My mother is having a minor issue with a couple of her siblings because she does not want to take in and care for one of her other siblings.

Basically, I have an uncle who has some serious medical issues. He is in the hospital because he had a stroke as well as a diabetic seizure at a local casino. In addition to being sick with additional medical issues, he is homeless as well as has a serious gambling habit. Lastly, he wants family members to take him in, but doesn't want to give anyone any money to stay there nor does he cook, so he expect home cooked meals. He does receive some state money but fucks all of it off at the casino.

Here is my thing about my uncle. I do have some compassion for him, but he can't stay with my mother! She has her own potential life threatening medical issues to deal with, plus she doesn't have the time nor money to care for someone else. She does have the room to take in my uncle, but me and my mother feel that he needs to live at an assisted living facility once he gets out of the hospital.

In all, some of my relatives are giving my mother the blues because they feel he should live with her and doesn't believe in sending family members to nursing homes. I don't believe in getting involved in sibling rivalries or beefs, but EVERYONE in my family knows that my house is off limits! I told my mother that he can't afford to live with me and I refuse to take care of a grown ass man. My uncle needs to find his way and learn to be more responsible for himself and take care of his health along with get rid of his gambling habit.

If they are all about helping out a family member, everyone should contribute their fair share of either time or money (including housing and food)...otherwise they're BSing
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I believe that the person in need has to make an effort to help himself. It isn't right nor fair for a man in his 50s to expect other people to take care of him and not contribute towards his own caring. It would be a different story if my uncle was responsible, employed or if isn't employed but receives state money, broke off some money for his care.

To be fair, family members have briefly taken him in for a brief period, but you know, welcomes gets worn out after some time. My uncle just needs to go to a place that can help him bathe, feed him and provide shelter. Nobody in my big ass family has the means to care for him like he needs to be cared for.