>is mainly about the initial "meeting stage" thing and the
>what follows after usually shouldn't be expected to be easy.
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it ebbs and flows. its not going to always be easy, but it shouldn't be a consistent struggle either. if there's too much struggle bus, its not worth it. that's way too draining.

even during the times where things aren't working well, a big factor is the want for both parties to be there for each other and work through it. if this breaks........struggle bus fa'sho.

>so....
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>all the stuff about "coming easy" that's is out there in the
>general consciousness is rather limited in actual dimensions.

in general, most of the relationship should be easy. however, its all relative to the circumstances surrounding the time. things change and can sometimes help/hurt the relationship. and people change also.

I went from believing in god to not believing. wife still believes. for some, that would be a deal breaker. for us, its just a blip. nothing else really changed about how we work together.
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>So, is there any "struggle at the initial stage" leading to a
>"come easy" at the later stage? You seem to paint the
>"aligning only for one person-struggle bus"-as not to likely
>for success usually.

this is possible, but this takes patience and willingness to trudge through this. however, since its early and struggly, it doesn't bode well for the future.