>Two people need to define love and family for themselves.

Where are you on love?

like. Many of these replies presupposes that marriage will fail. I believe we shouldn't go in thinking that. When you love someone those thoughts don't even cross your mind. I often wonder if I'm crazy or if it's others, lol. Because that feeling of love can't be described. Denying yourself, totally selfless...think about the relationship between a parent and child. Then imagine that kind of relationship with your mate. I was robbed of it once and It's been hard to forget it but, I will forever chase down being in love again.

I get there's a lot of illusions...
deflections

the problem is choice (c)