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people tend to tell me things that they don't tell other people.
they open up to me in a way that they don't open up to others. there are a number of reasons for this, i think...
first off, i'm not judgmental. people tell me things, and i just let it be what it is.
and number 2, i don't gossip. i don't listen to it, and i don't tell it. if people start gossipping around me, i change the subject.
and i guess people notice that, b/c they start telling me things and they realize it won't go any further than me.
now why am i saying this?
b/c i used to assume that this is how ALL friends interacted w/ each other... but i am starting to realize that people that are a friend to people like i am are the exception, not the rule.
i've seen so many people that act like they are friends together, but when they get around other folks, they back bite each other and put each other's business out on the streets.
like, there's just no circle of trust.
hell... i've had friends that i've fallen out with, and we STILL didn't air each other's shit out... just out of respect for what we used to have.
friends where even after we drifted apart, we could still call each other for favors if we needed them.
b/c that's what friends do. even if they drift apart, that's what friends are supposed to do.
anyway, that longwinded answer was given to say this. people can't conceptulaize how 2 people can be that close, b/c most people have never had that type of ride or die bond w/ anybody else.
so they have to turn it into something the can recognize in order to make sense of it. i.e. "they probablly fucking."
kind of like how folks assumed there was no way MJ could have liked children in a pure way, b/c THEIR kids get on their damn nerves so much. so they turned it into something else b/c they couldn't believe it was pure.
same thing.
>>and yeah, when people see two people w/ that type of >>closeness, >>people assume they are fucking. > >it doesn't even have to be in a gay context.
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