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 gotta teach boys early; before puberty. n/m |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 1
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| I think I would teach my sons to stay away from anything remotely a |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 2
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 that's where i'm at |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 4
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 Got you. The no trains part is interesting |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 7
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| Fuzz Yeah!!! |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 10
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| the whole idea that you'd need to teach a man NOT to rape...WTF!?!?!? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 3
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| Unfortunately id argue there's still a nod and a wink out there |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 6
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 Exactly. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 59
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| so many boys are taught that they have to try by any means necessary |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 8
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| yup |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 12
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| Wow... word? I mean I'm with Promo |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 18
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| and we as women ARE saying it's necessary |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 22
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| there are a lot of boys/men who take cues from assholes where |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 24
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| so then why are you dismissing my "teach them right" vs. "don't rape" |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 28
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| so you agree that teaching them right means teaching them not to rape? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 30
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| well that's what i'm wondering - if we're arguing on the same side? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 38
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| n/m - double post |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 39
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| 'teach them right' = vague |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 33
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| RE: Wow... word? I mean I'm with Promo |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 31
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| but here's where i feel the disconnect. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 21
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| as long as we have people who feel this way |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 25
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| so you've basically condemned boys to be date rapists (at best). |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 27
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| you're just making shit up to be angry. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 32
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| Are you saying that if parents don't explicitly teach their sons |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 29
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| your dad taught you not to rape. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 55
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| I think a lot of men that had an active father had this talk |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 76
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| i think it will bring the numbers down. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 61
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| Its not always that simple |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 16
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| With that...it just sucks that peer pressure > what adults teach |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 23
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| um please lets not reduce it to some animalistic tendency |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 26
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| RE: um please lets not reduce it to some animalistic tendency |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 44
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| not all that you typed, but that part |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 58
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| RE: not all that you typed, but that part |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 64
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| because when we talk about the instinct |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 66
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| RE: because when we talk about the instinct |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 96
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| i dunno |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 106
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| nah that's YOUR extrapolation on my premise |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 112
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| yes |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 45
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| Thats exactly what I said though |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 53
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| consider it a misstep |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 72
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| ur usually on point but this is all some bull |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 82
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| nah, not all aggessive behavior is learned |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 88
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| RE: ur usually on point but this is all some bull |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 95
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| and are there any social repercussions for this? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 107
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| ^^^yes, im not saying elders are gathering up young males |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 111
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| ok so i looked into the scientific evidence |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 132
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| in the 80's raping a girl was seen as a comedic trope |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 140
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| treat women with respect in general, just like you'd want people to |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 5
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| I agree with that as a baseline |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 9
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| definitely. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 14
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| You can't treat people you want to have sex with like your sister. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 11
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| agreed...thats' why i didn't say that. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 13
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| Fair enough. So how do you want people to make a sexual move on your |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 15
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| Respectfully and honestly. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 46
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| lmao this is also true |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 17
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| the intent is great there |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 19
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| what? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 35
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| "you wouldn't like it if it was your sister" |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 41
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| I said treat women with respect in general...isn't that the same thing y... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 52
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| according to your response in #48, it isn't |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 62
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| oh god. lol |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 65
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| the fact that you're insisting on throwing in that second option |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 92
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| rilly doe |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 94
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| RE: the fact that you're insisting on throwing in that second option |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 98
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| treat a woman w/respect b/c she's a person who deserves respect |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 42
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| feels nitpicky...especially since i said treat women with respect in gen... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 48
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| i bet it feels that way to you. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 50
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| Honest question for the guys...to what level do you check your homeboys? |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 20
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| perfect scenario |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 49
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| i'd tell him that's pretty gross. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 57
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| relevant: |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 68
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| i try to |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 69
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| I don't have friends like that. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 70
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| yeah...i'm kinda with you on this... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 71
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| This is where am at......actually have been for a while |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 80
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| I'm glad I grew up when I did... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 77
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| Absolutely no problem w/ this. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 86
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| *updates database* |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 87
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| Right?!?! |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 91
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| Hol up... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 97
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| and i was dead serious about it too, pal. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 99
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| **updates database** |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 100
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| *finger guns* |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 103
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| ay yo, lmao |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 137
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| "drunken consent" is about as controversial my group gets |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 110
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| There's a culture of celebrated and encouraged aggressiveness... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 34
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| I like this phrasing waaay better. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 37
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| ^^^what i was getting at up higher in this post re: what to value^^^ |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 40
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| yes, |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 43
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| Well said |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 51
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| damn, you really want it to be on some innate shit |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 74
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| Lol. I hope I'm in good company |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 75
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| eyy what comedian makes that joke that 99% of all sex |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 141
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| actually, you probably should still say it |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 78
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| Probably. I just don't believe that the actual "rape conversation" is w... |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 89
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| this |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 83
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| It's keeping the phrase "boys will be boys" out of your vocab |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 114
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| 1) It's necessary 2) It will prevent rapes 3) It won't stop rape from oc... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 36
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| I get where you're going but... |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 56
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| Agree on all points |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 60
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| We live in a country where schools can't talk about sex. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 47
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| give this reply a round of applause. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 54
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| it'd be great if schools could talk about the subject. |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 63
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| You're starting to KINDA see this in colleges now |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 108
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| so y'all really think teaching your son not to rape looks like |
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Feb 10th 2015 | 67
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| right |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 130
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| . |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 73
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| Call me old school but why should we have to teach men not to rape? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 79
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| So basically: |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 81
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| a) those are basically rules for women to follow |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 84
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| ^ women shouldn't have to limit themselves like that. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 93
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| Cultural overhaul is needed |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 85
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| Considering that US rapes have declined by 80% since 1970 |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 101
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| Have rapes declined or has the reporting of them declined? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 104
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| All crime has declined dramatically - it's not a reporting issue. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 109
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| *taps you gently on the shoulder* |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 115
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| Severe underreporting can exist alongside an overall decline. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 116
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| but how can you accurately measure a decline |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 118
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| So rape is the only type of crime that's not in decline? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 119
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| those articles aren't endorsing any conspiracy theories tho |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 121
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| right. using those stats to say that we should just keep doing |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 122
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| The conspiracy theory is that police departments all over are purposely |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 126
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| then according to that same conspiracy theory you're quoting |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 128
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| The article claims there's a conspiracy - I'm saying the opposite. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 129
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| *lesigh* |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 131
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| Fudging on reporting probably cancels itself out at the national |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 133
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| I now have a headache |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 135
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| 68% of the total, but the total seems to be decreasing. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 136
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| damn. that issue needs to be solved. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 117
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| it does, doesn't it? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 123
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| yup. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 124
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| who is taught to rape? |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 90
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| should be the same as 'teach someone not to steal' |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 102
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| Not quite |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 105
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| Four in 10 teenage girls coerced into sex acts |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 113
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| :'( :'( :'( |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 120
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| yep we've talked about the grey area |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 134
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| Just Had Convo W/ Friend About This |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 125
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| i like all of that. |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 127
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| fail to see any downsides to this |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 138
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| a coworker pulled aside one of my students today for this reason |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 139
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| we had this thing in Dallas |
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Feb 11th 2015 | 142
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