If it don't come easy

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VdZqjOlrmWo

I know a man, a good friend of mine;
He spends all his time tryin' to make love work out right.
But the woman he loves, she don't feel the same, no;
I don't know much about love but at least I learned one thing:

If it don't come easy, you better let it go.
'Cause when it don't come easy, there's no natural flow.
Don't make it hard on your heart, you might be better off alone,
If it don't come easy, you better let it go, yeah.

I know a woman, she's got a heart of gold.
You know she'd do anything to make her man feel right at home.
But the man she loves, now, he's a restless kind of guy,
I wish there was a way I could make her realize.

That if it don't come easy, you better let it go.
''cause when it don't come easy, there's no natural flow.
Don't make it hard on your heart, when you might be better off alone,
If it don't come easy, you better let it go, yeah.

Let it go, though it's hard I know;
Let it loose, I tell you, it's no use.

If it don't come easy, you better let it go.
'Cause when it don't come easy, there's no natural flow.
Don't make it hard on your heart, when you might be better off alone,
If it don't come easy, you better let it,

You better let it,
You better let it go.

If it don't come easy, you better let it go.
'Cause when it don't come easy, there's no natural flow.

Songwriters: Dave Gibson / Craig Karp


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Ev'rybody say "nothin' comes too easy...."

When you got it baby nothin' comes too hard



uh...........

yeah to counter that Tanya Tucker/Prince "baby I'm a star" stuff about "coming too easy", I heard Bishop Jakes say "what is love without a fight/struggle?" (something like that). Todd Smith weighed in with:

I can't sit and wait, for my princess to arrive
I gotta struggle and fight, to keep my dream alive


but that was more about "looking for prospects" and not seemingly dealing with what's right there in front of you.


So........

Is having "game" necessary to make the "meeting stage" go "easy" or the "meeting stage" will just go easy for two people when it's "right"? But is having game masking whether or not two people "really" belong together?


(To those who are inclined to JUMP....this is about EXPLORING a topic, not something I'm desperate for a solution/answer - I found the Tanya Tucker song "interesting" when contrasted with the Prince and Bishop Jakes statement/lyric and I was interested in EXPLORING.....not desperate for an "answer/solution")

Poll question: Tanya Tucker and Prince Rogers Nelson or Bishop Jakes: On point or......?

>Ev'rybody say "nothin' comes too easy...."
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>When you got it baby nothin' comes too hard
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>uh...........
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>yeah to counter that Tanya Tucker/Prince "baby I'm a star"
>stuff about "coming too easy", I heard Bishop Jakes say "what
>is love without a fight/struggle?" (something like that). Todd
>Smith weighed in with:
>
>I can't sit and wait, for my princess to arrive
>I gotta struggle and fight, to keep my dream alive
>
>
>but that was more about "looking for prospects" and not
>seemingly dealing with what's right there in front of you.
>
>
>So........
>
>Is having "game" necessary to make the "meeting stage" go
>"easy" or the "meeting stage" will just go easy for two people
>when it's "right"? But is having game masking whether or not
>two people "really" belong together?
>
>
>(To those who are inclined to JUMP....this is about EXPLORING
>a topic, not something I'm desperate for a solution/answer - I
>found the Tanya Tucker song "interesting" when contrasted with
>the Prince and Bishop Jakes statement/lyric and I was
>interested in EXPLORING.....not desperate for an
>"answer/solution")

there's no one answer to this. its timing, circumstances, and does the opportunity present itself.

its easy as hell if all those things line up. they have to line up for both parties though.

if they only align for one person, it'll be a struggle bus to continue. although it can still happen. however, not as likely.

for relationships to continue, there will be some struggle. hard to have a longer-term situation with no fighting/arguments/disagreements. how they're handled makes all the difference.

its when those disagreements become potential deal breakers or are handled wrong, that someone's feeling get hurt. relationship altering decisions might come out it. then it becomes do both parties want to stick it out or is this hill really a Mt. Everest issue.

is mainly about the initial "meeting stage" thing and the what follows after usually shouldn't be expected to be easy.


so....


all the stuff about "coming easy" that's is out there in the general consciousness is rather limited in actual dimensions.



So, is there any "struggle at the initial stage" leading to a "come easy" at the later stage? You seem to paint the "aligning only for one person-struggle bus"-as not to likely for success usually.

>is mainly about the initial "meeting stage" thing and the
>what follows after usually shouldn't be expected to be easy.
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it ebbs and flows. its not going to always be easy, but it shouldn't be a consistent struggle either. if there's too much struggle bus, its not worth it. that's way too draining.

even during the times where things aren't working well, a big factor is the want for both parties to be there for each other and work through it. if this breaks........struggle bus fa'sho.

>so....
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>all the stuff about "coming easy" that's is out there in the
>general consciousness is rather limited in actual dimensions.

in general, most of the relationship should be easy. however, its all relative to the circumstances surrounding the time. things change and can sometimes help/hurt the relationship. and people change also.

I went from believing in god to not believing. wife still believes. for some, that would be a deal breaker. for us, its just a blip. nothing else really changed about how we work together.
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>So, is there any "struggle at the initial stage" leading to a
>"come easy" at the later stage? You seem to paint the
>"aligning only for one person-struggle bus"-as not to likely
>for success usually.

this is possible, but this takes patience and willingness to trudge through this. however, since its early and struggly, it doesn't bode well for the future.

duly noted

but you should have more good times than bad and if you are miserable more than likely it’s not a good fit.

I’m reading a book or should I say referencing a book. It’s Christian based and has a good list of things husbands need to do in order to be the best they can be for their wives.

I peaked at it the other week and damn sure it made me slow down and just remember it’s not all about me. Even when I don’t want to do shit or think my wife is wrong I need to consider her feelings and her reasons and as long as it doesn’t put me in a shitty position... make that effort to get through the situation as smoothly as possible.

I used to get real upset when she asked me to do things that I felt were inconvenient or extra. She used to get upset when she had to as me to do things she thought were obvious.

Communication is key.