legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79545 posts
Thu May-26-16 12:57 PM
2. "2 people... my uncle and my cousin(his daughter)" In response to Reply # 0
he is older and a big time lawyer in DC.
i think his daughter saw the benefits of one and followed in his footsteps.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
3. "Did they find it difficult to match with one?" In response to Reply # 2
I have this insecurity that we as Black parents, on the younger side (both just under 40) would have a really hard time finding someone interested in Au Pairing with us.
we flirted with the idea of a nanny but thats the main issue, who do you trust with your kids? Do you want someone Black or just whoever is the best at the job? We werent even thay far into the discussion when we nixed it due to trust issues.
we lucked out and my wife just got hired to teach dance at Preschool of the Arts in Charlotte. Its in the ritzy part of town. So we get reduced daycare at the YMCA until our kid is old enough to enter the program.
i just got an email about our kids schedule and I'm feeling uneasy about letting someone else watch my kid.
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5. "LITERALLY EVERY daycare we've contacted has stupid waitlist..." In response to Reply # 4
it's worse this time than it was last go around. we not even looking to start it until December at the earliest, but more likely January.
90 people waitlists, 18-24 month waitlists, folks flat out telling us "We never have infant openings" ... How do you NEVER have infant openings???? WTF?!
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79545 posts
Thu May-26-16 02:43 PM
18. "yeah, we really lucked up" In response to Reply # 5
not sure how a place never has openings
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19. "Sounds like a business opportunity..." In response to Reply # 5
>it's worse this time than it was last go around. >we not even looking to start it until December at the >earliest, but more likely January. > >90 people waitlists, 18-24 month waitlists, folks flat out >telling us "We never have infant openings" ... How do you >NEVER have infant openings???? WTF?!
34. "dude there are only like 12 slots PER SCHOOL many times" In response to Reply # 26
in texas you can only have 4 newborns per adult and no more than 8 newborns per classROOM in my daycare there is only ONE newborn room so 8 newborns and two adults in there at all times
those are state law maximums
if i wanted my 5 month to be in there she'd get preference because we have our 2 year old already going there my daughter has a classmate whose parents have a 3 months old so there is 2 of your 8 spots already
13. "They work for you... and one word from you, and they go home" In response to Reply # 3
>I have this insecurity that we as Black parents, on the >younger side (both just under 40) would have a really hard >time finding someone interested in Au Pairing with us.
I'm familiar with one black couple that had some au pairs. I think they had african or west indian au pairs... either way, they treated them like "the help" and had a decent experience.
6. "yeah, my boy and his family had 2 or 3 over the past 5 years" In response to Reply # 0
they have 3 kids and they both work. They've never had their kids in daycare, only au pairs then straight to school. Seems to have worked out for them. I know they were really close to the first au pair, they would take her along on vacations and stuff.
11. "not sure, my boy is African, his wife is Jamaican and the au pair" In response to Reply # 9
was from brazil or Colombia or some shit. I don't recall them ever complaining about them. The first one's contract ended and the second one wanted to move on.
25. "Technically that shouldn't happen if they're from an official AuPair" In response to Reply # 10
service organization. The Au Pairs only get around $195/week from the host family from most of the official organizations. Wonder if there was something more to that situation?
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79545 posts
Thu May-26-16 02:47 PM
22. "IKR.. that sounds like a Tyler Perry movie" In response to Reply # 14
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-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
16. "Buddies with a 24 hour a day nanny" In response to Reply # 0
With the oldest they had a (Black) Belizean woman that they absolutely adored. She was perfect....like a bonus grandmother. Shared a lot of the same values.
Then they relocated and had a Mexican lady that couldn't comb the kids hair, allowed the 3 year old to make her cry... it was a mess. They had to let her go because she apparently gave up at a park and let him wild out while she'd be on her phone going for walks. The parents heard about it from other parents & nannies.
Now they have an eastern european woman who at leas is able manage them and keep them safe.
24. "How is one nanny going to be 24s a day? That sound criminal. " In response to Reply # 16
I mean I get a live-in but live-in's get time off too.
>With the oldest they had a (Black) Belizean woman that they >absolutely adored. She was perfect....like a bonus >grandmother. Shared a lot of the same values. > >Then they relocated and had a Mexican lady that couldn't comb >the kids hair, allowed the 3 year old to make her cry... it >was a mess. They had to let her go because she apparently gave >up at a park and let him wild out while she'd be on her phone >going for walks. The parents heard about it from other parents >& nannies. > > >Now they have an eastern european woman who at leas is able >manage them and keep them safe. > >
********** "Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
29. "I don't think so. I'm still not 100% comfortable with male " In response to Reply # 17
caregivers. Our daughter has had them in her current daycare, and they are just ok, no issues with them, but it's not something i'd choose if I had a choice. With the Au Pair situation, you do have a choice though.
35. "man, i don't even want men watching my dog while i'm away" In response to Reply # 17
i be giving all them dudes on doggyvacay the side eye.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
30. "not really. I think a lot of that comes from stagnant, casual sources" In response to Reply # 21
more than a caregiver or person actively imparting that onto a child in the early years.
I legit have beef with Disney and all of these toy and media companies for perpetuating and imposing this steady stream of whiteness and white standards. It's nearly IMPOSSIBLE to avoid it, especially if you have a child in daycare around other children.
36. "RE: Do you know any Black families that have/had an Au Pair?" In response to Reply # 0
Me. Growing up my dad and mom both worked for GM. And I had a Nanny named Connie. When she wasn't working with my family anymore, she worked with my aunt and uncle.
She was awesome!
And yes...I'm black American. My parents and their parents are black American 😀
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