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I mean that sincerely, not trying to show out. I was given little affirmation from my family as a child and while my wife was given *some* affirmation, it was largely tempered with reminders of everything she wasn’t and couldn’t be. Her skin was too dark, she didn’t have good hair, don’t waste time on college and just get a regular job because what did she REALLY expect to become? etc. It was a mission of ours that affirmations of identity, self worth, confidence, image, etc would be front and center in her life.
We actually started this in the womb. She was brilliant, beautiful, warm, happy, loving, caring, amazing, etc. I’ve sung her two songs since before she was born on a daily basis:
“Diana, Diana Michelle, daddy loves you, so much he does!
And momma loves you, so much she does!”
It’s a little refrain loosely based on “He’s Got The Whole World In His Hands”, and sometimes I’ll sing her to sleep with it.
The other is more of, I dunno, a rhythmic little chant that’s usually followed by tickling these days:
“Awesome, incredible, fantastic, ama
zing, beautiful, gorgeous, angel face!”
Basically I do a lot of these things already and some of them are very interactive, so that she receives these messages in many different ways. So, she’s three and already thinks/knows she’s amazing, fantastic, loved, beautiful, brilliant, etc.
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