I learned how to manage my emotions and reactions to unfortunate situations with emotional intelligence.

I recommend someone familiar with your culture. White therapists make a lot of assumptions and sometimes hear things that you didn't say based on their biases. I had an amazing 70 year old male Jewish therapist. I also had an amazing 50 year old black therapist. Look at their specialty - grief, trauma, identity and go from there.

Give each therapist about 3 months of biweekly sessions to determine if it is a good fit.

Everyone needs a therapist.