It's so easy to get lazy and just expect our spouse to know what we need and want. There's that ideal out there of meeting your soul mate that everything just clicks with with little effort but I think that's rarely the case for most relationships.

Usually, a relationship involves two people that are still figuring themselves out. It's hard enough for them to even understand what they truly need or want because those things might be changing as they mature.

On top of that, they may express themselves differently (i.e. the different Love Languages).

The best way to reinforce the relationship for the long term is for both parties to commit (and occasionally recommit) to expressing themselves to each other in ways that they can both understand.