What would cause someone to not suspend consent once already starting an act?

Shame? Backlash? Self preservation against a worse violence?

The fact that people frame their own consent as something they 100% always in control of is the problem.

A woman should be able to say "no. Wait stop" and that be the end of it. There isn't much debate to that notion.

We gotta flip the script. By the base definition of "rape" people say Nate didn't rape that woman. But he definitely conspired to manipulate her into "consent" by being like she was with it, and if not then how could he know when they were all drunk? THIS is the shit that needs to change with us dudes and our dudeness.