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Bro - you came to this board begging for advice and thoughts concerning this situation, he gave you his thoughts and now you're telling him he shouldn't be telling you his thoughts. WHAT BRO?!
Especially considering his advice was really cordial and level-headed. He wasn't attacking you.
Furthermore - I agree with him. Of course you can offer advice and support to your friend, but to think that somehow you're at fault for their shitty marriage because you happened to think that their heart to hearts pre-wedding were just normal cold-feet-like feelings is just ridiculous. That's all dood was saying. You can't let that affect you and eat away at you. When he reaches out, offer the best advice you can then worry about your own shit.
The answers to all your other questions are - yes - people split up weeks before the wedding ALL the time. I'm 31 and I've heard of at least 3 stories like that, including one where the girl left the dood standing at the alter. Stranger things have happened than your bickering friends. It's "normal," as in, everything in marriage is normal, nothing new under the sun.
Couples also get divorced REALLY soon after their nuptials, like, ALL THE TIME. Again, I'm 31, and I've seen AT LEAST 12 examples of that happening within like 6 months to a year. Sometimes even sooner.
So - again. Not sure why you got so defensive and weird in response to his thoughts, especially since you came here and asked for them. But - in short, like I said, offer your advice to him when he asks for it, and never feel guilty for giving your thoughts. You're not there day to day, minute to minute with them so there's no way for you to possibly know the depths of their problems beyond what he tells you ... which means there's no way you should feel at ALL responsible for what they're going through just cause you offered some advice.
Kinda like how Initiation shouldn't feel responsible for giving you advice in response to your request for it, even if you do end up getting weirdly defensive about it. ----------------------------------------
"Fuck aliens." © WarriorPoet415
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