my suitor asked if I thought I was sexy and in true trinity fashion, I responded with, "you would need to define what you mean by it".

Am I wrong?

men just be throwing stuff out there...

How she interacts with me. Nothing else even comes close, not looks, big whatever(s), etc. Physical appearance is a distant second.

i kid....

basically...'physique-ly' attractive or they have an intimate energy about em

lol

don't shoot the messenger...

that you see in how a person carries herself. you know it when you see it, but its hard to describe.

a chick can be fine as shit, but not sexy at all. Rihanna = sexy. Selma Hayek = sexy. Halle Berry = not sexy. opinions will vary, but this is my take on those ladies.

lol

b/c even if you don't think you're sexy you might not want to admit that to a new lover. it's unsexy.

It would be hard to say yes without knowing how its define. Like. I could, but when you see me you think something different so I play it safe. The question itself isn't something tha should be asked because to each their own. The responses in this post are evident of that. Given my suitor's response, ("something that makes your heart skip a beat, makes your mouth open but you can't speak because it takes your breath away, makes you weak in the knees"), how do you response yes to that? It s a personal feeling.

Do *i* think I'm sexy? Yes.

Not the same as wanting him to tell me how I should dress or whatever. Clearly he thinks I'm sexy or sexy enough bc he's in a sexual relationship with me or he wants to be in one.

I would just do what I do and check for his response. And talk it out when needed.

a woman that dont take herself too serious will always be sexy to me.

lol

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

(because it's different for everybody)

-Humility
-Intellect
-Timing
-Wit
-Self-awareness/flawed
-Confidence
-Communication
-A deep understanding of self (this one plays into appearance and how a woman carries her self, she should KNOW what looks good on her, know when to up the ante on the physical look and when to tone it down, know how to flirt, know when to be a freak and when to represent you without being told to)
-Self love/working out
-And good curves (not too little, not too much, not cariacatured...meaning the proportions aren't supper wide)

The more of these things a woman possesses, the more I'm into her.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_asNhzXq72w

Usually if someone is calling you sexy they want to fukk.

i'd say something you encounter that suggests sex or attraction.

could be something you see or hear or smell or anything.

Do you give me dirty thoughts
Are you able to create excitement and intrigue

Your definition is worded better than the
official definition.

for ME?

-Confidence
-a good head on her shoulders (book smarts AND common sense )
-ambition/drive
-good sense of humor (the darker, the better. I LOVE sarcastic women)
-independence (not that Beyonce, shit. I mean the non-clingy type)


any combination of those? You got yourself a winner.

I think it's sexy as hell when a woman doesn't talk alot. When you have to wonder what they are thinking. Like I don't think I've seen Rhi Rhi say more than 10 words outside of a song.


Doesn't have to be sexist because I think the same is probably true for guys as well.



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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

There might be a lady you see once or twice very briefly and certain features will get stuck in your mind, you start to envision a number of scenarios...

I wouldn't allow him to hang up. The way he chewed his food mesmerizing me...

I can't even described why

>I think it's sexy as hell when a woman doesn't talk alot.
>When you have to wonder what they are thinking. Like I don't
>think I've seen Rhi Rhi say more than 10 words outside of a
>song.
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>Doesn't have to be sexist because I think the same is probably
>true for guys as well.
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>"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then
>they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
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>"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"

that's because she's a blank slate, that could go out the window as soon as she opens her mouth, lol

sexy comes from the inside

at least thats whats sexy to me

It's how you carry yourself

It's how you represent your attire meaning how comfortable you come across in whatever you have on. It could be a robe and house slippers but wear it with confidence.

It's you express your desires and wishes to the world.

It's not vain, distasteful, or misogynistic.

It's attractive mentally, spiritually, energy wise, aura wise, and/or physically. Alcohol skews the perception of all these by the way.

Skype helped eliminate the jitters I have. I decided on a simple black dress. His text this morning read, "it's going to be chilly be sure to bundle up". I reminded him where I'm from. I've already made up my mind to pretend like I'm on date in Paris..

Everything about this guy says yes.

Sexy as hell
he's steez intimates me
because i can't read him
but I can feel him
and I want more


ain't nobody praying for me though...

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10 am

I'll het right though. :)

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a great physique, great smile, and confidence makes a woman sexy to me. If you got one or two of those things.... well then u just one or two of them thangs.

The Trifecta makes sexy

the one least buried in her phone as a security blanket.

check it out next time.

she has that fking beauty with the dgaf swag. She sexy af. If i had to define it is swag and beauty together. Beyonce doesnt have that. Riri does. So does Meagan Good. Nia Long. Madonna had it back in the day. You know it when u see it.

Nice teeth. And a sexy booty
... "A Beautiful Struggle"
https://m.facebook.com/jamelabullock
Www.reverbnation.com/jamela

MELa
Musically.Entertaining.Lyrically.Alluring.

I didn't like him
nice guy but the attraction wasn't there
and now what I gotta do what I feared.
tell him...

I'm so close to rollin' slow
forever...

that's the problem with online dating. Expectations be mad high.

It sounded like you were into him too.

Damn, sometimes it just isn't there but why stop trying?

there were things our virtual conversation didn't capture. While you were in LA having the time of your life, I spent the weekend replaying if this is something I really want. I just need another break from it all...

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

I’m disappointed because I didn’t think cameras could be that deceiving or maybe it’s me. Plus he didn’t speak much. I’m ok with a comfortable silence but not while we’re getting to know each other.

"Get ready....for your blessing....."

saw a chick going up the steps. fine as shit. got her number. boys was dapping me up. I'm proud den a mugg!

then the lights came on. OMG, her face!!!! the dapping changed to jeering.

thought I would just get away by not calling her, but found out that she knew a girl at my high school.

shout out to Black Sheep.

what I want. shit...if I want it.

other than y’all there weren’t many I told about this
depending on who I talk to the responses are different
says a lot about how well they know me too..

one lady said I should think about dating younger. I’m totally against it!
another friend...I’m not really feeling her philosophies so I disregard everything she says. Like, how I should have asked him for gas $ for driving to meet him.

I told another, I’m a simple woman. Her response, “you’re the worst kind”
damn, lol
but I have a feeling she may be right...

my best friend back home “oh well. back to the drawing board”

ain’t nobody praying for me...

there are a million variables that come into play when trying to date someone.

I would only suggest 2 things.

1. not cutting off your options. younger might be an option. not like 20 yrs younger, but say maybe 5.

2. open up - no matter what your level of openess, it can still close off potential suitors. get out of your comfort zone.

both of these speak to the same thing. be about the new new if the old habits aren't getting the right results.

just treat it as a scrimmage. Especially the first date.

>2. open up - no matter what your level of openess, it can
>still close off potential suitors. get out of your comfort
>zone.
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to play in. do things you've not done before. go to new places. put yourself in unfamiliar situations.

if what you've been doing isn't poppin like you'd hoped, you gotta try things that might be uncomfortable. do more dates, not less.

and be easy. so he didn't look like the picture. does that mean he was fugly or just not the expectation? is there no chance of a 2nd chance? maybe he was nervous when he met you or was trying to get you to talk.

nothing wrong with being a square block except we think the round blocks are the one having all the fun

so we dye our hair blonde to look like that blonde round block

we bleach our beautiful natural dark woodgrain finish to look like the other popular round blocks

and the round blocks are taking all our square block shit and blowing that shit up for all the other round blocks

now i dont even remember what we were talking about anymore but i found this weekend that i really truly am a square block, and there was a feeling of sadness almost, like, this round block world is something that ive never wanted to be a part of, but its what everyone else wants, and there, in the middle of it all, all i felt was emptiness and sorrow. i was a foreigner. i didnt speak the language. that place would never be my home country, the food would never taste quite right. i yearned for the square hole. yearned! yearned mother fuckers!

anyway you dont find something to eat til after you get hungry so yearn mother fuckers

It’s just dating.. online dating at that.

You are putting too much pressure on yourself.

those shits are usually sky fucking high.

Dude might be shy as shit irl or maybe he was nervous as hell.. or maybe this is who he really is..

but I don't think you can get all that from 1 date.

I really wish you wouldn’t make things sound so easy. Like people just wake up tomorrow anew.

Its trial and error. nigga

You gotta keep at it.

I don’t know if it’s truly overthinking...

I was in the break room telling friends about this and listening to them made me so uncomfortable because my thoughts are different than theres.

People mistake me not speaking as lack of knowledge, when sometimes I just don’t wanna make you uncomfortable.

which can make for some interesting convo and some miscommunication

focus on this 1st--->> what I want. shit...if I want it.
just sit there and Focus (c) Jody

makes figuring out/finding the rest easier


can't be all out in the yard in gen pop looking for the inmates from the psych ward...

I hear you :-)