climate.

I lost count of the times i've witnessed us trying to teach them how to do us.
Dancing
Singing
Cooking
Talking
Rapping
Joking
Etc. etc. etc.....




"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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legsdiamond
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28. "teach? you sure about that? "
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it's not hard to record a video or listen to a rap song and then copy it and benefit from it.

you always speak about integration and getting in all the white spaces instead of segregating ourselves.

How the fuck do we do that AND keep all our culture to ourselves?


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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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FLUIDJ
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32. "I'm more about taking full advantage of available resources"
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that we had a hand in creating. It's not really about integrating into majority spaces. It's about getting what's owed and available and what we have every right to partake in. Getting out here and existing without letting the weight of our social status keep us from living our best life. Sorry if i've allowed that to be lost in translation along the way.

>it's not hard to record a video or listen to a rap song and
>then copy it and benefit from it.

Yeah, but we don't necessarily have to cosign it so readily. You KNOW how we do...

>you always speak about integration and getting in all the
>white spaces instead of segregating ourselves.
>
>How the fuck do we do that AND keep all our culture to
>ourselves?

I'm not really sure.

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

  

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legsdiamond
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34. "I hear you but I don't think we cosign it..."
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just cause 1 or 2 people stand next to the guy rapping.

it's going to happen with or without us.


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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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tomjohn29
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2. "workplace is a funny place when it comes to this"
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I understand the passive aggressive approach you took because
a) you working while black
b) shit wasnt funny
c) thats lightweight your supervisor
d) you dont want to be a spokesperson for your feelings at work

if this was with a friend...you'd probably confront it a bit different

because of his effort to reach out....id probably type a concise reply laying out what you don't like about that interaction

it will implement boundaries...and probably change his behavior around you....which it seems to be what you want

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Kwesi
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6. "exactly."
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>because of his effort to reach out....id probably type a
>concise reply laying out what you don't like about that
>interaction

and i agree with this.

though this is a slippery slope, too.

i much prefer he dont modify his behavior purely for my sake.

though i then want to be able to actively shun him.

i don't want to be jokey with someone swirling shit like this around their head.

but then this is work - so im 'posed to act right and get along.

...

ugh.

  

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BrooklynWHAT
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3. "dont be passive aggressive at work."
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<--- Big Baller World Order

  

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Kwesi
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9. "understood."
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The3rdOne
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30. "but then again.."
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the most LEGAL way to get your point across successfully is??

  

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4. "can you help me understand how the negro humor upsets you?"
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what are we doing differently?

are you taking it more seriously that i am?

is it because you have a baby? (do you?)

are you more impressionable?

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Kwesi
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7. ".. you're interesting. but if you're serious. i can answer, no problem."
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>what are we doing differently?

not sure what you're doing but i have an acute awareness of white vulturing black culture for some weak lulz.

im not sure if they;re trying to re-write history but i was there and eminem damn sure aint the fucking pope of that group. the pope would be dre. no one can argue that.

>are you taking it more seriously that i am?

fuck yeah im taking this shit serious. i don't rock with whites like that - so i aint trying to have them all in my face with they teeth showing smiling and ke keing thinking im down with how they're behaving - all while using black culture to cook some of their cool.

>is it because you have a baby? (do you?)

no baby, but maybe it's cause im 'cooler' than you?

no dis, but you know - some niggas got it, some don't.

>are you more impressionable?

very.

  

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21. "im just dishing what you put out. "
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https://soundcloud.com/swageyph/yph-die-with-me

  

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Kwesi
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35. "what's even weirder is that I don't mind it. like at all. "
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i wish you were serious so we could dive deeper into how we think & act.

but alas ... you still think im 'trolling'

  

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37. "you come off mad troll-y at times"
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Thu Jun-01-17 03:07 PM by double negative

  

          

so its hard to know when you are being serious or just going with boilerplater OKP snark

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5. "Can't you just work from home?"
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“There is no fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.” -Albert Camus

  

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Kwesi
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8. "that wont protect me from the memes. they slack them around all day."
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plus i like the office.

it's a fucking waterfront!

  

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10. "I get something over 300 emails a day. I don't read but maybe 10"
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If it's not work related delete and move on. How am I the meaner / ruder one ?

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Kwesi
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13. "emails. i can ignore those. but this SLACK shit is another beast"
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it's like instant messaging - perhaps for time sensitive things - so a slack notification is like - ok, let me not ignore this.

i gotta check it out - then voila - atomic eye roll.

  

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20. "I thought you were talking about slacking. "
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My organization is perpetually in the 80s. This idiot is sending you meme instant messages? I'd put up a do not disturb notification. "In a meeting" while he's looking at me sit there.
You got more patience than me. I don't socialize at work.

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23. "Wait, is this a corporate Slack account that's supposed to be used"
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solely for WORK related correspondence????

I thought dude was just showing you something on his lil iPhone screen.....

His lil apology is meaningless because he's clueless to his offense.

If you really want to nip it in the bud, you gotta spell out his infraction if it's that big of a deal to you.





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BrooklynWHAT
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33. "most people use work groupchats for dumb shit and memes"
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<--- Big Baller World Order

  

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12. "Joke ain't that deep."
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Thu Jun-01-17 10:46 AM by Monkey Genius

  

          

The pope's a white dude rapping in a cipher. That's it. That's the joke. You adding extra preservatives to it.

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Kwesi
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14. "POPE RAPPING IN A CYPHER? "
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nope not buying it.

the contrasting photo is of a posed shot.

if it was pope rapping in a cypher - the compared photo would be a rapping scene.

maybe something out that movie while he was rapping.

sorry. really not buying it .

  

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16. "that's how i saw it too."
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but it doesn't matter, i'm white so Kwesi automatically hates me.

it's not all that funny, per se, but it does look like the Pope is spittin' some bars.

  

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17. "how many Black coworkers send you suburban white jokes? "
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Thu Jun-01-17 10:54 AM by legsdiamond

          

I get what Kwesi is saying.

nothing worse than white coworkers sending the only Black guy in the office hippity hoppity jokes.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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KiloMcG
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18. "agreed. terrible first pic for the meme. "
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KiloMcG
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27. "i didn't see your edit"
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and i get this too:

>nothing worse than white coworkers sending the only Black guy
>in the office hippity hoppity jokes.


especially if they're not funny.

  

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24. "Yeah, I don't get the joke..."
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I'm all in favor of roasting fools who cross the line. And maybe the dude in the OP did cross the line.

I just don't think I understand what the joke is supposed to be.

  

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25. "it looks like the Pope is rapping. i think that's it."
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the meme could have been funnier without the first pic and adding some meme words to the Pope pic. terrible execution.

  

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Marbles
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31. "Yeah, I agree with you"
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>the meme could have been funnier without the first pic and
>adding some meme words to the Pope pic. terrible execution.

I didn't see it as Eminem being the pope of rap over black MCs.

You're definitely right though. Very bad execution.

  

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42. "Basically, the joke is as if the bottom pic....."
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....is Em, Snoop, Dre, and Cube as if they're older and church leaders.



Since 1976

  

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43. "Most people are bad at telling jokes."
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45. "That's what I see also"
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Must be context missing. Now this aint to say my radar wouldn't be buzzing, yah yah.

Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call
Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off

  

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legsdiamond
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15. "unless it's the money man I call that shit out immediately"
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or I stew in my frustration for a day or 2.

prime example. Dude who was trying to be cool with me asked me if I ever watched some MadTV shit where the main character was called LeQuida. I said no, that shit doesn't sound like it would be funny to me at all and changed the subject.

but on the inside I'm like "why in the fuck do white folk always try so hard to fuck up a good time?"

but then again.. I also enjoy telling white folk I only have room for 1 white comedian in my rotation. If he isn't funnier than Bill Burr I won't bother.

for some reason that makes white folk mad and I enjoy it.

and I think that's the motivation for mos to of them. They enjoy trying to make us mad while claiming it's all jokes.



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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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Cocobrotha2
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26. "It's trolling for some... others are seeking validation"
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>and I think that's the motivation for mos to of them. They
>enjoy trying to make us mad while claiming it's all jokes.


I think you can actually reach the people seeking validation and explain that they can't assume what's cool with their "black friend" isn't necessarily cool with every black person. Those folks are often self-conscious enough to correct their behavior when they're "educated".

The trolls don't give a fuck. I might ignore or troll back, but the last thing I'm going to do is give them what they want (which is getting mad... unless I can deliver a *professional* knock out blow ).

<-><-><-><-><-><-><-><-><->
<-><-><-><-><-><-><-><-><->

  

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flipnile
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22. "Your 'angry black man' levels are probably far too low, man"
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If folks aren't apologizing to you for no reason at least several times a day then you're doing it wrong.

I remember the time we we discussing databases, and the terms "master" and "slave" came up and dude got all apologetic, on some "I hate that we have to use those terms." I was lol'ing on the inside tho.

  

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29. "lol"
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Coolin...

  

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36. "you right."
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his supervisory role had me thinking extra.

  

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46. "Help that brother out"
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What do you do to get your angry black male levels up? I look at my kids then look at the news.

Taking shots in the dark/that's a bad call
Going straight for your head/ gotta saw it off

  

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flipnile
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52. "To put it simply: I don't play the passive-aggressive games, AT ALL"
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If they don't act right, then I'm not fucking with them. I ain't here for that bullshit. I'd have handled Kwesi's scenario the same as he did (not passive-aggressively tho, I'd have just wrote him off not fucked with him... I don't need any new friends and I'm an introvert).

There's mofos at my job I don't speak to even if we're alone in a hall or elevator just because I don't like their body language. These folks better act right if they want me to interact with them.

  

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38. "learn to manipulate others instead of the other way around "
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39. "I thought this was going to be about jokes we use amongst ourselves"
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Ie: color people time jokes, hair/hairline/weave jokes, etc


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40. "I wouldn't be cool with a co-worker sending that"
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Slack makes it easy to send gifs and memes without giving it a lot of thought but everyone needs that work filter. With anything racial it's best to not even try it.

Personally, I'm fine with my workplace being a little bit less laidback if it makes people check themselves before sending that thru. This ain't facebook, it's work

If I have to work next to you every day and function to my best abilities as your *coworker* I really only want to be concerned with how you view me as a co-worker, not as a black dude.

  

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41. "nicole brown murder scene + Kathy Giffen and beheaded Trump"
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scales are balanced

  

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48. "http://replygif.net/i/802.gif"
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http://replygif.net/i/802.gif

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

  

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Atillah Moor
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50. "minorities and beheaded white people are the overlapping themes "
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what white person wouldn't find that funny?

  

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44. "That's not even "Black" humour though."
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I'd be tentatively with legs if it was actually a joke... but that is literally just two pictures of 1 white person with several black people. It's not a joke. It's implying that black people, whether pastors or rappers are all kind of the same... and when a white person appears, they stand in the middle of the black people and "lead".

As a white person I would've felt like turning my back on dude too.

As YT though it's our job to call this shit out rather than let people get in even more awkward situations trying to find the "appropriate response" like you've found yourself... it's not active racial discrimination, but it's all part of an underlying race-based psychology where everyone is hyper-aware of each other's skin tone at all times. Even if it's meant with no malice, finding humour in that pic is not the sign of a healthy mind.

If you complain, he might get defensive, might accuse you of playing the race card or being over-sensitive... because if he's sharing pictures of "Token Whites" he probably doesn't feel deep down like Black and White people are natural peers - even though he wouldn't consider himself a "racist" he might still subconsciously dismiss your input... if a white co-worker confronted him, he might just die of shame.

Anyway, the guy's a dick.

_______________________________

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forever.

  

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47. "for the meme or for other comments / behavior?"
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>the alternative to passive agression is for me to tell him how
>corny, tone-deaf, vulturrish and just generally uncool i think
>he is.
>

  

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49. "stop pouting..."
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you know white folks. They can't help it...wanna be down and especially if you're cool.

meanwhile, this brother at work said I be bringing the black man down. he came in late and I asked why he never come on time. he goes, "just be glad the cops didn't shoot me on the way here". I go, "you making the rest of the niggas look bad"

that when he said what he said...

imma start asking for her lunch money lol

  

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Atillah Moor
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51. "Here's some shit that went down at my job a while back (long)"
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Fri Jun-02-17 11:16 AM by Atillah Moor

  

          

Nut job white Lady co-worker:
There's been a lot of talk lately about the topic of involvement of black dads in their kids lives. This is my favorite chart, and here's a link to the Pew Charitable Trust article (research is from the CDC).

http://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2013/06/14/the-new-american-father/

Possibly well intentioned white male co-worker:
Sorry for a lengthy response:

I think there is a fathering crisis in our country for far too many children (of all races). Sadly, father-absent-homes usually fall along economic lines, which unfortunately impacts black children proportionately more.

I think what the chart is really showing is that “fathers living with kids” are:
(1) very involved in their kids’ lives no matter the race of the father (and maybe more so with black fathers) and (2) are significantly more involved in their kids’ lives than “fathers not living with kids”.

Unfortunately a majority of black children (and a significant portion of Hispanic and white children) are living in homes without their fathers and are therefore represented in the right column on the chart instead of the left column on the chart:

“Currently, 55.1% of all black children, 31.1% of all Hispanic children, and 20.7% of all white children are living in single-parent homes. Source: U.S. Census Bureau. “Living Arrangements of Children Under 18 Years Old: 1960 to Present”. U.S. Census Bureau July 1, 2012”
“57.6% of black children, 31.2% of Hispanic children, and 20.7% of white children are living absent their biological fathers. Source: Family Structure and Children’s Living Arrangements 2012. Current Population Report. U.S. Census Bureau July 1, 2012.”

With ~50% of black children represented in the right column of the chart, I think there is a fathering crisis for black children. I don't think that means that Hispanics and whites are fathering their children better, I just think that a larger proportion of black children are not receiving the fathering they deserve/need/want.

Ultimately, the economic situations that leads to a lot of this is what motivates me to work at to try to improve communities.

Atillah:
Here are some more numbers to maybe help flesh out the picture.

United States population percentage 2013 estimate
Non white, African descent: 13.2%

Number of citizens classified as Non white, African descent in 2013: approximately 41,777,674 people

U.S. Citizens Non white, African descent living in poverty: 27.2%
approximately 11,363,527 people

47.5% of those living on poverty are single mother households with children aged under 18. Approximately 5,397,675 households.

28% of Non white Americans of African descent are single parents
11,697,748

percentages from 2012-2013

Nut job white Lady co-worker:
Right -- the situation is so much more nuanced than headlines let us get to.


We have economic and judicial forces (among others) creating the fact that a higher percentage of black children are in single-parent households. That leads people to the conclusion that black fathers are absent, but that's true only in numbers, not in percentages. So more black single-parent families, but black fathers not living in the house are *more* likely to be involved in their children's lives than other fathers. We still have the beginning problem of a racial disparity in family make-up. But the policy solutions that focus on structure issues related to families are different than solutions that focus on absent black dads.

Atillah:
That's an interesting perspective seeing as how the total number of single parent families above the poverty line is greater in number than those living below it. It's unfortunate that the infographic does not account for cultural nuances which to me begs the question is regular exposure to positive male role models equal to or at times greater than what has been traditionally defined by the dominant culture as being the ideal family structure?

With more single parent black American families living above poverty combined with the fact that single motherhood was the societal norm for black women since the dawn of American history-- it would therefore seem to suggest that what makes for a successful black American family is not truly comparable to that of other ethnic groups. Much like how the American experience of said group is completely unlike that of other ethnicities within the nation.

As a result it's somewhat confusing as to how one can view the data as representative of a state of crisis or impending disparity when the picture as painted by the numbers and the historic record seems to be one of a community pretty much going from an environment of mandated absentee fatherhood to one of many more active and present fathers. The point being that for this particular group of citizens the racial disparity and fathering crisis originated centuries ago and the numbers that exist today all seem to support that there has been an overall increase in black fathers who live at home as well as those who don't live at home, but are yet actively involved in their children's lives. This is of course assuming we are talking comprehensively about black Americans as Americans and not focusing on the popular, hyperbolic, rhetoric of the day.


Nut job white Lady eventually left

  

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53. "Bruh, by the end everything I read was like Charlie Brown's teacher talk..."
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ss2hULhXf04


That must be how it feels to other people when I start talking programming stuff, and they aren't programmers.

What's the synopsis?

  

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54. "lady put up an infographic showing black dad's are active fathers "
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SURPRISE!

some liberal asshat pipes in with "I think there's a problem with fathering in the black community"

I'm like hold up we got good black dads here in this office (not to mention my own dad) and it's not anyone's place to be talking this kind of shit at work anyway so I post some numbers to basically say shut the hell up

Crazy white lady who posted the infographic chimes in with some defensive bs basically doubling down on liberal asshats reply

I post back with "Black families can't be measured by the standard used for white families because history"

she moved on from the company a few months later

  

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