My dad was divorced and I guess I am the second family and my older brother is in your shoes.

I always saw him growing up and we have a good relationship now but he grew up in another state. I know my dad wanted a closer relationship with him and he and my mom tried but his mother just wasn't having it.

I remember him and his half sister came to stay with us a summer and midwway through the trip the mother lost it and demanded they come home early.

His mother remarried and eventually my older brother identified with him as a father figure. Even took his last name. My dad kind of backed off out of respect of the wishes for the mother.

It only came out very recently from my brothers wife that brother felt that our dad should have fought more for him and it has left him with issues about wanting a fathers love.

Yeah it can be complicated but I stand by my 2 visits in 40 years is bullshit.



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