to play in. do things you've not done before. go to new places. put yourself in unfamiliar situations.

if what you've been doing isn't poppin like you'd hoped, you gotta try things that might be uncomfortable. do more dates, not less.

and be easy. so he didn't look like the picture. does that mean he was fugly or just not the expectation? is there no chance of a 2nd chance? maybe he was nervous when he met you or was trying to get you to talk.