Do you typically "go with the flow" until the woman speaks up and starts talking about yall need to "make it official" or she tells you she wants to hang out more and all that jazz

or do you let her follow your lead? as in, you ask her to be your woman and show her you want to be exclusive

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and my opinion on her.

If I'm not trying to be in a serious thing initially, I go with the flow and decide when she voices that level of interest. I have no problem with the loss if I'm not ready and she moves on. If I've grown to feel it's something I'm ready to explore, I'll rock with it from there.

If I'm actively on it...meaning, I'm evaluating potentials, if I find what I deem someone worth the investment, I make it known swiftly. And I'm more likely to walk if she takes too long deciding if she's down (for me in the past, that usually wasn't a good sign).

If I was open to something serious but didn't see her as the long term potential type and we're casual, I never bring it up and if she ever does, I reminder her that it started casual and I'm comfortable with that. She can choose her course of action after that info.

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they give you half-truths to give you hope for something more so they can keep fucking you.

JK....

i have the same question tho. asking for a relationship has never worked for me. i always feel like a dude would be lucky to have me, but they be like, nah, i'm good.

in the future, if i can pick myself up after this bullshit i just went through, i'll just keep trying to actively date multiple men until someone i like locks it down. no more of that "where is this going?" bs. I'm not sure men are motivated to commit if they dont sense there are other dudes lurking around heavy. but i dont know shit.

I assume if a man isn't trying to lock me down, he doesn't give a fuck and just wants to "go with the flow" while dating other woman or until he finds the one he wants

>I assume if a man isn't trying to lock me down, he doesn't
>give a fuck and just wants to "go with the flow" while dating
>other woman or until he finds the one he wants


Maybe he's not ready to lock it down because of the level of responsibility and expectation that comes with that stage. If that's the case then you can only wait, put a time limit on your waiting and then be willing to make the hard choice to leave if the time limit is crossed. But talk it out first in GREAT DETAIL.




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i usually pay attention to the consistency and fade out if I don't see any enthusiasm on his part

and still have no intention of getting serious.

that NEVER happens to me though

but you right

plans and that you want to be a part of them...

exaMPLE
if you hear me talking about getting my own food truck...

then help me come up with a business plan...


a man wants/needs a partner in life and not someone that he has to drag along like an anchor.

If i can see that you are that partner and not just someone to sleep with then im all in.

You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

plans and that you want to be a part of them...

exaMPLE
if you hear me talking about getting my own food truck...

then help me come up with a business plan...


a man wants/needs a partner in life and not someone that he has to drag along like an anchor.

If i can see that you are that partner and not just someone to sleep with then im all in.

You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.

we reconsider

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not on you?

it's about putting in time to convince me you are the one for me.

it goes both ways tho.

there were times when she moved on or went on a date with someone else and it would force me to decide if I was ok with losing out to another dude.

if she was worth it I would have that talk or give her all my time.

if not, have fun, holla at me when he stumbles and if I'm available we can see where it goes.

this was back in the day tho... at 35, I would probably be more vocal but I still wouldn't like to hear that question.

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bc its a dumb question. no one knows where shit is going to go.

i was just using that as an example.

Joint be da quickest way for a Jawn ta get her feelings hurt.

-Scene be like-

Lights is off,....ya'll both languidly layin there onna bed, sex-funky(c)Jilly from Philly
The blinds is cracked a lil bit with moonlite cascading into the room from outside. Ya'll puffin' the *after-orgasm L wit Peter King's "African Dialects" playin inna background on some ol'..https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22DVPCXVjfk. You gently rubbin your fingers along the contour of her frame and THEN........


Babydoll: Babe, can I ask you something?....

NoDrawls: *spidey sense den a muhfukka*...yeah, sure Babe, what is it?

Babydoll: So like,.....where exactly are we going wit this?

NoDrawls: Sheeeeiiiittt, where we goi....*scratches head from frustration*...you know what, I tell where we going,....we going to the store for more condoms. Thas da fuck we going wit dis! FOH wit dat shit.

*gets up and goes to fridge for cold brew

Babydoll: JERK!...Fine I'm leaving. Untie me,...and gimmie my KY back!


Later for dat sillyness.
Ladies, please understand, from your mentor, NoDrawls Esquire Duke the IIIrd High Chancellor,...there is no quicker way to "kick rocks" status den to come out yo frame wit dat "where is this going?" shit.

I ain't neva lied ta ya'll.....

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abt what it is you want

grassrootsphilosopher

but I just never seem to REALLY want to be with most women officially after dating them for a while...feels like it has to be nearly perfect ENOUGH (not perfect) for me to REALLY feel like "yeah, I want to be with them and ONLY them."

As bad as this sounds, I see SO MANY guys who have "girlfriends" and even wives, and look at how they treat them...and I feel like many of them were in my same position...having a woman who they know is truly into them, dedicated, even looks good, cooks, good sex, etc etc....but for whatever reasons, they just aren't into them enough to treat them the way they deserve to be treated. But for selfish reasons, they make it official because they know she'll leave otherwise.

So what I'm saying is, "it's not you, it's me" is really how a lot of us feel. Doesn't mean you aren't a great catch, but I just think it can take a lot of things that you have ZERO control of in order for someone to really want to be all the way in 100% with you or whoever else it may be.

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it's real easy to cape for them when you are on the outside looking in...


since the beginning of time Niggas been swearing they will treat their queen better than the next man and once the newness wears off...

we go right back to being who we are.

BUT most of those dudes love the shit out of their mate.

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>it's real easy to cape for them when you are on the outside
>looking in...
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>since the beginning of time Niggas been swearing they will
>treat their queen better than the next man and once the
>newness wears off...
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>we go right back to being who we are.
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>BUT most of those dudes love the shit out of their mate.

Of course, everyone acts different when it's new. But seeing dudes do blatant shit, feels like they really can't "love" their girl for real. No cape needed, and it's really not caping since I'm the one saying I wouldn't make it official with her to begin with!

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and its really that simple.

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if a man has a good woman and he can't or won't give her what she deserves, but he wont let her go to get what she deserves elsewhere....he aint shit.

thats not bitterness at all; thats just actual factuals.

>if a man has a good woman and he can't or won't give her what
>she deserves, but he wont let her go to get what she deserves
>elsewhere....he aint shit.

Wont let her go? He isnt handcuffing her to the bed post.

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it also could be seen as selfish.

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the recent post about the breakup. I get it but man

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but you know your friends aint shit for that tho.

at least my ex boo was good enough to let me go when it was clear he couldn't give me what i deserve.

Obviously we will wife up and so sometimes it's sincere.

To answer the OP, it just depends, I have never come out and had some discussion about it but if I am leaning that way chances are she will bring it up and I'll confirm.

It's one of the rare times you can sit back a little and let her be the decider, aggressor, whatever you wanna say.

If I feel that way and she doesn't, I know it, so why make it awkward? Bask in the glow of infatuation and hot fucking until it evaporates. If she feels that way and I don't, ditto, but obviously a little less basking and a little less glow involved. But if it's mutual, yeah, she is gonna approach it and in the meantime at most I will try to make her feel comfortable coming out and saying it.

If she says it too soon that's a red flag, that shows some form of self-interest. Girls who have said it out of nowhere and/or too soon were either just out to have a man (not me in particular) or were out for my guap. Emotional manipulation can definitely be a two-way street.

And you will know MY JACKET IS GOLD when I lay my vengeance upon thee.

i'm at a place where I don't just claim someone for the hell of it. We have to be moving in the right direction together and if I feel like we are on the same page and we have ALREADY Talked about the future a few times then I take the initiative and start the clear conversation about being exclusive and titles.

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then I'm taking my time & going wit the flow


>Do you typically "go with the flow" until the woman speaks up
>and starts talking about yall need to "make it official" or
>she tells you she wants to hang out more and all that jazz
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>or do you let her follow your lead? as in, you ask her to be
>your woman and show her you want to be exclusive
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i've never really had that be code for "still sleep and talk with other women"

but i think age plays a major part of it...

i think the older you are the higher the stakes so you don't have the luxury of going with the flow after a certain point

somewhere between 25-35 one needs to develop a bit more consideration of biological clocks and i'm not really mad at guys who are proactive nor reactive (to ultimatums or heavy-handed hints)

Let me sport my Air Hyperbole 2010s in peace. (c) ansomble

Building repetoires (c) spm since 1983

I try and make it exclusive as soon as I can if that's what she's looking for too

But

if it's someone I really like having sex with more than I like her as someone I could be in an exclusive relationship with then I try and have sex w/her for as long as possible...or until she puts me on the spot w/the proverbial "so what are we doing...or where is this going"

grassrootsphilosopher

but you can be wifey immd. depends on the guy. when you know you know.


does it really matter?

wonder what bin's doing?
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so many dudes are different

clear communication is needed so badly because ain't no common rules to this shit

groupon date to one of those paint and bring yo own wine thingies. Some of her friends that she hadn't seen in years happened to have been at said event. She calls me over and says "This is my boyfriend Kae" while introducing me to the group.

I didn't fight it and we've been rockin' hard ever since. She gave me a title and I accepted it.



we even live together now.

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I haven't been that comfortable with a man to do something like that in a long time

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plus friday and saturday night sleep overs

but we ain't had "that talk"

i fucking hate those talks, I'd rather the man just claim my ass

My mindset has been to just enjoy it because I haven't found something like this a long time


but I need to have an idea of what the futue holds soon becuase I'm not getting any younger!

say it assertively.


and he'll follow suit. He just doesn't know what you want right now. we don't pick up on signals as good as you think we do.

If you want a boyfriend and you want him to be your boyfriend---claim him.

we're not so hung up on titles. he's showing you all the quailities that he's your man. No dude is seeing you that much and wanting to be single. He just doesn't know how to verbalize it or he fears you rejecting his offer.

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with in the past, who I assumed wasn't interested in a relationship because they weren't trying to lock me down

I'd just fade out

Because, I'll admit, I too, was afraid of rejection

they praly weren't tho

this guy makes me feel different than all of them

if you're going to invest 4 nights a week with him and you're unwilling to scale back, you may as well ask or talk about it.

because you're giving him a relationship without any strings attached at this point.

plenty of married people don't even spend that much time together.

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expectations are not outlined

then before you know it

someone is fucking someone else and the whole thing is fucked

you talk it through like an adult

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and they can agree to them.

it doesn't mean they're going to take them seriously....

we are not even talking about what the fuck it is you are talking about.

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why don't you take a dose of your kratom and call me in the morning when you chill out?

lol

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lots of okp personalities...sometimes you get tired of the same old shit.

im sure I say a lot of same old shit as well

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but yeah, you aren't wrong about dibs, she bitter as fuck

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you can go with the flow...but when a guy and girl are casually dating and never address the issue, one or both of them might see the relationship one way when it's really another.

if that's the person you won't to be with, nothing wrong with saying "i'm feeling you, i want to see where this goes..." ppl got to learn that it doesn't have to be so cut and dry. "we are together, this is what you must do, this is what I will do..." but you could be thinking y'all building something and the other person just considers you a cut buddy that's mad cool.

I think you're fucked even more when you start expecting shit

or he could be today but is not PARTICULARLY interested in committing to today and tomorrow and the next day. not asking leaves it open, so he can explore other otpions while getting all the benefits of being in the relationship with you with an easy way to get out of a the undeclared relationship. if you ask, he will agree because it's what he needs to do to get sex or continue having sex with you. but take stock of the married men in here, for the most part they are telling, they just ask.

if I liked a woman she would know
if she liked me and I didnt in return, she would know

someone always gets hurt by playing games

Until he coughs it up, I'm single. **doing me** Until he says he's no longer comfortable with that.

It used to be, go with the flow and wait until I no longer had the time for anyone and hit the "We're either together or we're not". Not anymore, they like to use it against you afterwards no matter what. You leave them and they say don't leave! I don't want you to leave but I wasn't ready... lol

Somebody's lying...

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until one of them locks her down. anything less than that is just games and hope.

thats been my #1 mistake in my dating history.

Somebody's lying...

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giving that good loving to someone thats not your man....now thats tricky.

man i swear if i could turn back the hands of time....

and then the other gone wanna fuck too, and so on

unless you mean, going on a lot of dinner dates and never talking to them after that

actually, now that I think about it, this really could weed out men who aren't interesed in you as a friend

just have lot of "friends"....that could work

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be really really stingy with that shit.

like if you at 3 months with a dude and he wants sex, he has to lock it down or step the fuck off. just like if a man is at 3 months with a woman and she wants a relationship, he either locks it down or steps the fuck off.