>RE: man you have to assume people are children unless they show otherwise

Right. But when children act childish, do you ignore them? Pander to them? Respond in-kind?

>so yes, he probably wants your attention for no reason, or
>doesn't know why he wants it, or wants it, but doesn't know
>what to do with it, or wants something, but doesn't know how
>to communicate it, or ask for it, or get it, or whatever...
>
>grown ups will make themselves plain for the most part

I feel like I'm the direct chick that men claim they want. I just think people draw their opposites, regardless of their gender. I'm pretty plain. Just looking for the same.

Edit to add: Why would any of this matter in a platonic situation though?