I don't think they are huge and never really did. It's the lack of communication combined with shifting dynamics that's uncomfortable, but if I trust her words and actions as she's stated I've made her feel that I don't then things may not be that bad

The trip is her money and on her after we had a talked about my feeling like there was a deficit in our spending on each other and she's showing that she's willing to pick up the slack. I can't ignore that and really when I see her -- should acknowledge my appreciation regardless of the outcome afterward.