would you listen to a fat doctor tell you about living a healthy lifestyle?
are you taking financial advice from a chick that parks her car in your garage when she's hiding from the repo man?
should you listen to what single people say about marriage?
if you watch a game on tv, you'll likely see former players talking about the game & providing commentary and analysis. but alongside them are usually a few guys that never played the sport at a level beyond high school or junior college. you may see guys talking about sports that struggle to make an intramural squad back in the day.
is an opinion worth less if the person offering it doesn't have that first hand been there done that perspective?
The Wordsmith Member since Aug 13th 2002 17070 posts
Thu Jan-29-15 12:08 PM
8. "Yep. That person that's messing up...." In response to Reply # 1
....might be giving good advice on how to not mess up like them. They may know the right thing to do but have a discipline problem. Like that drug dealer telling kids to get an education and to not get in the life he's in because of all of the headaches.
>is an opinion worth less if the person offering it doesn't >have that first hand been there done that perspective?
Just the way it is. The only folks that seem like they get bothered by this are book smart-type people that never actually apply their smarts in the real world. Many things just have to be experienced. Reading/hearing about it is just a small percentage of learning/knowing.
35. "This isn't equivalent. Your doctor went through TRAINING..." In response to Reply # 21
The equivalent would be
- a trained doctor (yours) that has EXPERIENCE doing the work
vs.
- someone that read a textbook or two, but never touched a patient before.
>i don't care if my doctor has lived through my problem->I care if they >know how to fix it. > > >ppl that deemphaize "book smarts" in favor of >"the school of hard knocks" come across as ____ to me. > >some things you can learn from experience. >some things you can learn from books. > >good advice can come from all different types of ppl. > >
6. "all depends" In response to Reply # 0 Thu Jan-29-15 12:04 PM by lfresh
some folks dont think at all across the board
i dont care how much experience you say you have if you are consistently saying stupid shit you get the side eye of stupidity
i do be admitting that ndibs be having it right on occassion so thats a yes ~~~~ When you are born, you cry, and the world rejoices. Live so that when you die, you rejoice, and the world cries. ~~~~ You cannot hate people for their own good.
13. "wrong, and other perspectives are important" In response to Reply # 0
>can childless people give good parenting advice? > >would you listen to a fat doctor tell you about living a >healthy lifestyle? > >are you taking financial advice from a chick that parks her >car in your garage when she's hiding from the repo man? > >should you listen to what single people say about marriage? > >if you watch a game on tv, you'll likely see former players >talking about the game & providing commentary and analysis. >but alongside them are usually a few guys that never played >the sport at a level beyond high school or junior college. you >may see guys talking about sports that struggle to make an >intramural squad back in the day. > >is an opinion worth less if the person offering it doesn't >have that first hand been there done that perspective? > > > >*** >I'm tryna be better off, not better than...
14. "Parents want any excuse not to listen to outside advice" In response to Reply # 0
DON'T TELL ME HOW TO RAISE MY KIDS! !!! Is a favored mantra, typically uttered by people who need to be told how to raise kids.
I used to laugh when people told me I wouldn't know because I didn't have kids. Meanwhile, I'm raising my daughter based on the same thought process I had before I had her.
Not having kids does not equal having no experience in child rearing, or that wisdom cannot be had through observation or simple common sense. A lot of people seem to take the erroneous approach "this is how I was raised and I turned out fine!!"
but it does help if you have an anecdote or some relatable experience.
My Father-In-law is not my wife's birth father, but he has a sensitive side/intuition that informs his way of handling them. It's something that I struggle with sometimes, as a man. tryna find that common ground with the girls so the lines of communication stay open.
We dont agree on a lot of stuff. He's Italian and was real conservative sociopolitically for a while but he's start to come around. I used to love goin in on that nigga. 'How you gon tell me, dog. you aint got no kids...aint never had none.'
but he's been in their lives since day one. and they tell him $hit they dont tell me. He helps out, and I caint hate on that AT ALL.
18. "RE: couldn't talk about it if you ain't live it..." In response to Reply # 0
>can childless people give good parenting advice?
yes...we were all kids once
>would you listen to a fat doctor tell you about living a >healthy lifestyle?
yes
>are you taking financial advice from a chick that parks her >car in your garage when she's hiding from the repo man?
learn from other peoples mistakes
>should you listen to what single people say about marriage?
could be divorced and learned some lessons
>if you watch a game on tv, you'll likely see former players >talking about the game & providing commentary and analysis. >but alongside them are usually a few guys that never played >the sport at a level beyond high school or junior college. you >may see guys talking about sports that struggle to make an >intramural squad back in the day.
games the game...insight is insight
>is an opinion worth less if the person offering it doesn't >have that first hand been there done that perspective?
an opinion matters when applied to your life it has a benefit
>I'm tryna be better off, not better than...
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19. "RE: couldn't talk about it if you ain't live it..." In response to Reply # 0
I feel you on that...
Its like getting your haircut by the Dread
You take the blue pill, the story ends. You wake up in your bed and believe whatever you want to believe. You take the red pill, you stay in Wonderland, and I show you how deep the rabbit hole goes.
36. "person A has 8 kids. person B has no kids." In response to Reply # 0
person A claims it's fine to feed kids only 3 times per week. that feeding kids 3 or more times per day is doing too much and results in childhood obesity. person is adamant about this and says all 8 kids he's raised were only fed 3 times per week and no more.
person B claims it's absolutely unconscionable to feed any child only 3 times per week no matter what. person B is adamant that children must be fed at least 3 times per day. person B refuses to even consider feeding a child only 3 times per week.
which one is talking the best stuff? the one w/extensive parenting experience or the one who's never parented?
37. "abortions & death of your parents" In response to Reply # 0
unless you have aborted a baby or been faced with aborting one don't tell me SHIT
same for burying your parents that is some shit that you cant explain the feeling of
some ppl dont give a fuck about their parents so they didnt care when they died but i had no bad blood between my folks and that shit hurt(s) when they left a pain like no other
some times i get fucked up and have to catch myself because i will pick up my phone and try to call my mom to ask her how to make this or that dish and i have to put the phone down and realise she is gone
or i could be working on my truck hunched over in my engine compartment and i can hear my dad talking to me (he was a auto mechanic) and i just smile like HAHAAAAAAAAAA i am my father's son
38. "It depends on the person" In response to Reply # 0
And if said advice is coming from a good place or not. I would consider advice from an inexperienced person, if I felt said person is giving it genuinely and sincerely. Also, the level of rapport I have with the advice giver makes a difference.
However...
I believe that even good advice from an experienced person of a particular situation may not work for me. What may work for one person may not work for another person. But, as long as the advice given is solicited and I am in the right frame of mind to receive said advice, then it is all good.
In the end, I think it may be best to handle one's own problems or at least attempt to handle one's own problems before worrying about having to deal with (un)solicited advice from others.
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