4. "Kids are only as annoying as the parent allows them to be..." In response to Reply # 0
My sisters kids? VERY annoying... She never taught them any sort of conflict resolution amongst themselves, so any time they have a problem...even the SLIGHTEST problem, they come to me. And its not in a non annoying fashion... its rife with whining and exaggeration. They constantly talk back when you tell them to do something and don't listen. My sister doesn't set boundaries for them. They interrupt adult conversations and she won't correct them
My brothers kids on the other hand are a pleasure. They follow directions and wait to be acknowledged. If you tell them to go entertain themselves, thats exactly what they do...
If you don't want your future ankle-biters to be annoying...dont let them be.
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
9. "I been trying to tell these niggas" In response to Reply # 7
Black people obsess over obedient children. Some kids are just going to do what you say. Others are more strong-willed. You have to find a way to keep your house in order without crushing the kid's spirit and sense of independence. You can't do that by running your house like a dictator. You've got to be the boss, but niggas wanna be Kim Jong Un.
15. "I understand about kids having independence and whatnot..." In response to Reply # 9 Sun Oct-25-15 12:35 PM by Dyskoteknowlegy
but if I tell you to turn off the TV and clean up I don't need attitude thrown at me...not from a 8 year old. Im all for kids making their own decisions, but there is a decorum when you address an adult.
1. Dont interrupt when two adults are talking 2. When I tell you to do something..."Yes Daddy" is all I want to hear. 3. Complete the task I give you to the letter.
This instills discipline, which will also will help them be successful No. They don't have free reign and no, you can't talk to me any sort of way.
They can choose what ever outfit they want to wear that day or they can decide what they want for a snack, but as a parent I have the final say and ultimate veto power.
My father was VERY authoritarian. It wasn't always what I wanted to hear, but as a child and a teenager I had a fixed point and someone I knew I had to answer to. I still did what I wanted to a degree, but certain things I knew wouldn't fly. I would see my friends cutting school to smoke weed in the car and go to the mall and I thought; "Y'all crazy. What if your Pops decides to pop up on that ass?" It wasn't a concern for them. My mom was so nice and soft, we'd just walk over her, but when my dad showed up, we'd straighten the fuck up. I think the duality was the key. I could talk to my mom about anything and I could do anything around my mom she was very permissive. But my father held the line and enforced standards.
Im not as bad as my father, but I do see it as my job to keep the kids on the straight and narrow. Thats not to say I don't love up on them.
11. "if thats true my daughter bout to be a a billionaire" In response to Reply # 7
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6. "Whining is annoying as fuck" In response to Reply # 0
I'd venture that we're MORE annoyed by whining and we're definitely more annoyed by tantrums. Take your annoyance then add frustration and embarrassment. Nobody wants that kid to get its shit together more than us.
10. "I'm nowhere near the point where they really test you" In response to Reply # 0
but i'm already starting to see that some things you just can't control... the biggest "realization" for me since having a kid is that this is another human being... with thoughts/feelings/emotions... no i'm not stupid, i always knew that kids are human, but when I start to think about what we expect of kids... what we want them to do... without taking into consideration their wants and needs... it's kind of unfair as hell so I can understand being a little more lax when they start to assert themselves.
Of course they need to learn how to act/behave in public. Of course they need to learn to be polite/respectful/etc. But really, if someone was constantly picking you up, placing you somewhere, taking you somewhere, making you do something that you didn't want to do, you'd probably act an ass from time to time too.
In summary, yes, they can be pests. I'm big on quiet time and personal space, and this kid has no sense of either. But it's exciting to watch him become his own person and figure out who he is and to me that makes it worth it.
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79624 posts
Sun Oct-25-15 08:14 PM
20. "i'll let you know in a few years." In response to Reply # 0
**************** TBH the fact that you're even a mod here fits squarely within Jag's narrative of OK-sanctioned aggression, bullying, and toxicity. *shrug*
21. "As parents, we're privy to a great number of moments where they aren't....." In response to Reply # 0
annoying at all and are completely awesome little people. So, while they can be annoying af at times, and I can certainly understand that for other people that aren't their parents, we have way more context and know that mostly they're awesome, and only some times annoying. Others don't always get that benefit as your sample size is way smaller.
But also, most folks think my kid is pretty awesome Haha, but I'll be the first to say that at times he's annoying. But I also think everyone is annoying some times. Even myself.
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