I haven't spoken to my folks in months...

I'm lucky to have folks still... Shimmy's are gone.. heck I still have a Grandparent... haven't talked to her in probably close to a year.

dang I'm crappy at this being a part of the whole family thing...

I like unhealthily small circles.... dots even..

rare and sporadic social activity.. not none.. but rare and sporadic.

I'll be sorry.

And call your fucking parents.

Their house is 10 minutes from mine.

Just called them earlier at lunch tho.

i spent all of my 20s and part of my 30s running away from them

now that I'm older and have a family I want nothing more than to be around them.

I love my folks and my love for them just keeps growing

but I don't.. every now and then I get a pang because it's not like that.

I'm wrong for this.

like, in the past three years I lost....

granddad and grandma on my dads side within 6 months of each other

an uncle and an aunt within a year of each other.


I'm looking at my parents like....shit, we all we got.


Like I said, I spent a long time running from them.

have lost people along the way but fortunately not in rapid fire like that. my condolences... it really is like folks say I just need to get over myself because it's really a stupid position to be in.. there's no real excuse... just makes me an ingrate.

Saw my pop this morning (he came by to give my son a ride to school). Going to go help my mom with her garden this weekend.

and my aunts and uncles are all at that age where a wave is about to come and take a lot of my aunts and uncles.

so this thread makes me a little sad.

I also think sometimes when there is an only child they are used to being alone so they have no problem isolating themselves.

within 10 mins eh? wow nice... mine they left town decades ago I gotta drive two days to my mom and about 5hrs driving and a ferry to get to my dad.

I was terrible when it came to calling my mom tho. Sometimes I would go weeks or even a month without a phone call. They are both gone now.

Get over yourself and call your parents.

get over myself.

I'm kind of the same way, in that I'm much closer with my dad, although he was the disciplinarian he's kind of a goofball, my mom is really quiet and reserved, her own siblings and mother have referred to her as taciturn.

I won't get into the step parents as that's a whole other ball of wax.. two balls of wax even.

sometimes I take for granted having parents...
hell. having family...friends

I limit my time with everyone. It’s been a long time since I truly enjoyed someone’s company...

>sometimes I take for granted having parents...
>hell. having family...friends

me

>
>I limit my time with everyone.

me

>It’s been a long time since I
>truly enjoyed someone’s company...

feels like me... but it was really only this morning when I drove her to work. but I totally get this with everyone else.. I have basically a best friend who is just an excellent and awesome person.. he lives out of town so I don't see him much and when he comes to visit he stays for the weekend or something... I love him but I swear I am done with having company way too quick, like before they arrive almost.

Some days it's zero activity and some days it's 60 texts

I should text with my mom more... she's not on FB but my Dad is and that makes for some interactions and running conversations...

I see families that are close, keep in touch, do things together etc.. I'm an only child though and my folks are recluses each in their own way so it's never been like that. the extended family on my moms side is more like that but I haven't been in the same city as any of them for probably 25 years or more.

like i didnt love her if i dont call her
then she came to my house and saw how busy iam
it works for use

I hate it when I feel like this and do this... fall down a negative hole of self deprecation.

I don't really want to be venting blah blah bullsh that is just a drag... but I feel the negativity inside just killing joy... must disengage myself from myself *sigh*.

are your parents still seen as parents or have you humanized them yet?

I think for me thats when I started to think about things differently

Once my mom started to say things like "that lady was SUCH a big bitch to me..." over glasses of wine, things started to really change for the better

I mean there is certainly specific stuff I might not know about them but they're old hippies and have always been kind of open that way.. at least since I hit about 15.. but like I say my mom is quiet and my dad who lives in a log home on four acres in the sticks avoids the public as much as possible.. so I come by antisocial traits naturally/honestly I suppose.

i think i talked to my father maybe ...maybe once in the past 2 years
my mother i check on sporadically

no beef/issue... everybody just does them...i used to feel a type a way because other people have close relationships w/ their peeps but that just isn't our dynamic...never has been

i'm sure there will be plenty of time for them to annoy me in the years to come as they age

I gave my mom a weak hug when I left to go out one night, she was like nah GIVE ME A REAL HUG

I joked that I would see her again in the morning. She said, you never know, just give me a REAL hug.

That was the last hug I got. 2 days later she was gone in a car accident.

just reminding people to take a lil time to holla at the elders.

I'm terrible when it comes to aunts and uncles.

I took an hour to call all of them one day and the love was real. They were so surprised but also happy as hell to hear from me.