So, i tried to write out the whole story, and it got too convoluted cuz there's a lot going on.

Basically, how does OKP feel about getting married cuz some of the parents think its a religious obligation before being able to live together? (in the context of a couple who is committed but not really focusing on formalizing).

*asking for a friend*

being made FOR other people

you are the one who has to live out the consequences of said act

marriage is a BIG one

and its not easy to get out of

http://howardlloyd.bandcamp.com

it sets a bad trend for a relationship

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Navem nu, cuando sol
Tutu nu, vondo nos nu
Vita em, no continous non
Nos nu ekta nos sepe ta, amen

When the sun shades the ship
We sweat and life is not safe
To swim or to touch not
When we unite we hedge amen

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

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we aint the two and i aint the one- lyte

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

Don't get married until you are ready for marriage or just ignore the parents and move in.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

don't really see a problem with livin' with your girl before that. yes obviously there can be some problems if the relationship goes south, but *shrugs*.

If you jump out of this situation, you end up in the spikes at the bottom

if you stay in the slot machine, you end up in the spikes at the bottom.

No offense, but she aint shit either because she could give you a cheat code and tell her parents she isnt ready for all that.

But she probably envious of those wedding planning books so she threw your ass on the spikes to get the rings up out you.

>No offense, but she aint shit either because she could give
>you a cheat code and tell her parents she isnt ready for all
>that.

Yeah, she should have her man's back and be a team with him, and not let her parents start tapping that wedge.


>But she probably envious of those wedding planning books so
>she threw your ass on the spikes to get the rings up out you.

If she's not shutting it down, then she's giving her tacit approval of her parents' methods.






Of course, there could be cultural issues at play here, but if they are in the US then the culture is irrelevant. The government don't care about culture when it comes to bad marriages and divorce settlements.

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

If so why not. If the parents want to formalize something they have already agreed to. Sure.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

She wants to get married. Ain't got shit to do with the parents.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

there are benefits to being married compared to living together long term (if you've already been committed for a while).

- less chance for her to have children and be single
- tax breaks
- cheaper healthcare (if at least one works)

I get it.

how committed are you , tho?


sounds like you got questions.


don't do it, bruh.

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"...Whateva, man..." (c) Redman

her fam is muslim, and the marriage they're demanding is Katb al-Kitab - a religious ceremony that's actually not tied at all to US law, but recognized by Islam and also her v large extended fam.

also, basically already living together. not jumping any guns there, just tryina make it work respecting the fam.

**asking for a friend**

Do what you want fam, all we can do is go one the info we have.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

"""
An Islamic marriage contract (Arabic Katb el-Kitab, Hebrew Ketubah, Urdu Nikah-Nama) is an Islamic prenuptial agreement. It is a formal, binding contract considered an integral part of an Islamic marriage, and outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride or other parties involved in marriage proceedings.
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https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Islamic_marriage_contract


I still wouldn't do it, but if it's legally non-binding and they are in the US then they should follow their hearts. From what you posted it sounds like he isn't too into it tho.

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

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Be sensitive, but you can't live your life by the rules of an older generation you don't entirely agree with.

We have to stay in a hotel when we visit my girl's Mom in NC because she doesn't like us sharing a bed in her house - she gets zero say over how we sleep in OUR house and she's accepted that easily enough.

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forever.

>you can't live your life by the rules of an
>older generation

Older folks seem like they don't fully grasp how much the world has changed in recent decades. Some of their advice is outdated and potentially dangerous.