or whomever you wanted to date/hook up with?

if so, how'd you get over it? recently divorced dude at the job is reading romance novels and taking trips to Bucharest to relationship camps. seems extreme to me, but what do I know.

when I was younger. I would talk myself out of approaching a girl at school or on the train. folks thought I was shy or arrogant. nah, I was reserved and observant. which meant I had time to rack my brain with failure scenarios of why she wouldn't like me.

basically, I found a way to take action rather than thinking too much. just do it. realized this shit's easy. do it by feel. she'll respond accordingly.

Bucharest guy definitely overthinks stuff. when he tells me about his new skills, I'm like cool, but its really about being assertive and getting the right vibe. if the vibe aint right, don't pull your dick out.