Is the text I was awoken to this morning..actually nah it was "he's f*cking somebody else"
Facts -My homegirl has been seeing a dude since September They became exclusive in November They had problems recently but worked through them Yesterday dude gave my friend his phone to fix She decided to go through it Found naked pictureS (!) and messages from the same girl dating back to december My friend confronts the dude and he says ..he was msging back and forth with that girl cause a dude was interested in her and she was using him to prove she had a man
Additional info My friend has met his entire family including his child and spent the weekend with his mother They stopped using condoms months ago
So I think its clear that he's cheating-my cousin can't figure out why he would give my friend his phone knowing what was on there my cousin is convinced that there is an explanation
I think my friends dude has given the worst cover up story I have ever heard..can anyone top that?
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Mon Mar-09-15 12:06 PM
10. "it never ceases to amaze me how folks ain't using throwaways" In response to Reply # 0
... for their dirt.
Naw... Use the real phone that's in your name with the service plan y'all both share for your dirt 'cause that makes the most sense...
Fuck that... If I was that type of dude, I'd have a prepaid Tracfone joint on tap for alladat. Keeps the real phone clean. Just gotta keep it on silent and get rid of all ringtones.
19. "patrice said it best" In response to Reply # 18
last thing you want is for your woman to feel stupid (and i'm adding humiliated in this as well)
and being that stupid/obvious makes a lady thing 1. you don't care 2. you think she's that stupid or sprung or 3. both
not to say hiding it is honorable/acceptable but there's something to be said about the attempt if someone is really considering staying (which would be dumb)
i'm still with esb on it but i see where you're coming from
21. "honestly 30+ yr old single me would agree with you " In response to Reply # 18
but after f'in up and causing drama I learned like it's simply not worth it... Partice O'neil had the right idea it was yo this is it get on board or get out...
i wish I was that smart when I was younger... but I learned and now for me cheating is just drama waiting to happen drama I don't need
PoppaGeorge Member since Nov 07th 2004 10384 posts
Mon Mar-09-15 01:25 PM
22. "I feel you and all..." In response to Reply # 21
a drama free life is the best life.
My out for fuckin around with multiple women when I was single was that I wasn't committed to any one woman and I told them all that up front. My first statement was "I'm not trying to be in a relationship right now and I'm dating other women. Can you be cool with that?" Some were aiight with it, some weren't, but I felt it best to put that out there so there were no hurt feelings if I was spotted out and about with a broad on my arm.
If I found myself single again, I'd do the same thing but I WOULD cop a tracfone strictly for booty calls.
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legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79555 posts
Mon Mar-09-15 01:32 PM
23. "why do people need an explaination for the obvious? " In response to Reply # 13
if you have all the signs and all the evidence. Why ask? He cheated and you know it so why ask and get mad when he throws shit against the wall to see what sticks?
and I'm not asking like I got all the answers. When an ex did me dirty I did the all that shit too but I was young and dumb.
Once I hit my 30's.. ain't no need to ask all those questions.
24. "before we were married, my wifey came to my building and I was leaving" In response to Reply # 0
with these 2 bad puerto rican women(are there any other kind) and a tripod and video camera. Wifey wanted to know wtf was going on. I told her i signed up for a focus group and they had a cancellation at the last minute. It was an in-home focus group for bacardi and they wanted to see your liquor cabinet and record the interview. So i ran home from work and forgot to tell her i left early. And i put my phone on silent during the group, which is why i didn't answer my cell. I was telling the 100% truth. My next door neighbor who heard part of the convo on the elevator and apparently the rest through our thin walls thought i was bsing tho. lol
i never corrected his thinking. smh.
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28. "lol yup...if you volunteer all the details it sounds like bs." In response to Reply # 27
if you wait for them to ask follow up questions and answer it on point, then it still sounds like bs.
my neighbor probably thought my girl was the biggest idiot. She had no reason to doubt me tho and she knows i'm always signing up for focus groups. I may have even told her about that one when i signed up for it bc it was much more dough than the regular group ones.
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
39. "LOL...My Wife Is Puerto Rican" In response to Reply # 28 Tue Mar-10-15 11:15 AM by RexLongfellow
And I had an instance where I had a friend (long before I met wifey), she came with friend of hers and was crying over a dude. They got drunk at my house and fell asleep in my bed at 10pm. I'm in the next room playing GTA and wifey unexpectedly comes through...she goes in the next room to see 2 thick drunk white women asleep in the waterbed.
Needless to say, I had to argue until the cows came home to convince her I didn't do anything (which I didn't). But the truth looked suspect like shit
42. "lol woooow. How did that convo transpire? Did the girls leave on the spo..." In response to Reply # 39
-The Knicks’ coaching search still includes a lone frontrunner, Kurt Rambis, whose qualifications for the position include a strong relationship with Jackson and a willingness to take the job.
I live by the saying if you didn't do nothing, then you ain't got nothing to worry about. So when wifey walked in, I didn't even think to explain, or nothing, because I didn't do anything. I had to explain to her, I would be a royal dumbass to smash 2 chicks, LEAVE THEM IN THE BED and play GTA in front of you. She cursed me out in spanish and locked herself in the bathroom
After a bunch of screaming, she called my friend the next day, and they were like NOOOOO!! We were drunk and sleeping it off. He wasn't even in the room. (Thank goodness for that though, because even with my explaining she still wasn't having it). She even explained to my girl why she was upset the day before (she was supposed to get engaged and her dude was doing some ish to make her question it).
When she found all that out, never got an I'm sorry, I was wrong, nothing. I got a nice meal and a super-smash session.
But yeah, sometimes the truth looks like some BS...and the explanation don't help...lol
legsdiamond Member since May 05th 2011 79555 posts
Tue Mar-10-15 11:24 AM
43. "I went out of town WITH my wife and my fam" In response to Reply # 39
we get back to my house (I had roommates) and my sister and my wife walk into my room while I'm unpacking the car.
My wife runs outside screaming "who the fuck is in your bed?" and my sister is behind her like "yep, uh,huh.. get him girl"
I'm all types of confused and almost went into panic/lie mode but then I'm like, hold up, waaaait a minute... "I was WITH yall all weekend.. how would I know"
So I walk in... slowly. Heart beating hard as FUCK!!! She has the covers over her head but she has the same cut as my ex and I'm thinking "I knooooow this bish ain't do me like this"
My wife and sister are leaning in right behind me.. I slowly pull the covers back.... I have no clue who it is. "umm.. who are you?"
Oh, I'm Dre's GF's younger sister, they said I could sleep in your room since you were out of town.
30. "**update** of sorts dude came up with a next 'cover up'" In response to Reply # 0
so my friend went over to his place to get her things .. I call her and asks if she has her stuff yet
she tells me no she says she asked him to be honest and he told her he hasn't slept with the nude pics chick since they got serious but that she (nude pics chick) continues to message him
here's the thing .. he's replying-to all of them
now maybe I'm wrong but if you're in a relationship and a chick you USED to mess with is messaging you don't you either a) ignore it or b)let her know she's gotta chill?
Is this a thing though? dudes really just messaging chicks encouraging them ? for the attention? I only know women who do this so I'm wondering
he also gave her "look if you wanna check my phone all the time now I'm okay with it" line
either way whether he's cheating or not he's clearly entertaining that outside bullshit which in turn undermines the relationship any way you look at it. Love or lust will and has made fools of the best of us. As someone who's been exactly where she is, she needs to RUN as far as she can in the opposite direction. Like yesterday. Because no matter what she says, if he's doing this now and she allows it it's only guaranteed to get worse.
44. "We wired weird fam....lol. Our logic is often that, it WON'T harm the re..." In response to Reply # 37
because...we not doing anything wrong... not saying we right... but our understanding of wrong is often worlds apart from Y'ALL's understanding of wrong.... .
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