who can I blame it on?

>who can I blame it on?

"Get ready..for your blessing..."

it may mean different thing to people

To define dating....
I imagine one has to define their goals/endgame to interacting with potential love interests....

The endgame should determine what dating is to you....
But you gotta find someone that has the same definition for it to work.....






*disclaimer - I haven't dated since the Clinton administration*

I KID!!!

Not really, but anyway.

Did you parents restrict you from dating when you were younger?

trust me, it works so,much better when the date isn't an interview.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

yet, I'm not an off the cuff speaker so Im not giving someone the third degree out the gate...

/
man, why you ain't tell me about jersey mike's?
I had a sub and almost fainted lol

and ignored me when i answered his question.

well twice he ignored me.

gave him a pass the first time b/c maybe he got busy, shit happens.

so the second time he contacted me i replied to 3 or 4 messages.

and he ignored me again.

the third time he contacted me, i just asked him, why do you keep contact me to only ignore me?

He's like because you didn't ask any questions about me.

If, you were interested you would ask me questions.

I'm like your bio is about 4 pages long.

It was seriously about 20 paragraphs, plus 20 photos.

So I have no idea what guys want, nor do I care at this point.

i don't usually make it past the first week or so of 'talking to someone'

i'm not built for this

i just need someone to come through and marry me

i can't STAND dating in the social media era

stop asking me to send you a pic

stop sending me unsolicited ass pictures of you at starbucks. at your desk. in the elevator.

I DONT CARE

you going through and liking all my pictures is NOT courting and doesn't count as you putting in effort

your good morning texts and random 'hope you're having a good day' texts don't equate to you getting to know me or us having a conversation

CALL ME.

TAKE ME OUT.

PUT YOUR PHONE DOWN AND LIVE IN THE MOMENT.

whyyy is this so difficult?

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Coolin...

lol
but I have sent pics when requested and GM texts in the past

in online dating...sorry...but I WILL ask for pics... catfish is real in the field lol


but I also aint shit and aint worried about dating or should I say I have 'relationship ADHD + emotional unavailability' so with me it's all about keeping my attention

keep my attention and then I get my grown man on and 'date'....chivalrous and all that

I'm not one of those dudes who meet u Monday and immediately wanna go out Tuesday night...I gotta get a vibe

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Coolin...

i'm like what dude is sending ass shots from starbucks lol

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

I bet a lot are but that shit always seemed weird to me.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

calling and spitting game was so much fun.

I bet you are considered an old soul and most women prefer not to talk on the phone these days.

ionno..

do you tell guys this? cause I bet they think they are doing it right.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

i just told my girlfriend a few days ago that i'm going to just start going along with this foolishness, b/c i mean...maybe this is just how things are nowadays. literally, every man who has attempted to talk to me recently has been stuck on this 'send me a pic' 'lets text' shit.

a few days ago, dude sent an unsolicited picture and i replied back and said, 'so fine!!!'

i couldn't think of anything else

i hated myself for the next 30 minutes for even humoring it

he wrote back and said, "im pretty regular but i hope you enjoyed the picture."

i laughed

make it stop.

proper spelling means you aren't feeling him.

seriously tho, ....ummm, send a photo and I will tell you how to fix your problems.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

and you can fix my life?

lol

ok iyanla

sign me up

https://www.instagram.com/p/-Vdk8Brz22/?taken-by=no_chill_shawty

https://www.instagram.com/p/BAltpVhrzy-/?taken-by=no_chill_shawty

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

for a minute there

and i didnt think you would post a pic.

are you always this impatient? j/k

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

the pic. i rarely ever know what to say. but i mostly hate getting picture requests. i'm not 16-25. i don't find joy in snapping selfies all damn day. nor am i picture ready at a moments notice. it's annoying

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hello, lover.

Not on some don juan shit, but the shock that someone unambiguously said outright they want to take them on a date, lol. It's gotten me more points then I deserve out the gate even if it just fizzles after one date.

Meanwhile I am like "Isn't that what you're supposed to do".

I can't tell if it's regional. NYC's the home of unsolicited hollas, for good and bad, and transplants were usually the ones like 'WOW, that was surprisingly straightforward'


Or if it's just generational; it's alot easier to send out txt's, flirty things to avoid outright rejections until you're 100% you're in then you can go for a full court press.

i'm willing to relocate

j/k

but keep it up. you're doing things the right way.

and am not into endless texts or message exchanges via some app or another.

they're especially shocked if i want to meet for something other than sex.

oh and the fact that i don't exchange nude pix almost always gets their goat. my standard response is 'i'll show you in person'. so many situations have fizzled at that point - it makes me wonder if those dudes were actually interested or just wanted to see my ding-a-ling. and why are they SO obsessed w/my johnson? the Internet is FULL of dillz pix. why do they need MINE in particular? wtf? i've considered sending them some shot of a random peen - but one i didn't find on the Internet in case they pop that joint in Google image search.

but anyway - the shit makes me feel old.

fuck you.

*hugs you*

it makes me feel old too. and, as though i'll be alone forever.

'least i got my pup to keep me company, i suppose

did you take your cat to the vet or nah?

the first time he attacked the doc/technicians as they tried to draw blood and get a urine sample. so we had to go back - they sedated him and were able to get the samples. none of the tests found any problem that could cause his symptoms. the doc recommended a stool softener b/c she thought the vomiting is a result of him straining to pass stool. i've given it to him consistently and he's still vomiting but not as often as before.

so i'm done. i think he's just old but he's not sick.

fuck you.

>and am not into endless texts or message exchanges via some
>app or another.
>
>they're especially shocked if i want to meet for something
>other than sex.
>
>oh and the fact that i don't exchange nude pix almost always
>gets their goat. my standard response is 'i'll show you in
>person'. so many situations have fizzled at that point - it
>makes me wonder if those dudes were actually interested or
>just wanted to see my ding-a-ling. and why are they SO
>obsessed w/my johnson? the Internet is FULL of dillz pix.
>why do they need MINE in particular? wtf? i've considered
>sending them some shot of a random peen - but one i didn't
>find on the Internet in case they pop that joint in Google
>image search.
>
>but anyway - the shit makes me feel old.

It would be one thing if we were talking kids fresh outta college, but alot of them are in generations where smart phones weren't ubiquitous when they started dating (late 20's into 30's). It just seems particularly lazy.

As far as the penis shots, it's also funny how nudes seems like harmless flirting in 2016 but a real voice to voice phonecall (hell, life meeting in your example) is intimate!

>It would be one thing if we were talking kids fresh outta
>college, but alot of them are in generations where smart
>phones weren't ubiquitous when they started dating (late 20's
>into 30's). It just seems particularly lazy.

YES.

>As far as the penis shots, it's also funny how nudes seems
>like harmless flirting in 2016 but a real voice to voice
>phonecall (hell, life meeting in your example) is intimate!

it's puzzling. lol

fuck you.

they don't have to waste their time?

>oh and the fact that i don't exchange nude pix almost always
>gets their goat. my standard response is 'i'll show you in
>person'. so many situations have fizzled at that point - it
>makes me wonder if those dudes were actually interested or
>just wanted to see my ding-a-ling. and why are they SO
>obsessed w/my johnson? the Internet is FULL of dillz pix.
>why do they need MINE in particular? wtf? i've considered
>sending them some shot of a random peen - but one i didn't
>find on the Internet in case they pop that joint in Google
>image search.
>
>but anyway - the shit makes me feel old.

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Any dude that only has confidence when he's texting from his phone ain't a live dude. Big red flag.

Edit: Basically saying that you need to meet dudes out in the real world in order to avoid the lames that play with their phones all day.

These are men I've met in person

Seen several times

I live in Philly, so I know how that is. A 6 in most other cities in America is like a 9 here.

Dating men from outside of your area might help.

If i talk to 100 guys, 10 will want to meet. 5 will want me to come over to their house, 4 will make other plans, usually coffee and cancel or never follow up after initially asking me and 1 i'll meet. i haven't had a guy buy me a meal in a few years.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

a friend said its because I'm not out there....
I limit my social media stance
it's too intrusive
I want something more authentic
organic...

don't worry about what I got on
what my ass look like
ask about my momma
who you be with
my interest

yeah...take me out

#gettoknowme

seems like we have similar dating struggles

fuck you.

are they nuts?

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no one is looking for anything of substance

and they are lazy/the women are easy

__________________________

Just tryna do the best that I can with what it is I have...

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

And let's it's dance hall music we dancing to:

Is the woman expecting to feel my thang thang pressed against her? Like if she don't feel it is she disappointed?



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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

i'm beyond good with a grown woman/man two step

ain't nothing wrong with a grown man 2 step.

you really want dudes put here do IT the latest dance moves?

if I can't put the dog in the bun on a dance floor what are we doing this for?

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TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

yes
disappointed?
not really, shows self control ....

i don't want to offend them w/my flaccidity. it's happened b4.

fuck you.

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One Hundred.

People with pictures ONLY from the neck up..you aint slick


People that treat dating as an extension of their social life


Or on the flip side..


People tHat want to go days..sometimes weeks (even months) messaging back and forth trying to get to know you without the prospect of actually going out on a date. Not looking for a pen pal


I got more. Back later

Everyone ive ever been involved with jad some pre-existing connection to me and got to know me that way

Im 33 and just started "dating"

Well it's more like meeting people on tinder and sleeping with them. But i honestly do want to meet someone for a reltionship. Its weird.

WHAT A TIME TO BE ALIVE

the men i meet lately are all unspeakably dull, lacking in social skills and home training. the idea of being a cat lady, or whatever the modern equivalent is, is increasingly appealing.

this has been my experience too


i've started acclimating myself with the idea that i may very well be alone/childless


just me and my pup

>the idea of being a cat lady,
>or whatever the modern equivalent is, is increasingly
>appealing.

Oh, and in modern times it's still a cat lady, lol.

don't tell me on a first date that having sex is one of your hobbies.

i don't care if you're an artist, i do not want to see unsolicited nude photos you took of another woman.

if we're meeting somewhere that's closer to where you live than where i live, don't be late and then still expect me to come to wherever you are instead of meeting me at the suggested place.

how about, walking me back to my train instead of saying, oh you know where you're going right? and then jumping in a cab.

depends on the convo, but if you felt the way you do did, the convo obviously wasn't there lol

-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.

She gets bothered? Date's soon over. She's anywhere from not bothered to with it? Cool. Not trying to waste time being on the wrong page with someone.

The other stuff was just asshole shit. Not walking her to her train? lol, I remember sneaking a hoochie over the crib when I was like 17, and I kicked her out to walk to the subway at like 5am (I wanted her to bounce before my peoples woke up). Next day, my mom was like "I know you didn't make that girl walk to the train at 5am... you're supposed to be a gentleman!" lol

like, do you wait for any indicators it cool?

give me an example of how you do it

lol, if we're connecting then it's easy to just slip in a little no-so-subtle innuendo.

It's when there's *no* vibe, or the dude tries to be something that he isn't that these kinda things go left, fast.

why? lol

I'm very much interested in sex (I probably wouldn't go on a date if I wasn't). I'm just being honest by sharing what's on my mind. If I get a positive response, I can talk more freely and naturally. If it's negative, then that's a sign that she isn't feeling me for one reason or another. I'm just trying to get both of us on the same page as quickly as possible.

Not that I'd just blurt out "so when are we fucking???" but I'll jump all over a chance to drop a little innuendo.

and save everyone some time.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

this post is a simple venting of frustration.

we all have to kiss a few frogs b4 we find our prince.

fuck you.

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"