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13128095, ** CONFESSION WEDNESDAY **
Posted by Geah, Wed Feb-22-17 08:19 AM
I am getting better at playing penny stocks. In a year I'll be where I want.
13128132, I'm an older woman with unconventional ways....
Posted by Trinity444, Wed Feb-22-17 10:22 AM
jazzyfat....

I know it was only the grace of God that I passed the exam. When the man handed me the slip of paper and I saw the the word PASS.. I dropped to my knees and cried my heart out. He told me to take all the time I needed. I never worked for anything so hard. and my grandchildren got to witness it all. Thank you Father...

I'm working on being a better listener. I was ease dropping on a conversation and it's crazy how things show up for people....how defensive we can be. Folks hate criticism.

I'm still not content with how he did me...




13128147, Wow. The dog post.
Posted by SoWhat, Wed Feb-22-17 10:45 AM
Let's not forget after ppl have shown us who they are.

Yikes.
13128178, i love roulette
Posted by BigJazz, Wed Feb-22-17 11:36 AM
i get a rush from gambling. shit feels good. i took $10 and built it up to $2500.

if you're also a gambler, you know this story doesn't end with me walking awah with $2500.

more time passes and the stack dwindles. it gets as low as $250.

but then it goes up again. i find myself back up around $2500.

my thing is...that stack is gonna rise and fall. quite a few times. but if i leave this town with $2500 or more, it's a win. but if i gamble the whole thing away and it's all gone, i won't see it as losing $2500+. i'll see it as losing $10.

and i've spent $10 on dumber shit...


***
I ain't lyin. This shit i'm making up is true...
13128228, walk away bruh....
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Feb-22-17 12:59 PM
I LOVE Roulette..

I was so hot one time I called off work. I couldn't leave. I prolly left with $900 but I bet (heh) I was up to $1500 all off $20

I was so hot I was giving my wife 100 dollar chips to leave me the fuck alone cause every time she came around I cooled off.

damn I wish I was hot like that all the time.



13128241, My homey lost $10k like that
Posted by flipnile, Wed Feb-22-17 01:15 PM
His thing was blackjack. He turned a few hunnid into a little shy of $10k at AC one day. Left, tried to catch the Greyhound back to Philly but just missed one. Went back into the casino... (you know the rest)

I was *pissed* at him for not calling me. I'd have talked his ear off until the next bus 60 minutes later.
13128333, He "missed" the bus huh? That's his story?
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Feb-22-17 02:41 PM
Those tables were calling him. Prolly had someone from the casino offer him a free room.

He was trying to flip 10k into a milli in 60 minutes.
13128394, Yeah, I asked him why didn't he go grab a meal or something
Posted by flipnile, Wed Feb-22-17 04:34 PM
I think the casino was calling him... he has that aggressive, risk-taking personality so I don't doubt it.
13128828, Gambling addicts are a trip
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 04:41 PM
When I drove cab I had a gambler I’d take to and from the casino and he had some wild stories about the high he’d get gambling.

He didn’t speak like he was addicted and wanted help or anything but I got the feeling this was the type that was going to wind up losing everything because he was hype when talking about the rush he felt when gambling.
13128363, You GOTTA GOTTA leave there with a cool profit.
Posted by normal35762, Wed Feb-22-17 03:37 PM
You got 2500. If you go back and and lose a stack WALK AWAY...it is downhill from there. If you catch another wave again and start going down keep some of that extra you made and walk away.

That was cool you caught a second wave that time. Most cats I know don't get a chance to catch that second wave.

If you really want to be a tight wad youu could factor in costs of you getting there lodding etc and make sure you don't go below what would be going home with a decent profit.

Maybe switch up casinos if possible.
13128366, Just leave... lol
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Feb-22-17 03:40 PM
Walk away with a great story and the money to prove it.

Nothing worse than a big fish story at the casino.

I swear tho, sometimes it's like you win so fast it's damn near impossible to leave with it.
13128435, or SPEND it
Posted by infin8, Wed Feb-22-17 07:02 PM
I took my ass to TJ MAXX and copped a Echo Unltd button up...some shorts from the gap and some Prestos...

then I gambled the rest back but at least I had SOMETHING to show for it. LOL
13131246, an echo button up? you gambled and lost
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 02:21 PM
13128264, That post made me extra clingy to my dog
Posted by Sepia., Wed Feb-22-17 01:47 PM
yesterday.

He might have to get a minor surgery himself soon (lipoma removal).
He's going on 9 years old and is basically healthy except for his weight.
But I know that he could face any number of health problems now, especially being pure bred.
I don't know how I'll deal with losing him when the time comes, but I know that we'll have to go with
humane euthanasia over lengthy treatments. He would be miserable having to go through that.
I guess I'd go with comforting him until that wasn't possible, then give him a great final day.
But man, it'll be so hard. He's legitimately my best friend.
13128334, I keep wondering why the mods let the low YouTube post ride
Posted by legsdiamond, Wed Feb-22-17 02:45 PM
I know dude is doing his thing but it's kinda spammy.

Maybe someone else is clicking them lanks but that joint is at 350 and 348 of those post are his.

Just sayin,
13128335, *blows the dust off this bitch*
Posted by Raina, Wed Feb-22-17 02:45 PM
nah, that's okay. I'll chill

I love a lot of y'all from a distance but a good majority of y'all are dirtballs and weirdos. Some both.
13128389, ...
Posted by SoWhat, Wed Feb-22-17 04:30 PM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o3sbXwkwNO0
13128981, awwww
Posted by Raina, Fri Feb-24-17 11:03 AM
I dunno if my nerves can handle it
lol


at the end of the day, though...
13129146, i hear you. lol
Posted by SoWhat, Fri Feb-24-17 03:55 PM
13128808, *raises hand*
Posted by janey, Thu Feb-23-17 04:14 PM
I'm one or the other, but you're sure cool in my eyes. xxoo

~ ~ ~
All meetings end in separation
All acquisition ends in dispersion
All life ends in death
- The Buddha

|\_/|
='_'=

Every hundred years, all new people
13128979, you know we're good lol
Posted by Raina, Fri Feb-24-17 11:03 AM
.
13128342, Can you elaborate on how you succeed with Penny Stocks?
Posted by Y2Flound, Wed Feb-22-17 03:02 PM
Everytime I try to read up on it I feel like I'm reading sponsored content or something trying to scam me.
13128810, That's because companies that specialize in penny stocks are generally scammers
Posted by janey, Thu Feb-23-17 04:15 PM
I would stay out of it. It's not for the novice investor.

~ ~ ~
All meetings end in separation
All acquisition ends in dispersion
All life ends in death
- The Buddha

|\_/|
='_'=

Every hundred years, all new people
13129011, They are
Posted by Geah, Fri Feb-24-17 12:05 PM
i agree...but its a method to their bullshit ass madness...and there are people out there on stocktwits that will actually help u out and give good info for free....
13129010, It's been ALL luck
Posted by Geah, Fri Feb-24-17 12:03 PM
i started out with OTC pennies and didn't do well at all

so i said fuck it and started doing strictly NYSE and Nasdaq stocks.. I aint in no rush to get rich or no shit like that i'm still learning.

fucking around on stocktwits, finviz and twitter just reading up on shit, charts, trends...

example

I bought 151 shares of BLPH at 66 cents on Feb 8. Cost me 100 bux
I sold it all on the 22nd at 1.65. so i made 150 on that...


I use Robinhood. No commission trading so that helps with fuck ups..and dont mind taking losses because i aint paying 6-10 bux just to execute a trade.....

learning to set stop losses and not to stay married to these damn stocks...

staying in em too long has always been my problem hoping they'll go up

Now i'll sell them muhfuckas even if i got a 2 or 3 dollar profit if they aint moving fast enough..

13128388, yep
Posted by wluv, Wed Feb-22-17 04:27 PM
-i want a woman so bad, that she will make me want to stop fking with these other chicks i fk with and settle down. Haven't found her yet.
-We had eeo training today at the job and i realize that i might have broken eeo law by not telling on someone who was telling racially insensitive jokes around another coworker a few weeks ago. Even though the coworker laughed it off, if he filed a complaint i could be liable for being a witness who did nothing. Its fked up, but im not paying for someone elses "crimes". If it happens around me again, im going to rat.
13128419, might be more about you, than any one woman.
Posted by isaaaa, Wed Feb-22-17 05:56 PM
>-i want a woman so bad, that she will make me want to stop
>fking with these other chicks i fk with and settle down.
>Haven't found her yet.


Anti-gentrification, cheap alcohol & trying to look pretty in our twilight posting years (c) Big Reg


Just trying to share the world - www.JySbr.net
13128422, RE: ** CONFESSION WEDNESDAY **
Posted by atruhead, Wed Feb-22-17 06:07 PM
I hit my breaking point with my job today. Im not quitting but it's definitely time for something else now

it's really easy to forget your blessings when things feel rough, so I have to snap out of this funk, take myself out to eat tomorrow and push through it all.

my wife's birthday is coming up, I've gone to great lengths to make sure it's special.

adult responsibility is a lot sometimes
13128431, My big brother was taken off life support today...
Posted by Creole, Wed Feb-22-17 06:49 PM
My dad has been a trooper through it all. He had to make the decision to do it. They kept the news from me until after I left this training class I'm attending in Cedar Rapids. Gotta head home to Lake Charles in a few days to meet my parents and my younger brothers.

And baby girl got accepted to Howard. She applied less than two weeks ago and got the acceptance already. She's excited by it. I'm hopeful that their excitement is displayed through that financial aid package.
13128437, sorry to hear that
Posted by infin8, Wed Feb-22-17 07:02 PM
sounds VERY difficult.

positive energy to you, fam.

13128448, Yeah. He's a few years older than me. Young cat...
Posted by Creole, Wed Feb-22-17 08:14 PM
in my eyes. Just turned 50 this past November.

Most importantly, thank you!

13128546, Damn... prayers yo!!!
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Feb-23-17 10:16 AM
13128485, My Brother, I am so sorry for your loss
Posted by Case_One, Thu Feb-23-17 07:22 AM
I can't know how you're feeling, but I empathize with you and I pray that God will provide your family with overflowing comfort and grace.
.
.

Wake up, Pray! Go to work, Pray! Go home, Pray! Love, Pray! Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!
13128541, peace and prayers, fam.
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Feb-23-17 10:05 AM
13128554, Wow. Sorry for your loss man.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 10:36 AM
13128612, hang in there man
Posted by makaveli, Thu Feb-23-17 11:43 AM
13128621, peace
Posted by Effa, Thu Feb-23-17 11:55 AM
13128712, peace to you and your fam
Posted by rdhull, Thu Feb-23-17 01:51 PM
>My dad has been a trooper through it all. He had to make the
>decision to do it. They kept the news from me until after I
>left this training class I'm attending in Cedar Rapids. Gotta
>head home to Lake Charles in a few days to meet my parents and
>my younger brothers.
>
>And baby girl got accepted to Howard. She applied less than
>two weeks ago and got the acceptance already. She's excited by
>it. I'm hopeful that their excitement is displayed through
>that financial aid package.
13128805, I'm so sorry
Posted by janey, Thu Feb-23-17 04:13 PM
I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you. Take good care. Sending love to you and your family.

~ ~ ~
All meetings end in separation
All acquisition ends in dispersion
All life ends in death
- The Buddha

|\_/|
='_'=

Every hundred years, all new people
13128836, Sorry for your loss Man.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Feb-23-17 05:15 PM

**********
"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13128838, I'm sorry and congratulations.
Posted by MikaDanteBrown, Thu Feb-23-17 05:20 PM
13128892, Sorry for your loss
Posted by wluv, Thu Feb-23-17 08:36 PM
13128908, To each and every one of you up ^^^^^^
Posted by Creole, Thu Feb-23-17 10:37 PM
I tremendously appreciate your sentiment. THANK YOU!

Brian Keith is 5 years older than I am. He turned 50 this past November. Heart decided it didn't wanna cooperate anymore. And his diabetes, which we just found out about, wasn't helping.

Either way it goes, my brother was a great guy who, truth be told, got on my nerves like everyone does from time to time. Gonna be wild to not be ble to call him and hear his laugh nor his words of wisdom. I'll take what he left me with and build on those things.

RIP, BIG REEZY!
13128438, I think we broke up
Posted by infin8, Wed Feb-22-17 07:03 PM
I just didn't move out

everything I'm doing is 'things-you-do-when-you-tryna-get-her-back' shit.

this gotta be the weirdest faker divorce shxt ever.

we both some punks.
13128590, someone has to not be a punk
Posted by teefiveten, Thu Feb-23-17 11:18 AM
you can't be in limbo forever
13128540, My wife wants to shoot guns for our anniversary
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Feb-23-17 10:02 AM
She's pregnant tho... prolly not a good idea but I think it's awesome she wants to do this. At first I was like "nigga what?" but then I thought bout it. Since we have a babysitter for the day why not do as much crazy shit as possible since we rarely do anything these days due to having a youngin'?

More than likely it's king to be a nice dinner and a movie. I love this woman and want to do something different but it can't be anything too physical since she has precious cargo.



13128551, entered some weird FWB situation with a platonic friend of
Posted by isaaaa, Thu Feb-23-17 10:31 AM
mines of 6+ years. Really odd, glad she's no longer in state.

Amazing person though, gorgeous inside and out.


Anti-gentrification, cheap alcohol & trying to look pretty in our twilight posting years (c) Big Reg


Just trying to share the world - www.JySbr.net
13128572, So my estranged mom “wants to talk”.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 11:01 AM
She’s staying with my sister so if I visit my sister at her house, my mom just shadows me the entire time.

We have no relationship at all because I cut her off. I’ve spoken on this here and there over the years, but by “cut her off” I mean “stopped being her personal ATM/Cab and stopped initiating interaction” and for years she can’t be bothered to call or visit just to call or visit… or visit her grandchildren, even after I moved to a place ten minutes away.

So I made peace with the fact that this is the way it is. In fact, it’s better this way. It’s not ideal but when finally get free of people who do nothing but suck the life and resources out of you, you see the difference. I stress less, I worry less, and I’m less inclined to ride to the rescue when she’s out of sight & mind.

Here’s the thing: they got evicted from their house. “their” house was *my* house that I rented and moved them in because they were homeless and I left because I was tired of cops showing up, doors getting ripped off hinges, windows getting broken, never paying their share of rent or bills while constantly asking for money.

So I’m there the other day and my mom says she wants to talk to me, that she needs me, that she needs “her babies” -meaning my kids- and that she wants to be a part of our lives.

Sounds sincere, right?

Maybe.

But then.... my sister let them move in in December and gave them a hard deadline of March 1st.

March 1st is five days away.

Let’s just say that given her complete absence in my life over the last decade outside times of need or my own efforts, the timing of this isn’t lost on me.

I’m probably going to hear her out but if that discussion turns into asking to move in I don’t think I’ll even give her the courtesy of telling her no. Frankly I think I’ll just get up and leave.

For those who think that’s harsh/cold/callous and I’m some sort of uncaring monster, I totally understand.

Just, you know, give me your address and I’ll send her your way.

Then she can sit on her ass drinking all day in your home, smoke around your children, rip all your doors off their hinges, break all your windows, put holes in your walls, spew all sorts of horrible and hurtful things and generate countless visits from the police while her husband nickle & dimes you on the rent every Friday and asks to “borrow a few bucks to get a few things” by Monday, those “few things” being alcohol and cigarettes for himself and my mom in order to fuel everything else I mentioned.

All I know is I’m not carrying that burden again and I’m damn sure not going to subject my wife and children to that chaos.
13128576, damn, CT. your people put you through it, man.
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Feb-23-17 11:06 AM
peace to you.
13128605, Yeah. Thanks. Fortunately my oldest sister is a rock star.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 11:35 AM
I have 8 siblings and outside of her there’s no way to have a relationship with the remaining 7 without dealing with all manner of stress, drama and/or usury.

I was fairly close with one brother but he went Full Trump last year and I had to bow out.

If it weren’t for the one sister I wouldn’t deal with any relatives at all.

13128607, what's the update on your younger brother?
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Feb-23-17 11:36 AM
he still living with yall?
13128631, He’s still there. He says “what’s up” when he comes homes.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 12:03 PM
He says “good morning” when we pass each other while we’re getting ready.

That’s it though.

My sister and her husband got in his ass over the bit with his girl thinking I’m all Judgment Day and asked how the hell she’d have that impression unless he fed it to her and he had the nerve to say my sister said it so that’s where he got it from.

Thankfully my brother in law checked him because my sister would never say that about me. So lil bro started to scramble for excuses and they didn’t let him off the hook. Good on them for checking him.

It is what it is. He’s at my sister’s all the time though and that will be the case while our mom and his pops are there. I get it, they’re his parents and he loves them and all but he’s blinded to the point he really doesn’t understand the difference between

“yo, I love them but these people have done nothing but bring pain into my life and don’t want shit to do with me unless they can put their hands in my pockets and those are the reasons I no longer pursue a relationship with them BUT that door is and always has been open if they decide to have a relationship with me without trying suck the life out of me in the process”

And

“yo fuck you maw yo paw yo first second and third born! I’m DOPE and they’re human trash! Plus I got that good cheese! Fuck yo fam cuz I’m better!”

As long as there’s no drama he can stay. It is what it is.
13128636, right on. you're a good dude, CT.
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Feb-23-17 12:09 PM
glad your bro in law and sis had your back.
13128814, Thanks. Appreciate it man.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 04:19 PM
Yeah that was a nice touch.

Just an FYI since I know I use OKP and CW to vent the horrid state of affairs with my blood relatives, I do have a close circle of friends who are my default “family” and that’s who I spend my time with, lean on, etc.

So it's not that I'm without familial support, it’s just not blood relatives and I don’t have reason to vent about them lol.
13128593, Hve you seen 'Moonlight'?
Posted by denny, Thu Feb-23-17 11:23 AM
I was emotionally triggered by that movie. It got me thinking about some things about my estranged mom and the possibility of reaching out to her again. I think that's all I want to add here. Was wondering if you've seen the movie and if it elicited a reaction from you.
13128599, Haven’t seen it. Thing is I always want to reach out
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 11:31 AM
I get the urge to reach out all the time. Sometimes it’s as simple as hearing a song. Hell that Madonna post the other day made me think of her because she was a huge Madonna fan when I was young.

I just know it’s going to be a one-way relationship and one that will absolutely drain me in terms of time, emotion and resources in a way that will quickly become unsustainable and the closer I get the more I have to deal with the fallout of things she absolutely refuses to address.
13128604, Is this a way of saying....
Posted by denny, Thu Feb-23-17 11:35 AM
You don't trust yourself in enforcing healthy boundaries? That's my problem. I have a hard time being involved with someone without going all out. I can't open some of those doors and leave others shut. It's like I'm all or nothing with people. It's the same thing with old addict friends of mine. I either shut them out completely....or they're sleeping on my couch and I'm paying for their expenses. I'm aware this personal trait is probably a product of my relationship with my mom in the first place.
13128619, Ugh. Are you really doing this again? No, I'm not saying that.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 11:51 AM
No, I’m not saying that at all.

I don’t have a problem setting boundaries.
The issue isn’t setting boundaries.

Did you read my first post?

The issue is that there’s no relationship when there are boundaries.

The “all or nothing” aspect comes from them, not me.

When I’m willing to give my money, time, car, home, etc they’re blowing up my phone and want to see and talk to me all the time.

When I’m not, they have no use for me and thus no reason to speak to me.

I’m not talking about asking for an occasional loan, I’m talking a constant stream of take take take. If boundaries are enforced it’s radio silence.

I’m not just talking about giving of time and resources. I’m also talking about having to deal with consistent fits of violence. When I say “doors torn of hinges and broken windows and holes in walls’, that’s plural and literal and longstanding.

I’m also talking about always having to initiate interaction. It’s the very definition of a one way relationship.

Thing is, I covered all this in my first post.

Honest question though, because you do this in every interaction we have.

I say something and you say “do you mean….” And then present something that’s nowhere present in my phrasing. You seem to prefer to interpret my words and “read into” things I say instead of just taking them at face value and ou consistently lean toward the possible negative connotations in your assumptions/questions.

I’m not trying to start anything with you but this is a very consistent pattern and it’s pretty annoying.
13128638, I expliained my own traits in dealing with similar circumstances
Posted by denny, Thu Feb-23-17 12:12 PM
and asked if you related to them. I guess the answer is no.

13128650, is this a way of saying you don't trust yourself in enforcing
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 12:24 PM
healthy boundaries"

You didn’t explain your situation and ask if I related.

You asked if what I said was “really a way of saying” something else entirely, and then related that to your experience.

I wrote words that said one thing.

Your response was “do you REALLY MEAN this other thing that I do?”

You consistently look to interpret and read into things I say rather than take them at face value and every single time you do it with a negative connotation.

Every single time. And I’ve called you on it several times and every time you brush it off or ignore it completely.

Again: this isn’t the first or even the second time. This is a habit.
13128686, I'm sorry?
Posted by denny, Thu Feb-23-17 01:26 PM
Please show me another occasion for which you are referring cause I honestly don't know what you are talking about (which is also pretty common). And I didn't intend to 'negatively connote' anything either (please don't provide an explanation for this because I'm not interested)

I wish I could have a relationship with my mom without the drama. When 'I' say that....I mean I wish I could have certain experiences with her (grandkids, xmas, birthdays) while maintaining healthy boundaries so I don't ALSO have to deal with the drama she surrounds herself with. I haven't been able to do that. It sounds pretty similar to what you described imo. I'm sorry if I'm wrong about that and mischaracterized YOUR problems with your mom.
13128708, The teenage girl/Iphone post and the Orlando murderer post.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 01:47 PM
I addressed your bullshit in both of those posts at the time.

>cause I honestly don't know what you are talking about (which
>is also pretty common).

Clearly. Playing stupid seems to be part of the general MO with people who consistently need to twist the words of others to arrive at the nonsensical conclusions they decide on before the conversation begins.

>And I didn't intend to 'negatively
>connote' anything either (please don't provide an explanation
>for this because I'm not interested)

if I cared what you were "interested in" I'd indulge your persistent interest in reinterpreting words to fit your perceptions instead of calling you on it.

>I wish I could have a relationship with my mom without the
>drama. When 'I' say that....I mean I wish I could have
>certain experiences with her (grandkids, xmas, birthdays)
>while maintaining healthy boundaries so I don't ALSO have to
>deal with the drama she surrounds herself with. I haven't
>been able to do that. It sounds pretty similar to what you
>described imo. I'm sorry if I'm wrong about that and
>mischaracterized YOUR problems with your mom.

Know what *I* don't care about, since we're playing that? Whatever you wrote here, because I stopped reading at the first sentence.

Anyhow I'll make it easy for you: The next time you’re about to say “do you REALLY mean” and/or decide on a conclusion that isn’t supporting by the words you’re replying to, stop and reread the words that were actually written and respond to them as written and without interpreting them based on your personal tendencies or bias.

Until you can do that without me having to hold your hand through this very simple process, do us both a favor and refrain from wasting my time and yours with your non sequiturs.
13128816, I wouldn't allow anyone to live with me that would bring chaos into my home
Posted by flipnile, Thu Feb-23-17 04:20 PM
I don't think it's harsh at all.
13128825, I hear you. To be fair, I've received that sort of criticism here before
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Feb-23-17 04:34 PM
My father left when I was two and while we spoke a couple times and exchanged a few letters, we’d never met and we only had that limited contact only lasted about two years.

After I had my daughter I decided I needed to deal with a few things and figuring out my daddy issues was at the top of the list. I tracked him down through his ex and got in contact with three siblings from him. I spoke to my dad a couple times and he wasted no time getting weird. He started asking for help with his social security case and that lead to him seemingly inching toward asking for money and snapping on me out of the blue. He’d completely lose his temper during conversations. At the same time I was talking to his daughter and she revealed that he’d been abusive and was all but banished from their lives.

Finally I was like… nah, I’m good. Don’t call me, I won’t call you and all that.

So I posted about it here in GD and one well known poster went all out, telling me I had no business tracking him down because he didn’t want me to begin with/left for a reason type of shit. Just real left field like I was in the wrong for tracking down a guy who abandoned me as a toddler.

Between that and the general sentiments people have regarding mothers and the whole “blood is thicker than water/you only get one mom/she gave you life/just let go of the past type reactions people tend to throw out, I made sure to add that disclaimer in case people had similar ideas on the subject of me not allowing my mom to live with me.
13131802, Some people have to be cut off completely. Even mothers and fathers.
Posted by Sarah_Bellum, Fri Mar-03-17 11:10 PM
It always sucks but there are times when it 100% nessesary, especially when there is addiction and/or abuse.
Don't let people make you feel bad for protecting yourself and your children from chaos and disfunction.
___________________________________________________________


DJTB YOMM
13128837, Can't judge you on how you handle your peoples. you know them not us.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Feb-23-17 05:19 PM

**********
"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13128855, 100% agree with you
Posted by RobOne4, Thu Feb-23-17 06:04 PM
i remember all the posts about your fam from long ago. You are finally free from all of that and in a good place. Why invite that shit back in?
13128620, RE: ** CONFESSION WEDNESDAY **
Posted by SP1200, Thu Feb-23-17 11:52 AM
A convo with friend picked me right on up.

Got in a funk over not much at all, but just needed to vent
apparently.

A blessing in slight disguise got me right back on track, right where
I left off pursuing and doing what I need to do.

When ppl show you who they really are believe them.

This wack individual has shown me for quite a few years, it was long
overdue to cut that off permanently.

Getting fed up with not getting my due. So still working on that exit
strategy. People here are generally just clueless.

Time to look into some real estate.

Time to take it to the next level.

All my friends hate the MPC Live for different reasons. While it's
exactly what I've been waiting for lol.

I wanted new music to play this weekend and boy am I thankful for this
motherload I stumbled upon!!

Life is good.

13131790, RE: ** CONFESSION WEDNESDAY **
Posted by SP1200, Fri Mar-03-17 06:51 PM
Ever feel like u have a sexual soulmate? lol

Our relationship ended many years ago, but she is the standard I judge
all others by in that sense, ever since. Still wanna hit her up
sometimes but I haven't in years. But it'd really just be for that.

I couldn't tell if an important person in my scene was mad at me or
was avoiding me cause they thought I was mad at them. Turned out to
be the latter and once I spoke to them that apparently cleared the air
and everything was back to normal.

Then someone who pissed me off tried to smooth things over with me,
and I'm not a grudge holder and I think they realized they were
trippin. So all is well for now.

I got one place that I said I wanted to be one year ago when the event
came back around. What an adventure!

No major prospects rn and I'm ok with that. Focused.

I was under the impression that I wasn't that attracted to my ex. I
think I was wrong. We weren't a match for other reasons.

I need to make more $ asap. Making these SXSW plans...

In asking other ppl how their day was, I discovered I have it pretty
good. I rarely have a bad day and I purposely designed my life that
way.

Life is good!

13131809, Yep
Posted by KiloMcG, Sat Mar-04-17 12:14 AM
>Ever feel like u have a sexual soulmate?

13131057, So if Geah doesn't do CW it doesn't happen? That Ninja
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Mar-02-17 10:54 AM
bought lifetime Confession Wednesday rights?!?!?

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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13131060, I'm not sure but I think CW posts get deleted unless he makes it
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 11:02 AM
Didn't that happen at least one time in the last few months?
13131069, it has definitely happened
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Mar-02-17 11:10 AM
13131078, Yeah, I think Case_One made one and that jawn was gone, fast.
Posted by flipnile, Thu Mar-02-17 11:26 AM
13131157, Yup. I was told it's a Sacred Cow..
Posted by Case_One, Thu Mar-02-17 12:17 PM

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Wake up, Pray! Go to work, Pray! Go home, Pray! Love, Pray! Eat, Pray! Live, Pray!
13131075, Dude missed a good 3 Wednesday so far this year.
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 11:23 AM
Dude is slippin
13131149, i read your reply in the CW on Th post, Cyren.
Posted by KiloMcG, Thu Mar-02-17 12:15 PM
and while i completely get it, the last sentence is the perplexing one.

if geah decides to ever hang it up that's it?

but why? can't someone else be designated (or not) and as long as there is only one CW post made a week, can't it still be moderated the same?

i understand the sanctity of the post, and the tradition of geah making it, but to let a valuable (to many) part of this community just die because geah no longer authors the post seems silly, to me.
13131153, they locked it AND scrubbed the confessions. LMAO
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 12:16 PM
13131155, ^^^^THIS
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 12:16 PM
>i understand the sanctity of the post, and the tradition of
>geah making it, but to let a valuable (to many) part of this
>community just die because geah no longer authors the post
>seems silly, to me.

It just doesn't make sense.

Just give it to someone else and grant that person mod powers for the one post (if that's possible) or whatever and let it ride.
13131203, you say that like we haven't tried that...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 12:55 PM
..yet, we have.

and it failed. not because its impossible, but because people aren't always respectful/responsible adults.

if you're gonna be upset about it, take your peers to task.


*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131206, Upset? I'm having a discusson with you on the subject.
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 12:59 PM
>..yet, we have.
>
>and it failed. not because its impossible, but because people
>aren't always respectful/responsible adults.

Give a designated second person mod powers over that one post and let them keep folks in line. Give them a CW badge or whatever.

>if you're gonna be upset about it, take your peers to task.

In case you haven't noticed I've actually done that plenty. At any rate I'm simply having a conversation with you and posing ideas. I can't possibly know every idea you've ever tried so no, I didn't say it as though you haven't tried it.

Frankly you're coming across more contentious and upset over the discussion than I am.
13131222, allow me to rephrase...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 01:40 PM
>>..yet, we have.
>>
>>and it failed. not because its impossible, but because
>people
>>aren't always respectful/responsible adults.
>
>Give a designated second person mod powers over that one post
>and let them keep folks in line. Give them a CW badge or
>whatever.

again, we've tried that already. *there is no CW badge.

>>if you're gonna be upset about it, take your peers to task.
>
>In case you haven't noticed I've actually done that plenty. At
>any rate I'm simply having a conversation with you and posing
>ideas. I can't possibly know every idea you've ever tried so
>no, I didn't say it as though you haven't tried it.
>
>Frankly you're coming across more contentious and upset over
>the discussion than I am.

perhaps i should've said:

if you have a problem with this, take it up with your peers. that's not to suggest that you haven't been outspoken. however, that doesn't change the fact that some people are barely respectful of CW as it stands. the issue isn't admin/mods vs community, its community vs trolls. unfortunately, the community continues to feed the trolls.

*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131159, CY's explanation made zero sense.
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Mar-02-17 12:17 PM
Mainly for two reasons:

1. Didn't explain why Geah is the key to CW. Like if he doesn't do it then the individual post goes to shit?

2. If the idea that CW is just too much trouble because it isn't a safe space anymore and it's going to be done away with once Geah stops making the post, then well that seems kind of arbitrary. If a person starts making a Confession Thursday post will they lock that post? Will they lock every post where people want to confess? Will they lock every post that isn't a safe space?

I am usually not a Mod hater but it seems dickheadish to not want to give people a space to talk about stuff they obviously want to talk about.

Stay Classy OKP Mods.


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"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13131179, yall gotta come up with a synonym. Admission Post
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 12:28 PM
Post your Avowals

something.

it doesn't have to be the exact same thing but we should be able to have a post where people get to rap like confessions...
13131184, Talk It Out Tuesday
Posted by Marbles, Thu Mar-02-17 12:34 PM
Spill Your Guts Wednesday

Snitch on Yourself Monday

Therapy Thursday

NOTE: If any of these are used, I want Geah privileges. Nobody can start the post except me!
13131190, I like Snitch on ya self Thursdays
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 12:38 PM
13131182, allow me to expound...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 12:32 PM
..while some of you might not recall (or realize), we've actually tried those suggestions before (with horrible results).

people didn't respect the tradition at all (everything from people racing to be the 1st to post it each week, to people starting multiple threads each week, etc). when we tried to purge the bs, it just created more complaints.

to be quite honest, there was a time when the shenanigans almost forced us to dead CW altogether (esp the bs trolling and its eventual fallout). every week, someone posts something personal, only to have someone ELSE either show up with a disrespectful reply or use that same info to troll the author of said post at some later date.

*edit: as it stands, i am the ONLY other person holding down that thread on a weekly basis, maintaining the tradition while purging the bs. that purging was a compromise (instead of deleting CW altogether).





*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131186, So why not just allow an alternate?
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 12:35 PM
You still haven't explained why geah is the ONLY person who can make the post without reality itself coming apart at the seams.
13131197, there can only be one © highlander...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 12:46 PM
..i understand your affinity to the post, but even you have to admit that your own actions contributed to its current circumstances.

the bottom line: too much bs.

that thread is still honored because of geah. as long as he wants to post it, it will be honored (within reason). once he's done, its done.


*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131198, So if one of us started "Affirmation Friday" would that be shut down too?
Posted by flipnile, Thu Mar-02-17 12:49 PM
13131199, yes.
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 12:50 PM



*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131249, So the idea is you will shut down confessional post, because
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Mar-02-17 02:23 PM
people might be mean to the confessors?

That seems rather we must destroy the village, in order to save the village.

I thought we were grown up enough to know that if you post something personal on an internet chat board, there are strangers who might not be thoughtful in their responses.


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>
>
>*skatin' the rings of saturn*
>
>
>..and miles to go before i sleep...


**********
"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13131252, gotta burn down the forest to protect the forest
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 02:26 PM
13131259, talk to the village...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 02:37 PM
>people might be mean to the confessors?
>
>That seems rather we must destroy the village, in order to
>save the village.
>
>I thought we were grown up enough to know that if you post
>something personal on an internet chat board, there are
>strangers who might not be thoughtful in their responses.

i thought so as well, until i found myself constantly asking people to refrain from posting sensitive material (in response to people complaining about the trolling), while simultaneously purging bs from CW and putting people on time out.

you can't win © mj




>>*skatin' the rings of saturn*
>>
>>
>>..and miles to go before i sleep...
>
>
>**********
>"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then
>they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson
>
>"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"


*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131208, Wait what?
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 01:02 PM
>..i understand your affinity to the post, but even you have
>to admit that your own actions contributed to its current
>circumstances.

What did I do to CW? Genuine question. Frankly I've been one of the louder voices in recent memory lamenting the need to continue the sanctuary status of the post.

13131244, lol. i think i posted one once. on a thursday. alternate title. jawn was up all
Posted by Riot, Thu Mar-02-17 02:18 PM
up all day with no drama


but apparently one mod logged in later on that evening/night and zapped it



now i see it was because THE SANCTITY of Confession Wednesday had been BESMIRCHED!!!!11




lol
shtt is like the scene in indiana jones when the 500 year old knight is still protecting the holy grail
or the soldiers that get lost in vietnam and dont realize the war ended 20 yrs ago

the world moved on bro. yall missing the memo
13131251, protecting CW like: http://i.imgur.com/dNQoZes.gif
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 02:25 PM
http://i.imgur.com/dNQoZes.gif
13131248, yall bamming up the only confession wed we got... smh
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 02:22 PM
13131254, Actually there's a perfectly reasonable and respectful discussion
Posted by Cold Truth, Thu Mar-02-17 02:28 PM
taking place.

But we both know you can't tell the difference between a civil, disagreeable conversation and confrontation.

13131257, My question is who are they protecting? Only the assholes and the
Posted by Buddy_Gilapagos, Thu Mar-02-17 02:36 PM
thick skin are left.


**********
"Everyone has a plan until you punch them in the face. Then they don't have a plan anymore." (c) Mike Tyson

"what's a leader if he isn't reluctant"
13131267, nah, there are a few who lose it from time to time
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 02:55 PM
but I still don't understand why no one else can make the post if Geah forgets
13131276, lol
Posted by ambient1, Thu Mar-02-17 03:17 PM
13131262, Can we bring back Therapy Thursdays or Five Things Friday?
Posted by Sepia., Thu Mar-02-17 02:43 PM
I'd change Five Things to Few Things Friday, and it's basically just laying out whatever you want.

13131265, the five (© fishgrease) is still in progress...
Posted by CyrenYoung, Thu Mar-02-17 02:49 PM
..unfortunately, since people don't always want to be responsible adults, therapy thurs is a no-go.


*skatin' the rings of saturn*


..and miles to go before i sleep...
13131268, I love that were only having Geah do it. Thats cool actually
Posted by rdhull, Thu Mar-02-17 02:56 PM
gives more levity to him etc
13131272, OKP's out here bursting with confessions tho...
Posted by legsdiamond, Thu Mar-02-17 03:05 PM
that ain't cool to forget and have folk outside the church like:

https://youtu.be/WFDxWtARmsU?t=10s

13131386, lol..but this thread will remain until the return of GEAH, the king
Posted by rdhull, Thu Mar-02-17 05:56 PM
>that ain't cool to forget and have folk outside the church
>like:
>
>https://youtu.be/WFDxWtARmsU?t=10s
>
>