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>You keep saying that we're painting all of you with the same >brush, because not all women who wear weaves are self-hating, >or brainwashed, etc. > >And yet... > >No one ever said that, and no matter how many times you try to >levy that charge, you aren't going to find anyone here >actually saying that. > >I never said, "All women who wear weaves are self hating."
Whether you realize it or meant to say it, you've said this before.
>My point has consistently been, "Yeah, they aren't all >self-hating, but there are still a lot of women who feel that >they need to straighten their hair or wear weaves to be >pretty." > >So we can disagree about the extent of the problem, but can we >at least agree that I'm not lumping all of these women >together? So you know, no one is talking about you >specifically.
You have before, so I'm just going off of the narrative you set. Whether you meant it or not.
>Okay, so you go with the whole, I "never said that" charge >too. > >Well unlike the charge you're levying against me, you do.... > >Make posts complaining about colorism, black men, the >disrespect of black women, and internal disputes amongst black >women. You demand that people acknowledge your particular >worldview as indicative of a truth in black life. You assert >that you have insight into why light-skinned women would have >social anxiety with respect to their skin color, an insight I >might add that is based entirely off of your subjective >experience as a woman who isn't light skinned. >
I didn't demand anything but for folks to stop painting with such a broad brush. I didn't suggest I had insight to anything I simply shared a story that a light skinned woman shared with me. And the whole point of me even sharing that story was to acknowledge how my own insensitivities toward their issues are calloused because I can't relate.
>And yet... > >When people try to draw a pretty clear brightline between >these issues and one fact of black life that has been proven >through empirical data in terms of money, and sociological >studies in terms of how people rate the attractiveness of >black people, you want to start in about how these things are >actually pretty benign, and you can't brush with broad >strokes. > >So yeah, you might not have said those specific things, but >your complaints, posts, and opinions all lead to you being >just flat out ungrounded on this issue. > >How in the hell, can you simultaneously acknowledge colorism >as a genuine issue plaguing black women in 2015, but hair >texture isn't? Even after seeing the data about money spent in >the black hair care industry? > >You honestly think that the natural hair care industry has >been such a roaring success that it undid centuries of >degradation? Meanwhile colorism, a sister issue, is still a >problem worth discussing? All of those advertisements, the >celebrity bullshit, etc. that contribute to colorism don't >also contribute to hair issues? > >Man that's convenient! Good thing the natural hair movement >came in and set Hollywood, Madison Avenue, Wall Street, and >several centuries of racism straight in like what? A few >decades, and some how the black hair care industry managed to >continue to grow, without a noticeable dip in the amount of >relaxers and weaves the sell. > >During that same time period of course colorism has been alive >and fucking kicking! > >We get it. You aren't self hating. Your hair is your choice. >Some women have tried to shame you for wanting to wear >straight hair. > >I'm sorry that happened, but you're underselling the problem. > > >And that's whatever, if it ain't your fight it ain't your >fight, but in the context of the other things you've said.... > >"I guess bruh, some black women have hair issues and some >dont, and Im not gonna paint them all the same because they >arent. Das it." > >...and some women have skin color issues and some don't. By >the logic of your statement, there really isn't any reason for >complaining about social prejudices because you know, some >people feel one way, some people feel another. Why paint >anyone anyway right? >
>And don't say it's because colorism is a bigger issue than >hair, unless you accompany that statement with a figure >showing the billions Black American women spend on skin >bleaching creams compared to dead people's hair. >
This is getting windy for me, some points you've made I agree with some I dont. I don't think we're going to find any more common ground with this, and that's okay. You're entitled to believe and feel however you want and I respect that.
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