25. "IMO this can only be answered in hindsight " In response to In response to 22
Or in the case of a current set of circumstances where the variables are more predictable.
In hindsight the best I can say is that things probably wouldn't have been much better with him around since things were pretty bad without him and the daughter he had after me reports a pretty abusive situation.
In my case my best guess is that it's a wash, but I'm sure plenty of other circumstances have a greater plus/minus ratio.