MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Mon Jan-05-15 12:11 PM
"Do You Know Why You Love the Person You Do???"
i mean there are the generic reasons you're with the person you're with....good looking, funny, smart, caring, trustworthy, rich...whatever floats your boat.
but what sets them apart from everyone else? is it a specific thing you can pinpoint, or is it an inexplicable desire and attraction that you can't put into words? --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
1. "it's going to come down to..." In response to Reply # 0
how i feel about myself in loving you. do i feel empowered? fortunate? beautiful? goddess-like? a bawse bitch? chosen?
i've loved the same thing about different men usually i discover what i love and hold. but i've only transcended that level of %@$&☆ with a chosen few.
so its not something in them, its something in you that they bring out. is it the same thing in you that only specific people can bring out, or is it something different that each person brings out of you.
that's an interesting way to look at it. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Mon Jan-05-15 12:33 PM
5. "is that THE why tho?" In response to Reply # 2
and trust...i'm not trying to question you or your reasoning, but trying to figure out how weird i really am.
so you say its the heart of gold that was THE separating factor for you. of all the people on the planet hers was the best. i get that, but i think i have more of a faith based love affair with people. which is fucking stupid. like Jesus...you can't necessarily see him, but you gotta wholeheartedly believe he's there. and that's me. i don't know what separates random women from special women, but its...something.
just a little explanation. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
7. "different people, different reasons" In response to Reply # 0 Mon Jan-05-15 12:39 PM by teefiveten
not in love now but what struck out to me the most w/ my last love was complement. his exterior self mirrored my interior self (i can be quite dark/curmudgeonly if you let me) and i really felt understood in a way i hadn't before
but that's not really everything. if i love again i may not have that again and i don't think i'd be sad because i'd have something else that is unique to that person. plus more of my interior is on the exterior now. lol.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Mon Jan-05-15 02:35 PM
17. "this is more along how i feel about it" In response to Reply # 8
of all the responses so far this is the one i agree with most. you're into her so tough because she's into you just as tough. there isn't necessarily a factor or a specific element, but its that unconditional sort of thing where even if the lost that specific element, you'd still love them.
i dig that. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
10. "We're a great fit for each other. Figuratively and literally" In response to Reply # 0
We spoon so perfectly.
Our chemistry is great and I think we bring out the best qualities in each other.
We also have great conversations about every subject imaginable. I don't feel like I have to compartmentalize any of my likes, dislikes or opinions. We're very open with each other in that sense.
Also, she's funny as hell. We make each other laugh a lot.
MrThomas43423 Member since Jul 03rd 2002 67613 posts
Mon Jan-05-15 02:29 PM
15. "yeah...that's crazy too" In response to Reply # 11
i've gotten the reason and still won't believe it. --------------------------------------- it's true what they say...people are strange, when you're strangers.
13. "RE: Do You Know Why You Love the Person You Do???" In response to Reply # 0
Yes. The way we comfort each other through the hard times. The way we are able to be open with each other. The connection between us. There is no other like him and I wouldn't even want to imagine my life without him. I love that man for everything he is and everything he isn't. Good and bad.
"We don't make mistakes, we just have happy little accidents" - Bob Ross
"I'm wearing a MSU Tshirt because I went to MSU, you are wearing a UM Tshirt because you went to Walmart!" -unknown.
16. "That's a question I've spent years trying to answer" In response to Reply # 0
Because of how we came to be, I may have overly romanticized my interactions with this woman, but there is just a feeling I get when I talk to her, when we are talking about us. What I felt for her was stronger than anything I've felt for any other woman, and don't expect to feel it again, and I'm cool with that.
I can say she is the embodiment of a lot I say I don't like in a woman, but deep down inside really do like and want.
19. "I often try to get my Husband to answer this..." In response to Reply # 0
and he's seemingly clueless but I know that we are just meant to be. It's like we perfectly balance each other out, that whole cliche, when I'm weak, he's strong but so much more.
You have to both recognize and want to be with each other and make each other a priority. That's really how you know.
The other part is kind of unexplainable, I knew he was the one when he didn't mind my garlic breath before we kissed...lol
~"You are your own best thing" (c) Paul D in BELOVED
21. "I'm obviously insecure...." In response to Reply # 20
plus I really want to know if he feels like I do. I feel like it's a destiny type thing but does he? I don't know. He the strong silent type, seems happy but I need constant validation...I'm better than I was three years ago but from time to time I just ask to hear what he's gonna come up with.
~"You are your own best thing" (c) Paul D in BELOVED
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