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that my 1st thought was that Frank was trying too hard, also. When I receive roses right off the bat like that I wonder, "Hmmmm, what is he expecting after this date is over?" And it typically has not been the best of intentions, on THEIR part, I might add. When I receive them AFTERWARDS though, like a couple of days later, I think, "Cool. He must have really enjoyed himself then." Tell Frank to 'slow his roll a bit', and see if that helps.
>>See, these Sistas are scared off either before, or after >like, >>the first date. He arrives with a rose, or some token... >they >>call him weird, and stop answering his calls.... some of the >>women I've talked to say, "Oh, he trying to hard. Chivalry >is >>dead... I ain't trying to get all serious like that.... One >>chick ran after he got her flowers and a card on her >>birthday... She was young, however, you get my point. >>Seems like some Sistas can't realize when they are being >>respected, revered, or recognized.
>well, some younger ones might not "get it" for various >reasons. one of which being they haven't come into their OWN >womanhood enough to know they deserve such things. a 30-yr old >woman** with a good head on her shoulders would probably be >more appreciative. > >but i digress. > >he *may* be trying too hard. lol...god knows i've come across >*that* brother. but me being who i am, i'll take the time to >say, "yo...i don't need all that. relax" and go from there. >some women aren't *that* self-aware and/or have the kind of >confidence to go beyond the "norm". > >from another perspective, it can be percieved as low self >esteem. > >and, depending on what you're used to, being "nice" might = >"getting serious". there are a LOT of assholes out there. >plus, if you've only seen dysfunctional relationships in your >life, pain = love. comfort and true caring is uncomfortable. > >there are a lot of factors. > >(**age is only noted as a reference point. there are plenty of >40yr old sistas out here stuck @ 16, and some 25yr olds who >are closer to 40. i've always been about 5-10yrs beyond my >chronological, so i'm coming from a different angle) > >~~~~ >~*~http://omidele.blogspot.com/ ~*~
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