You don't trust yourself in enforcing healthy boundaries? That's my problem. I have a hard time being involved with someone without going all out. I can't open some of those doors and leave others shut. It's like I'm all or nothing with people. It's the same thing with old addict friends of mine. I either shut them out completely....or they're sleeping on my couch and I'm paying for their expenses. I'm aware this personal trait is probably a product of my relationship with my mom in the first place.