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>To keep it brief: I'd buy a beer for nearly every person that >ever "bullied" me in life. Some of the dudes that picked with >me became some of my closest friends once I stood up for >myself. In-effect, all they really did was motivate me to >improve myself, to achieve, to not settle, to stand up for >myself, to be able to appreciate the growth I've made over the >years.
I mean, good on you, but that’s literally the best case scenario when it comes to bullying, but even then, there are varying degrees of “bullying”. Not everyone is wired like you to use it as motivation. Further, not everyone is wired like THEM to be good enough to respect you when you stood up for yourself. Some “bullies” are just fucking around and don’t realize they’re actually hurting people. Other bullies are sadists and predators who know what they’re doing and that is precisely WHY they do it.
You cannot boil this down to your experience. That’s just the truth of the matter.
>At least that's how I came up, and how I view adversity in >life. Nothing worth having comes easy. *Nothing*
That’s such a copout, as though people going out of their way to make things harder is a good thing. Life is hard enough as it is without people making it their mission to make life harder on others, and people who do that shit don’t get a pass just because the people they bully turned out ok.
In pro wrestling, WWE had a trainer named Bill Demott. Bill called guys faggots for taking time off for being injured. He once kicked a guy’s leg after it was broken and in a cast. He made tasteless jokes about a beloved legend who was dead while the dead mans son and a family friend were training at the time. He smacked a guy in the head who was out with a concussion.
Why? Because of this “nothing should come easy!” bullshit, as thought THAT was what was going to make them great. For all Bill’s abuse, he never produced a single superstar.
>I have no idea what the intent of this attention and the party >is (didn't really read the article), so I take back any >comment about that. Just saying that the *last* thing that I'd >want is people feeling sorry for me.
It’s not a pity party. The guy wasn’t even aware that this happened. And you’re mentality works for you, but it’s on some “we don’t take charity!” bullshit when someone is trying to help.
The BOTTOM LINE of all this, truth be told? This is about the kindness of strangers. It’s about all these people having a heart and deciding to do something incredibly kind for a total stranger. That’s the takeaway here, and frankly the reaction of you and a few others reeks of insecurity as though your manhood would be challenged by such a gesture. You’re a smart dude and I just don’t see how you whiffed on this so badly.
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