I always see people talkin bout "You need to put in the work".

Ya'll forget, some of these people just ain't compatible and it was doomed to not work in the first place. You can't force something major like marriage, and the only reason some people even stay together as long as they do is because they're locked into a contract with serious repercussions if its broken.

Some people shouldn't even be dating, but some folks see things getting rough and think that having children or getting married will fix it. Fuck that. Not everything is fixable. If you're fussing over some ol petty shit they yeah, it might be you and you're complaining about small shit. However, some people have good enough reason to get the hell up out of there before it gets too bad, and no amount of whatever advice you give is going to help. The last thing you want is something to fuck up your mental or physical health by staying in a relationship or marriage that shouldn't have gone as far as it did.