Everything else to get in life is earned then celebrated (graduations, promotions, even a first date). People get caught up in the act and the pageantry of the event. All I can do is reflect on where I went wrong, and I know that I married my future ex wife because she made my life better and she married me because she settled and I was a good guy.

She wasn't attracted to me or thought that I was an upgrade to her life so when the hard times arrived I was an option to her, but she was a life partner to me. Once you become an option it is hard to stay with someone. In the beginning everything is a positive possibility but when reality strikes it exposes a lot.