the fact that folks are so defensive about the group they belong to should be an obvious red flag

a big dose of get over ourselves is needed

just bc there are cultural negatives doesn't justify treating them as less than

the difference between noting those cultural negatives is being aware that culture isn't monolithic and that none of these things should be used to subjugate or oppress others

the answer to hateful bias isn't to stick your fingers in your ears and deflect