And (before ya'll start) women are assholes too. There's no adult that's lived life perfectly, we've all done fucked up things. There's levels to the shit though, and I think a basic one is expecting that items sent in private btw two consenting parties are not willingly shared with outside parties unless all parties have consented. You know, a basic implied level of respect. If one party violates that consent, most adults would concede that that shit reflects badly on the person who broke the implied contract, not the party that kept their end of the bargain.