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"i don't understand the babymama/babydaddy relationship."


          

granted, my confusion about the relationship comes from watching last night's Love & Hip-Hop ATL. so i should be smacked.

that being said, what connection do typical BMs/BDs have w/each other, independent of the child? the ppl on this show, well i mean Scrappy and Stevie, act like as BD they have some duty to 'protect' and 'care for' the BM even though the BD & BM are not together and are actively seeing other ppl. i had literally never heard of that sort of thing before i watched this show.

i know too many real ppl who are BD/BM where i haven't seen that sort of ridiculousness play out. like w/my parents...mom couldn't care less about my father. okay, she could. she wants to know if he's dead or alive...that's literally all she wants to know of him. so she _could_ care less. if some woman were out there doing him wrong she would not even consider hopping on a flight to ATL to see about it. nor would she even get on the phone to get in the woman's ear about it. let alone offer my father comfort over it. but the folks on this show...i mean, they're all up in each other's Kool-Aid over stuff like that. i wonder how common that is among you ppl. you breeders i mean.

again, i am at least slightly ashamed that i wonder about this at all considering the genesis. but i'm trying to avoid work right now. and i can't just go home this early in the day.

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On some real shit...sometimes that's how it goes...i can literally
Jun 18th 2013
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y wouldnt a dude care bout the well-being of the mother
Jun 18th 2013
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cool.
Jun 18th 2013
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there is a difference between care about the well-being of
Jun 18th 2013
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i could see it if the BD or BM was supporting them in alimony.
Jun 18th 2013
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what do you mean?
Jun 18th 2013
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if BD or BM is providing a life that they are accustom to, of
Jun 18th 2013
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      oh that sounds...
Jun 18th 2013
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      .......
Jun 18th 2013
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just cause your folks had a dysfunctional relationshit
Jun 18th 2013
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so this is common behavior in your experience?
Jun 18th 2013
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i think it's common for people who have long, complex relationships
Jun 18th 2013
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      ah...
Jun 18th 2013
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So the OP parent's relationship is dysfunctional? wow.
Jun 18th 2013
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That last sentence is real talk.
Jun 18th 2013
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ill answer
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what would he do if something or someone tried to harm you?
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      i dont EXPECT him to do anything
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thats the mother of my child...who if anything happend to
Jun 18th 2013
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Scrappy was ready to fight b/c a guy had called his BM
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      its a reality show. n/m
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      Erica is/was his woman at the time
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      not clear.
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           they werent totally broke up tho
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                right.
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                     from what ive seen its like that for a few yrs
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                          sounds like a great argument for birth control.
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                               lol its definitely the #1 reason why i dont have kids
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      u don't refer to a black woman as a bitch.........to her face
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           so that wasn't specifically b/c she's his BM?
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                ehhh...not in the way that it occurred.....Erika came back n told him
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                     the protectiveness of the BM struck me.
Jun 18th 2013
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Mimi was still getting the beefcake til last year though
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RE: me and my sons mom have a very amicable relationship.
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would you buy her a car?
Jun 18th 2013
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      RE: lol good question. if i was rich maybe, esp if hers was
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That's hood shit imo. But I don't have a "babydaddy" so Idk.
Jun 18th 2013
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that makes sense.
Jun 18th 2013
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which part of this is 'hood shit' ??
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      The notion that would ride for your bm/bd when you aren't together.
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           that's how i see it.
Jun 18th 2013
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have we become too politically correct at OKP..
Jun 18th 2013
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duh.
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RE: duh.
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      i doubt this is your first OKP screenname.
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           k
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goddamn
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why not just use your normal account to tell us how you feel?
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      not an alias
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           ok
Jun 18th 2013
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RE: i don't understand the babymama/babydaddy relationship.
Jun 18th 2013
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interesting.
Jun 18th 2013
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care for maybe, protect...hmm
Jun 18th 2013
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makes sense.
Jun 18th 2013
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Yah.
Jun 18th 2013
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if the momma is upset, the baby is upset...
Jun 18th 2013
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that's cuz you grown as hell
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can you elaborate?
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      sure
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           That ain't shit but a sperm donor...
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There's no typical. All kinds of people from all walks of life
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this post is like the perfect clusterfuck
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my homie is paying 3/4 of his bm rent, kickin in groceries, plus child s...
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1. "On some real shit...sometimes that's how it goes...i can literally"
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call my BM to beat n bang on some broad if need be
and vice versa
we weren't always like that but we here

it happens

but on the contraire mon frere

there are some that hate each others guts a few levels short of Ray Carruth

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2. "y wouldnt a dude care bout the well-being of the mother "
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of his children?

im confused by this question

i mean i kno nyggas in the most contentious relationship with they BMs

but they still wouldnt want no harm on em
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4. "cool."
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47. "there is a difference between care about the well-being of"
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3. "i could see it if the BD or BM was supporting them in alimony."
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you got to protect your golden goose from these ratchet geeses out chere.

  

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5. "what do you mean?"
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10. "if BD or BM is providing a life that they are accustom to, of"
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course, they will be in that person's bizness as to who they are dating.

for instance, I was dating a man who was separated from his wife, they had 2 kids. wife found out about me, made a scene over the phone and emails to him that I would take a portion of his money (which I was) away from her. she aint never work a day in her life, neither do i. he told her its nothing serious just to cool her off, but he was breaking me bread. in the meantime, he asking his kids does mommy have a boyfriend cuz he feels once she start dating a regular dude he can stop funding her life.

but i hardly watch the show anymore....i maybe off with scrappy and bm. last time i check for them was BM was not ready to marry him till he got his mom in check.

  

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12. "oh that sounds..."
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hmm.

i dunno about all of that.

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18. "......."
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6. "just cause your folks had a dysfunctional relationshit"
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that aint the norm.

folks can actually not be together and still be amicable about shit. it aint complex. their well-being has an effect on your child's well-being.

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7. "so this is common behavior in your experience?"
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17. "i think it's common for people who have long, complex relationships"
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to still have some attachment for each other even if they aren't involved

particularly if they are still in contact bc of the child, and still having to play at "family" on sentimental occasions (child's birthday or whatever)

(actually this was my friend's argument to her friend over why the latter should have an abortion: bc otherwise the latter's attachment to her lousy bf would linger for another 20 years, lol)

  

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21. "ah..."
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>to still have some attachment for each other even if they
>aren't involved
>
>particularly if they are still in contact bc of the child, and
>still having to play at "family" on sentimental occasions
>(child's birthday or whatever)

okay, yeah.

>(actually this was my friend's argument to her friend over why
>the latter should have an abortion: bc otherwise the latter's
>attachment to her lousy bf would linger for another 20 years,
>lol)

yup. i've counseled ppl about this issue based on my mother's frustration w/my father. the BD/BM relationship lasts _forever_. it doesn't end when the child turns 18. lol

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28. "So the OP parent's relationship is dysfunctional? wow."
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33. "That last sentence is real talk."
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>their well-being has an effect on your child's well-being.

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8. "ill answer"
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with my daughter's father
yes he hates my guts most times
but let something or someone try to harm me....

im still his daughter's mother

i am not 100% protective of him anymore
but i dont wish him harm
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9. "what would he do if something or someone tried to harm you?"
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or, what do you think he'd do? and what's the basis for your expectation?

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25. "i dont EXPECT him to do anything"
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but i know that he will

you are a lawyer
im not answering the other questions lol

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11. "thats the mother of my child...who if anything happend to"
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would destroy a part of my child

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13. "Scrappy was ready to fight b/c a guy had called his BM"
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a 'bitch'. and not like a 'low-down, dirty' bitch, but just 'bitch' as a stand-in for 'woman'. pretty disrespectful as a general matter. their kid wasn't present for any of this.

would you fight a dude for that kind of disrespect?

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15. "its a reality show. n/m"
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16. "Erica is/was his woman at the time"
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22. "not clear."
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he was messing w/whatsherface and not living w/Erica. or paying child support. i think she would've said they weren't together at the time.

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32. "they werent totally broke up tho"
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They have one of those back and forth relationships...they're together even when they're apart

at the same time I'm sure he would've reacted the same if they weren't...a lot of people view their kids parents like theyre part of their family.

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37. "right."
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which clouds the issue.

that's the other thing i wonder about the BM/BD relationship. how often is it like Erica & Scrappy's?

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48. "from what ive seen its like that for a few yrs"
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Of course that doesn't go for everyone but when women have kids by dudes that don't have it together they'll tolerate more both out of love and because the men usually doesnt have anywhere else to go lol

Like they'll go stay with other women but they all get tired of their ass and kick them out and when that happens they go back to their BM

So they'll sell a dream that they know the woman is willing to buy because she wants to have her family all under one roof

A lot of the time the dudes do too thougg...most of the guys I knew like this eventually grew out of it and did the right thing...the others have moved on...the mom meets somebody else or whatever and everyone accepts that the relationship is over but they both will look out for each other

Then u have those people who do that back n forth shit forever...the guy eventually meets another woman he really likes and marries her. The mom is pissed and spends the rest of her life making his hell lol

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51. "sounds like a great argument for birth control."
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54. "lol its definitely the #1 reason why i dont have kids "
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20. "u don't refer to a black woman as a bitch.........to her face"
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it's levels to this shit (c)



Scrappy addressed it

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23. "so that wasn't specifically b/c she's his BM?"
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he would've stood up to protect the 'honor' of any Black woman in that situation?

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26. "ehhh...not in the way that it occurred.....Erika came back n told him"
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he wasn't present

if it was his sister, mother, cousin, maybe even homegirl...i'm sure he would have done the same

some random black chick comes up to him and says dude called me a bitch....of course not

now if it happened in front of his face with some randumb broad....he could have possibly addressed it **shrugs**

but in this instance he definitely did it because it was his bm

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30. "the protectiveness of the BM struck me."
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that's the part i wondered about. was that for the cameras or was that real life?

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14. "Mimi was still getting the beefcake til last year though"
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If Nikko wasnt in the picture Stevie would have got her a Nissan Maxima, but he wasnt about to let ol boy out stunt him so she got the BMW

  

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19. "RE: me and my sons mom have a very amicable relationship."
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we work together for the well being of our kid, and are pretty friendly in the process. co-parenting i guess u could say. not always each others favorite people but i think we generally want the best for each other.

  

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24. "would you buy her a car?"
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27. "RE: lol good question. if i was rich maybe, esp if hers was "
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raggedy (sp?) and had my son in danger of being stranded on the soft shoulder

  

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29. "That's hood shit imo. But I don't have a "babydaddy" so Idk."
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31. "that makes sense."
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34. "which part of this is 'hood shit' ?? "
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just curious

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39. "The notion that would ride for your bm/bd when you aren't together."
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Caring for their well being and being willing to whoop a bitch/nigga over/for them are two different things.

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52. "that's how i see it."
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35. "have we become too politically correct at OKP.."
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for the inevitable "why would a child hating fag know anything about baby mommas and baby daddys" response?

  

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36. "duh."
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i mean, it's pretty clear that's why i don't get what's going. ergo, this post.

is this your first day on the Internet?

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43. "RE: duh."
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>is this your first day on the Internet?

actually you're not that far off, check the post count

  

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49. "i doubt this is your first OKP screenname."
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and i think you thought that lil shot would be more effective than it was.

throwing stones, hiding hands. etc.

good luck w/it.

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55. "k"
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(c) SoWhat

  

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38. "goddamn"
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41. "why not just use your normal account to tell us how you feel?"
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30
You know it's drama, but it sound real good.

  

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44. "not an alias"
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longtime lurker tryna get chose

  

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45. "ok"
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You know it's drama, but it sound real good.

  

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40. "RE: i don't understand the babymama/babydaddy relationship."
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Well...my parents divorced. But they have been in each others lives since kindergarten. And they said they would stay friends. So they did. Though there were a few rough years after my dad got remarried and his wife having issues with their closeness, eventually she understood and even though I'm grown, they are all friends!

A blended family is the best way to go. But with all that said, some BM and BD believe that having kids mean that they will always have a relationship with their child's parent. And not strictly platonic. That ish is just mind boggling. If you couldn't stay together, having a kid does not mean you get a fuck buddy for life!

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50. "interesting."
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>Well...my parents divorced. But they have been in each
>others lives since kindergarten. And they said they would
>stay friends. So they did. Though there were a few rough
>years after my dad got remarried and his wife having issues
>with their closeness, eventually she understood and even
>though I'm grown, they are all friends!

that's nice.

>A blended family is the best way to go.

probably.

But with all that
>said, some BM and BD believe that having kids mean that they
>will always have a relationship with their child's parent.

IKR? lol. i was watching Stevie and Mimi last night - they're on that tip, it seems.

>And not strictly platonic. That ish is just mind boggling.
>If you couldn't stay together, having a kid does not mean you
>get a fuck buddy for life!

hello.

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42. "care for maybe, protect...hmm"
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My nephew's father bought my sister a car when her's broke down and she needed to get to work. No work, equals no rent, equals my nephew is out on the street. He took her to work a few times but it's kind of far and was like damn that I'm going to get you something to get from A to B. My sister doesn't really get into situations where she needs protection so that's just not scenario that resonates.

  

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53. "makes sense."
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46. "Yah."
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There have been times that I've hated my BM more than I ever thought I could hate anyone in my entire life.

But if she was getting harmed/assaulted/threatened by someone? I would protect her like I would a wife. I think it's a gender-role thing for most men.

  

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56. "if the momma is upset, the baby is upset..."
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my dad did a lot for my mom even after they broke up...and because I'm part of her, no one can disrespect her without disrespecting me...he has never once said anything bad about her (except she talks too much....). i don't find it odd at all...

now if you want to talk about Chris Brown's DJ and his baby momma? that's an odd relationship but Scrappy and Erica? nope.

but those other two...her giving him $10K or whatever? naw not if we broke up. i have a child that needs things...you betta holla at a bank. her getting jealous over his other women? too much.

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57. "that's cuz you grown as hell"
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I also think there's a difference between baby mama/ baby daddy and co-parents

I know several men, who are CO PARENTS, who would be very upset to know a man was living foul on their co parents... on some "if she's not happy, my baby's not happy and if my baby's not happy, I'M not happy"

I also think when a man KNOWS he has done his baby mama wrong, but there was also GENUINE love there, there's a level of "protectiveness" there...

and we ALWAYS talk about how women love their babies father... long after they are no longer together...

nigga can be a good dude... and just not good FOR you...


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58. "can you elaborate?"
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>I also think there's a difference between baby mama/ baby
>daddy and co-parents

i'm fairly sure i get your meaning, but can you speak on this a little more?

i blame hip-hop.

  

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59. "sure"
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I had sex with a man, got pregnant and had a baby.

he sends 22 bucks a week, and takes me to court once a year to lower his child support. he's my BD



my homeboy has to talk to his son's mother, they talk about school, they talk about doctor's appointments, they talk about his behavior, he picks up her daughter and his son and they do stuff together, like they have a relationship.. they coparent... dare I say they're "friends"...

I wouldn't expect BM/BD to do the stuff that SoWhat is talking about, but I've heard both Mama Dee AND Scrappy say that Ericka is a GREAT mother, and she's "family", so like ambient1 said up top... I don't see Scrappy doing anything differently than if his mama, sister, or daughter came to him and told him that someone had called her a bitch...


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60. "That ain't shit but a sperm donor..."
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There's a baby in the equation, but no daddy....

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61. "There's no typical. All kinds of people from all walks of life "
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Now have BMs and Bds.

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62. "this post is like the perfect clusterfuck"
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im skeed im skeed


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63. "my homie is paying 3/4 of his bm rent, kickin in groceries, plus child s..."
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but let him tell it, he "don't love her"
yea right
ain't no dude coming out of pocket for all that, kid or no kid, unless feelings involved
they got together, had the baby, shacked up for like a year, then split up cuz of one too many fights and arguments
now he back in his mom's crib, paying damm near all her rent, groceries, and she took him to court for child support
but he don't love her

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